Feminine guys, masculine girls

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Honestly this is one of the things I don't like and make me feel somewhat uncomfortable.
It doesn't offend me, and I can understand that there are people whose characters make them seem more feminine or masculine,
but I can't imagine myself with those kind of men/women.
I prefer men to be somewhat masculine(not too gay acting that is)
and women to be feminine(with all that sexiness you got ).

As far as having them as friends, i don't think i'd mind, cause most of the times, I judge a person from his character, not how he looks like in society.
Just to be totally honest, sometimes I judge from appearance only..and I feel bad about that, but there's not anything I can do..It just comes out in a devilish way

How many of you are totally ok with having feminine boyfriends or masculine girlfriends?Or even in a friendly base.

 

[-phreak]

feminine boys as sexy, as are feminine girls

 

[zartol]

Do you mean women like this? If that's their thing... cool. For me it all depends on where the mind is... for both men and women. Looks are windowdressing. Okay, looks stand for something (yes, I'm shallow and plastic)... but in the end... not much.

 

[Samuelx]

When I was still struggling with my identity crisis as a bisexual male, I had a fling with a "masculine" girl. She was my brother's auto-mechanic. She was buff. 5'11. 210 pounds. Nice body. Cute face. Sexy butt. Hmm. One of the best sexual experiences I ever had. No, she wasn't masculine or controlling in bed. Actually, she just "let go" and let me have my fun. I still get "happy" when I think of her. She's married to a college professor at the moment.

 

[bisexplicit]

For visual preferences, I tend to like feminine looking women. *shrugs*

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

When I started the topic I meant more like masculine in behaviour, but now you've reminded me of something more I don't really feel turned on by.Bodybuilder-women.I feel like they ruin the beauty of the female body..but that's just my point of view, of course..
I like masculine men(who are straight-acting), but feminine guys who scream like little girls or get excited over a lip-gloss just aren't my thing.
Likewise I like the cute feminine women, that make you feel like the "king" in a relationship, but feel turned off by women who have the manners of a bodyguard and are kinda buff.I feel inferior..in a way..

Of course in the end it's about character, but the first impression is the looks.

P.S:I can understand that in a way, feminine boys are cute, but if I wanted cuteness I'd choose a girl, if I wanted that secure feeling you feel in a guy's chest I'd choose a guy, not a masculine girl.

Of course that's only cause I'm bi.I totally accept and understand those persons, but they are a turn off for me..

 

[Wolfman1982]

Do you mean women like this? If that's their thing... cool. For me it all depends on where the mind is... for both men and women. Looks are windowdressing. Okay, looks stand for something (yes, I'm shallow and plastic)... but in the end... not much.

Sorry for saying this those women reminds me off bad photoshop pictures, even though i know they are really just very muscular, and they have maybe taken male hormons, so i must say this, maybe they are the sweetest women ever . But Damn those muscles should be on me, and not them. So i admit , they are quite a turnoff, but heck they could be the best and lovely women so i am biased on those pictures.

 

[zartol]

Caveat #1: I am not a bodybuilder...

& caveat #2 : the photos were ment as humor (I guess mine is a little dry) the sentiment, real.

I believe in the 80's and early 90's for the IFBB (International Federation of Bodybuilding) competitions, it was expected and promoted that the women athletes try to be as large and thick as the men. The more beef you packed the better. So, yes, many resorted to anabolic steroids (male hormones, I don't know). The pics here are from the mid 90's and are supposably women from the old Eastern Bloc. The IFBB has since realized, albeit slowly, that such women were a turn off to a majority of both men and women competitors as well as the public. Not many women would attemp this transformation just to win a title and some emdorsement contract. This spawned the whole "fitness" athlete competitions that are now the most porular events of the IFBB. These 'fitness' athletes actually look like healthy women. The IFBB has since started calling itself the International Federation of Bodybuilding & Fitness.

Sorry for the interuption.

Now back to your regularly schedualed thread....

 

[amBIguous]

Its all in your mind.

I think that this question boils down to is "what turns you on?" One of the most confusing things I've ever experienced is the time (oh so long ago) when I tried to figure out what I preferred sexually. Men? Women? Tran? Gender Neutral?

We hear talk every day about how each major sexuality group exhibits certain traits. Gay men are feminine. Lesbians are butch. Hetero men are masculine. etc... And we each can only be attracted to one type. I've also been known to use the line..."I'm attracted to the mind/personality, not the body."

I think that what it boils down to is that you really can't define or determine what turns you on. It is such a complex mixture of chemicals, environment and personality that you can't say definitively what will excite you. I am a firm believer in just following your feelings and not worrying about what you are "supposed" to do/feel/think.

 

[Etoile]

Bodybuilders (male or female) don't do a thing for me. I know there must be people who like them but I'm not one of them.

That said, I absolutely prefer women who look masculine and men who look feminine. I'm all about the androgyny. Yes, my wife is femme, and she is absolutely beautiful...but the women who really turn my head on the street are the butch ones. For men, I prefer those who look androgynous and feminine.

 

[Nabokov]

Do you mean women like this? If that's their thing... cool. For me it all depends on where the mind is... for both men and women. Looks are windowdressing. Okay, looks stand for something (yes, I'm shallow and plastic)... but in the end... not much.

I do not know, but that first one from Zartol's post does something for me

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

No, I didn't mean it like that.Even among my friends I don't have guys who are feminine(well only one),of course I didn't do it on purpose, but it always seems uncomfortable to me to be with a craaaaaaazy,looney,lovely,cutesy feminine guy.But maybe it's because almost every feminine guy I've met is kinda dumb.Of course this is just my bad luck..
Again with masculine girls, of course they maybe lovely as persons, but I find it kinda weird that they are so Manly..

Caveat #1: I am not a bodybuilder...

I don't know how, but I kinda figured that you weren't a bodybuilder..
I think Bodybuilder-girls seem more straight than more girls do.it's kinda funny..For my small brain anyways

& caveat #2 : the photos were ment as humor (I guess mine is a little dry) the sentiment, real.

Really? lol!Your comment seemed to fit in so well..

Btw, add on to the thread-question:
"Does shy mean feminine for you?"
(cause I'm kinda shy and want to know your opinion )

 

[KharisLeaf82]

This is I guess where the "Straight" in "Bisexual Straight" comes in. I like masculine men and feminine women. Sometimes I like a more sporty woman or a softer more, "Metro" guy... but there's a limit for me. I guess I still want to see a hint of the soft little girl, or the bad boy under the denim and cut hair or soft colors and features. I guess because the bi-friend and I are split, I guess I want something a little harder again.

Female Bodybuilders are still kinda hot, and the thought of Chyna's huge clit DOES make me super wet, though.

*Kharis*

 

[symbolicflame]

Hi all, my first post here. I am not a femme in any sense of the word. Even though I have worn a dress a couple of times and felt like I should be in a freak show. It is just me. I don't want to me a man, but I know I am not a feminine woman, I am just me. I do wear men's jeans and shorts more often than not, but I do have some women's business suits for meetings and such. And if I have to I will wear make up. (I just have to dust it off....lol ) I don't think I am guy and not try to be one, except if I am role playing if the little woman wants to get to kinky (play on words). I am comfortable in who I am, finally after 30 some years.

 

[-phreak]

Bodybuilders (male or female) don't do a thing for me. I know there must be people who like them but I'm not one of them.

That said, I absolutely prefer women who look masculine and men who look feminine. I'm all about the androgyny. Yes, my wife is femme, and she is absolutely beautiful...but the women who really turn my head on the street are the butch ones. For men, I prefer those who look androgynous and feminine.

exactly.

 

[Samuelx]

All kinds of people in this world.

 

[Netzach]

Bodybuilders (male or female) don't do a thing for me. I know there must be people who like them but I'm not one of them.

That said, I absolutely prefer women who look masculine and men who look feminine. I'm all about the androgyny. Yes, my wife is femme, and she is absolutely beautiful...but the women who really turn my head on the street are the butch ones. For men, I prefer those who look androgynous and feminine.

I have a strange fear-turnon with female bodybuilders only. Especially the enlarged-clit thing, that piques my curiosity in a big way. Total objectification, total fetishism.

I prefer femininity in men AND women, overall, for sex and for aesthetics. My husband is a full body waxed, prissy, vain metrosexual who smells better than I do and I like it that way.

I am attracted to butch/masculine in a few people, but only when there's some underlying feminine gestalt, that kind of Jean Genet bisexual fluid masculinity is sexy to me.

 

[Mary Hall]

I luv feminine looking guys, all cutesy with fringes

 

[zartol]

-phreak... like your AV... is that a Wendy-O thing you got going on there?

She was a hard woman.

 

[revolution724]

My ex was on the femme side of the girl spectrum... granola femme, you might say. I suppose I'm more into femmes. Not high femme, high maintenance... I lack the patience, mostly.

I'm not all that turned on by masculine women as a general rule, but there've been a few who have turned my head. I guess what I like in masculine women is women who don't look and act like teenaged boys just trying out their masculinity and thus too wrapped up in swaggering machismo, but who have some flair to their butchness. One of the women who's made the biggest impression on my memory wore a 3-piece suit and looked like a pre-Ziggy David Bowie. Whoo. Excuse me, I think I need to be alone for a minute here.

And, you know, the penis thing is sort of a deal-breaker for me, but in a clothed sort of context, I'm pretty attracted to feminine men, too. Makeup on men is way cool, IMHO, for example. I don't know whether it's more attraction or more envy, though... I would love to have been a feminine man in this life, but it's not worked out that way.

Certainly my friends tend to fall towards the middle of the gender spectrum, too. My best friend, in fact, is a straight guy with a strong feminine energy and a tendency to dress in drag.

Hmm... so for me, the question as originally posed falls more into "would you date a butch woman?"... and the answer is, anything's possible, but then, while not really alpha per se, I have a pretty strong ego, and an andro sort of personality, and it'd take a special butch to be a.) possessed with the right sort of panache and b.) able to work out the dominance/alpha dynamic in an acceptable sort of way. I tend to work better with femmes, but I wouldn't close the door. I agree, too, with Etoile, on the general appeal of androgyny. It's just... rowr.

But, you know, we're attracted to whom we find attractive. It's okay to have certain types, whether that's to do with gender identity or hair color or whatever, that turn us on more than others. But I do think it's good to keep an open mind to the possibilities - there's so much more to a person than the clothes they wear or the mannerisms they use!

 

[PaganDyke]

Feminine & Masculine

There seem to be two main points of view on this thread, or at least two camps. The more refreshing one to me is the users who understand the difference between sharing your own personal preferences as opposed to thinking you have the right to dictate how other men and women (women in particular) should express themselves. Or that they should identify in a way that makes you less uncomfortable.

This would be a really boring planet if everybody was identical in personality and style of dress. Me personally, I'll take a hot butch anytime.

Peace, PaganDyke

 

[willingtotry]

I'm a good mix of both if I may be so bold. I am hyper sensitive, emotional, and love kids and spooning. But then again, you can find me in my garage under the hood of my car, jamming to some country and drinkin a beer after a hard day's work.

 

[symbolicflame]

Me personally, I'll take a hot butch anytime.

Raises hands and says : PICK ME OH PICK ME!!!!!!!

 

[RazorSplitClit]

Androgyny

Though I like androgyny, when it comes to girls I like them to be more feminine then myself. Of course there are exceptions, but that is my general preference.

 

[Harrowborg]

I think I border on Masculine and feminine. Being the shape and size I am, I tend to intimidate a lot of people, not through choice although sometimes it helps if I'm travelling home late and put on the appearance of someone that could flatten you. But I'm really open to my gf and I guess show my feminine side slightly, but only to her. She's definetly feminine, which is what I like. Masculine girls just don't do it for me. I guess its the aggresive, confrontational attitude that these girls adopt that really put me off.