fetish and role play
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But recently find other's do not think the same. What's your opinion?
FurryFury
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Fetish:
An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.
An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality.
Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.
Role-play:
To assume or represent in a drama; act out: “Participants are encouraged to pass on leads about jobs... and to role-play interview situations with each other” (Hatfield MA Valley Advocate).
v. intr.
To assume or act out a particular role: “When I hire people I role-play with them... to see how they take pressure” (Peter Schrag).
They can dovetail nicely together IMO or they could be separate. I like 'em together! Ah hell I like 'em anyway I can get them!
Fury
An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.
An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality.
Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.
Role-play:
To assume or represent in a drama; act out: “Participants are encouraged to pass on leads about jobs... and to role-play interview situations with each other” (Hatfield MA Valley Advocate).
v. intr.
To assume or act out a particular role: “When I hire people I role-play with them... to see how they take pressure” (Peter Schrag).
They can dovetail nicely together IMO or they could be separate. I like 'em together! Ah hell I like 'em anyway I can get them!
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Evil_Geoff
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Hi Charley,
Please understand that I am NOT answering this question as a trained psychologist or psychiatrist. I am sharing _MY_ understanding of terms from my readings on the subject and my observations after being involved in this lifestyle for several years. So while I believe I am sharing correct information, but there is, as always, the slight possibility that I am in error... *evil grin*
In terms related to our lifestyle, a "fetish" is an obsession that creates an association, and corresponding need, for the presence of the "fetish" to achieve sexual arousal or climax.
For example, someone with a shoe fetish is sexually aroused by shoes. They don't necessarily have to be worn by their partner, or even on another human being. In extreme cases just having the shoe is quite enough for the person with the shoe fetish to become aroused and/or cum.
Activities CAN become fetishes, but as Xelebes pointed out, the correct psychological term is paraphilia. For example, someone could have a spanking fetish. Their obsession with spanking has risen to the point that unless they are spanked (or spank their partner or at least have someone being spanked near them) they are not aroused sexually, or cannot have an orgasm.
What seperates the fetish (or paraphilia) from the SM role is the need for the fetish object or SM play for sexual satisfaction. If you HAVE to have that leather on, or if your partner HAS to have those high-heels shoes, or if you HAVE to have your cock tied up, or if your partner HAS to beat your ass for you to get your rocks off, your obsession has risen to the point of being a fetish.
If you and your partner can hop in the sack and have wild monkey sex without the whatever-else-it-is, it's not a fetish or paraphilia, at least in clinical terms.
Hope that helps!
Please understand that I am NOT answering this question as a trained psychologist or psychiatrist. I am sharing _MY_ understanding of terms from my readings on the subject and my observations after being involved in this lifestyle for several years. So while I believe I am sharing correct information, but there is, as always, the slight possibility that I am in error... *evil grin*
In terms related to our lifestyle, a "fetish" is an obsession that creates an association, and corresponding need, for the presence of the "fetish" to achieve sexual arousal or climax.
For example, someone with a shoe fetish is sexually aroused by shoes. They don't necessarily have to be worn by their partner, or even on another human being. In extreme cases just having the shoe is quite enough for the person with the shoe fetish to become aroused and/or cum.
Activities CAN become fetishes, but as Xelebes pointed out, the correct psychological term is paraphilia. For example, someone could have a spanking fetish. Their obsession with spanking has risen to the point that unless they are spanked (or spank their partner or at least have someone being spanked near them) they are not aroused sexually, or cannot have an orgasm.
What seperates the fetish (or paraphilia) from the SM role is the need for the fetish object or SM play for sexual satisfaction. If you HAVE to have that leather on, or if your partner HAS to have those high-heels shoes, or if you HAVE to have your cock tied up, or if your partner HAS to beat your ass for you to get your rocks off, your obsession has risen to the point of being a fetish.
If you and your partner can hop in the sack and have wild monkey sex without the whatever-else-it-is, it's not a fetish or paraphilia, at least in clinical terms.
Hope that helps!
There's a big difference between the medical definition of "fetish" (more properly paraphilia, as Evil_Geoff notes) and the popular notion of dressing up in lots of leather, latex, and other exotic outfits.
All these things can be incorporated into S-M play, of course.
All these things can be incorporated into S-M play, of course.
