fear I've lost her!

[stiffone71]

I have recently came out to my wife of 5 yrs married 7 yrs together, about 3 wks ago what happened was i was caught having online affairs with other men. Im not sorry i was caught but truly sorry i stepped out of our marriage bc i was afraid of talking to her about my bi side. Thought we were finding some kind of closeness and a common ground to my bi side. I have truly found unconditional love in her as she totally accepted me and my bi-ness. The hardest thing now is i know i betrayed her trust, faith, our friendship, the hardest things to forgive someone for. I feel she is starting to slowly pulling away and im so afraid im going to lose her. This is all my fault i caused all her pain now in completely ashamed, disguised with myself as a man, husband, father. For betraying her. I feel as though a waste of human flesh. had i came to her first before i looked online things would be very different today. i am becoming increasingly depressed and consumed with the thought of losing my best friend, my wife bc i was afraid. She is truly the only one that excepted me without any hesitation. True unconditional love!! Ive blown it! Im just worried, scared, feeling worthless and needed to get it off my chest.

 

[Missouribiguy]

And this is why I want to tell my girlfriend that I am bi-curious.

Sorry to hear what's going on, but what wasn't meant to be isn't meant to be.

 

[stiffone71]

I will say this in very glad i did tell her bc now i don't have to hide my true self anymore!! Im relieved no more being ashamed i have a new prospective on my life now. And i am coming to terms with the fact i gave my wife the power to decide my/our fate about our marriage, bc i had online affairs. I can respect that and i owned it. 33 yrs of hiding and feeling ashamed about this about myself no more!! Honesty brings relief.

 

[curiousus]

Told her

I will say this in very glad i did tell her bc now i don't have to hide my true self anymore!! Im relieved no more being ashamed i have a new prospective on my life now. And i am coming to terms with the fact i gave my wife the power to decide my/our fate about our marriage, bc i had online affairs. I can respect that and i owned it. 33 yrs of hiding and feeling ashamed about this about myself no more!! Honesty brings relief.

I "came out" to my wife in Jan. I too was fearful of her reaction. I'd thought about opening up to her for over 6 years before I did.
We were having some very hot foreplay. We were sitting cross legged facing each other, and stroking each other. She bent down and began sucking my very hard cock. I let her know how good it felt, then I seized the moment and told her I want to do that to another man. And in fact, would love to share a cock with her.
She did not react like I thought she would. She was not repulsed, but did worry I was "gay". I explained that I'm not, but I am definitely bi.
Once she understood that it is not as stepping tone for my evolving sexuality, she has lightened up.
She now acts out out my fantasies with her "playing" the guy feeding me cock.
I'm really hoping she will soon let a man join us.

Be true to yourself. You will get over any transition stange, and feel so much better about yourself for doing so.
Hang in there, oh, and BTW enjoy a good cum load soon.

Curiousus

 

[klippert]

This is the calm before the storm...Just remember, this Isn't about you. Do NOT make yourself the victim in any way. Make sure you're keep all lines of communication OPEN. Her emotions are all over the map.

She maybe be feeling lost as well and needs that voice in the woods. I hope for your marriage, she pulls through. And you live happily together.

 

[jimbotjones]

I have recently came out to my wife of 5 yrs married 7 yrs together, about 3 wks ago what happened was i was caught having online affairs with other men. Im not sorry i was caught but truly sorry i stepped out of our marriage bc i was afraid of talking to her about my bi side. Thought we were finding some kind of closeness and a common ground to my bi side. I have truly found unconditional love in her as she totally accepted me and my bi-ness. The hardest thing now is i know i betrayed her trust, faith, our friendship, the hardest things to forgive someone for. I feel she is starting to slowly pulling away and im so afraid im going to lose her. This is all my fault i caused all her pain now in completely ashamed, disguised with myself as a man, husband, father. For betraying her. I feel as though a waste of human flesh. had i came to her first before i looked online things would be very different today. i am becoming increasingly depressed and consumed with the thought of losing my best friend, my wife bc i was afraid. She is truly the only one that excepted me without any hesitation. True unconditional love!! Ive blown it! Im just worried, scared, feeling worthless and needed to get it off my chest.

Go get some couple's counseling.

Your bisexuality is not the issue, as you have said.

She may be able to forgive you if you show her how much you want her to be happy.