Fantasy First Dates

[jacktar48]

Given the following scenario, what would be your fantasy first date?

Suppose you became acquainted with someone you had never met in person...like what happens here on this very site, occasionally. (Please keep in mind that this is purely hypothetical.)

Suppose you both experience an intellectual attraction, and after a while there's a little flirting that kind of indicates there could be a physical attraction too. Maybe this goes on for quite a while. Maybe a few months.

And suppose you're both old enough to know better, but still young enough not to care.

What would be the absolute best, most fantastic scenario in which you meet this person for the first time? With cost being no object?

You like the beach. She likes the beach. The beach is located conveniently, so it could work. But where to stay? If, in fact, anyone wants to stay...but I think we can assume that they will.

So, somewhat shabby beach house in an isolated area?

First Class Hotel and Spa?

High-rise condo on the beach?

Disneyland?

 

[jacktar48]

No ideas? Actual or imaginary?

 

[jacktar48]

Nothing at all?

 

[Thandi]

First class hotel suite, overlooking The Falls.

 

[anthilly]

Cabin by the lake, with a hammock and a king size bed

 

[jacktar48]

First class hotel suite, overlooking The Falls.

That's what I'm thinking. One of the resorts offers a "Romance Package," which includes chilled champagne, strawberries dipped in dark chocolate, rose petals strewn across white cotton sheets...and a "romantic turndown."

The last part makes me a little uneasy. I was hoping NOT to be turned down, if you know what I mean. What, do they send someone in at around midnight who says, "You know, I really like you and everything, but not THAT way. Maybe we could just be friends?"

 

[jacktar48]

Cabin by the lake, with a hammock and a king size bed

I'm afraid that's more of a guy thing. Many women tend to be less than romantically inclined when confronted with a variety of crawly things that want to feast on their blood. I've also noticed that rattlesnakes, large spiders and vampire bats, while fascinating to me, make some ladies choose to flee and never come back.

 

[Thandi]

That's what I'm thinking. One of the resorts offers a "Romance Package," which includes chilled champagne, strawberries dipped in dark chocolate, rose petals strewn across white cotton sheets...and a "romantic turndown."

The last part makes me a little uneasy. I was hoping NOT to be turned down, if you know what I mean. What, do they send someone in at around midnight who says, "You know, I really like you and everything, but not THAT way. Maybe we could just be friends?"

That made me laugh!

 

[jacktar48]

That made me laugh!

Maybe that's the whole point. I didn't think of that. Laughter is good.

As long as it doesn't happen while you are taking your pants off.

 

[NotHisLady]

Given the following scenario, what would be your fantasy first date?

Suppose you became acquainted with someone you had never met in person...like what happens here on this very site, occasionally. (Please keep in mind that this is purely hypothetical.)

Suppose you both experience an intellectual attraction, and after a while there's a little flirting that kind of indicates there could be a physical attraction too. Maybe this goes on for quite a while. Maybe a few months.

And suppose you're both old enough to know better, but still young enough not to care.

What would be the absolute best, most fantastic scenario in which you meet this person for the first time? With cost being no object?
...

Sadly not too long a stay. Bittersweet but if all goes well then it is only a 'first' isn't it. If things don't click as expected then there's no week on an island for either of you to suffer through.
Someplace out of the way enough not to be crowded but still where there are people around so that there isn't any pressure at the beginning.
I like New Orleans. Spend the first day exploring the city. Lots of flirting and talking--grounding that intellectual attraction and letting the physical one grow.
An early dinner, somewhere intimate and quiet. Hands being held, light touches, kisses shared as there is less talking and more long lingering glances.
Then a lovely hotel with a huge bed.
(fade to black)

 

[jacktar48]

Sadly not too long a stay. Bittersweet but if all goes well then it is only a 'first' isn't it. If things don't click as expected then there's no week on an island for either of you to suffer through.
Someplace out of the way enough not to be crowded but still where there are people around so that there isn't any pressure at the beginning.
I like New Orleans. Spend the first day exploring the city. Lots of flirting and talking--grounding that intellectual attraction and letting the physical one grow.
An early dinner, somewhere intimate and quiet. Hands being held, light touches, kisses shared as there is less talking and more long lingering glances.
Then a lovely hotel with a huge bed.
(fade to black)

That's what I'm talking about. The escape hatch has to be there; very important. Although I'm (I mean my hypothetical friend) is capable of spending the night in the same bed with an enchanting although somewhat unwilling woman, and has done so on several occasions in the past.

They sometimes became willing at a later date. And sometimes not. You never know.

I like walking around the French Quarter too. I used to go there for my annual physical, and walked so many miles one time that they were concerned about the results of some blood test. The Doctor asked me if I were a "body builder."

I said, "Are you looking at the same body I am?"

Anyway, I think a first-class hotel would be the ideal meeting place, with the option of spending the night there, depending on how things go during the day.

 

[NotHisLady]

That's what I'm talking about. The escape hatch has to be there; very important. Although I'm (I mean my hypothetical friend) is capable of spending the night in the same bed with an enchanting although somewhat unwilling woman, and has done so on several occasions in the past.

They sometimes became willing at a later date. And sometimes not. You never know.

I like walking around the French Quarter too. I used to go there for my annual physical, and walked so many miles one time that they were concerned about the results of some blood test. The Doctor asked me if I were a "body builder."

I said, "Are you looking at the same body I am?"

Anyway, I think a first-class hotel would be the ideal meeting place, with the option of spending the night there, depending on how things go during the day.

Precisely and if the chemistry for the night together isn't there after that first day then there's the second day together. That just might let you get to know each other well enough for that physical attraction to take hold.
I don't believe in rushing or in giving up on a feeling that's been building over as much time as your scenario lays out.

 

[jacktar48]

Precisely and if the chemistry for the night together isn't there after that first day then there's the second day together. That just might let you get to know each other well enough for that physical attraction to take hold.
I don't believe in rushing or in giving up on a feeling that's been building over as much time as your scenario lays out.

Me too.

While I (I mean my hypothetical friend) tends to want to go full speed ahead, and damn the torpedoes, there is the Shroedinger's Cat thing to consider...as long as you don't know for sure what's in the box, it could be anything. A seductive mystery of unknown proportions.

That's not something to throw away either.

 

[NotHisLady]

Me too.

While I (I mean my hypothetical friend) tends to want to go full speed ahead, and damn the torpedoes, there is the Shroedinger's Cat thing to consider...as long as you don't know for sure what's in the box, it could be anything. A seductive mystery of unknown proportions.

That's not something to throw away either.

Certainly it isn't.
Anyway your hypothetical friend would do well to remember that it can be somewhat intimidating going from a 2 dimensional to a 3 dimensional relationship. There are feelings, even if they aren't negative, that can be overwhelming. Letting each other have the time to feel comfortable might be needed--a couple of dates so to speak.
Other times the excitement might sweep all of that away.
People and situations are different so it doesn't do for you (err.. your hypothetical friend) to assume.

 

[jacktar48]

Certainly it isn't.
Anyway your hypothetical friend would do well to remember that it can be somewhat intimidating going from a 2 dimensional to a 3 dimensional relationship. There are feelings, even if they aren't negative, that can be overwhelming. Letting each other have the time to feel comfortable might be needed--a couple of dates so to speak.
Other times the excitement might sweep all of that away.
People and situations are different so it doesn't do for you (err.. your hypothetical friend) to assume.

Very wise. Ideally, one would proceed in the usual fashion; at least the way we used to do it. I don't know what they do now.

A casual meeting at a coffee shop or bar. Pleasant conversation, perhaps a lingering touch of the hands at parting.

Then one might risk dinner. A nice one at a place where kids aren't throwing up shrimp cocktail at the next table. (I did that once myself, when I was 4, so I can't be too critical, but I doubt that it was romantic. My grandfather kept feeding me shrimp and I liked it, at least at first...)

At the conclusion of this, perhaps a kiss that holds a degree of promise one could not possibly ignore...

And so on. But maybe I (My Friend) should remember that he's not 21 any more. And then there is a degree of distance which makes daily interaction impossible.

 

[NotHisLady]

Very wise. Ideally, one would proceed in the usual fashion; at least the way we used to do it. I don't know what they do now.

A casual meeting at a coffee shop or bar. Pleasant conversation, perhaps a lingering touch of the hands at parting.

Then one might risk dinner. A nice one at a place where kids aren't throwing up shrimp cocktail at the next table. (I did that once myself, when I was 4, so I can't be too critical, but I doubt that it was romantic. My grandfather kept feeding me shrimp and I liked it, at least at first...)

At the conclusion of this, perhaps a kiss that holds a degree of promise one could not possibly ignore...

And so on. But maybe I (My Friend) should remember that he's not 21 any more. And then there is a degree of distance which makes daily interaction impossible.

Ah well...
All of the 'getting to know you' really has been done already. It's just a question of not feeling hurried. Letting the person in front of you become the reality of the one you know so well.
It might be in an instant and it might be over a conversation or two.
The bottom line is whether your hypothetical friend has made the trip just for sex or to find a connection with another person.

 

[jacktar48]

Any alternative points of view? Come on, people. You're here to fantasize. Share the fantasy.

 

[shmily]

If its the first meeting, I would say a nice place for lunch, with a park near by to walk and get to know each other better. With the possibility to continue on to dinner and more if the spark is there.

 

[jacktar48]

If its the first meeting, I would say a nice place for lunch, with a park near by to walk and get to know each other better. With the possibility to continue on to dinner and more if the spark is there.

Good idea.

 

[jacktar48]

Something like this might be in order:

http://www.littlepalmisland.com/~/media/sleep/sleep_romantic_turndowns/thumbs/romantic_turndowns-richly_romantic%20jpg.ashx

When you’re ready to retire, the bungalow awaits with the soft glow of candle light. A richly romantic scene, set deliciously with a chilled bottle of Laurent Perrier, Demi Sec, accompanied by six perfect strawberries, covered sweetly in milk or dark chocolate.

The desire doesn’t end there. A decadent, hot, drawn bath for two awaits, infused and perfumed with bath salts and rose petals. A hand-picked massage oil is on hand for before and/or after fun. Tomorrow can wait.

 

[Lily13]

I love the idea of an all day date:

My fantasy date starts off with us meeting out for brunch. It's a comfortable time of day and nothing is expected.

It can be an outdoor café, set on or near the beach. A place where the atmosphere plays into the feel of the day - lighthearted and breathtaking at the same time.

The menu can be lite-fare like appetizers or more, depending on our comfort zones. Whatever it is, I anticipate a cocktail or two to loosen up.

This date moves easily from brunch, to a walk and talk on the beach, to possible dinner and dancing, but ending in a kiss that I've never ever felt before and leaving me wanting sooooo much more...

 

[jacktar48]

I love the idea of an all day date:

My fantasy date starts off with us meeting out for brunch. It's a comfortable time of day and nothing is expected.

It can be an outdoor café, set on or near the beach. A place where the atmosphere plays into the feel of the day - lighthearted and breathtaking at the same time.

The menu can be lite-fare like appetizers or more, depending on our comfort zones. Whatever it is, I anticipate a cocktail or two to loosen up.

This date moves easily from brunch, to a walk and talk on the beach, to possible dinner and dancing, but ending in a kiss that I've never ever felt before and leaving me wanting sooooo much more...

Perfect day... The night still a mystery...although we all know how we hope it ends. If it ever does.

 

[wyshes]

Dream first date/meeting...
Meet up at nice café and talk. Walk around continuing to get to know each other. A nice dinner out, if near one of your places go there for a movie and some cuddling.

 

[jacktar48]

I wouldn't want to risk staying here.

https://mw2.google.com/mw-panoramio/photos/medium/33583270.jpg


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PotB76gi2_4

 

[shmily]

Through a futon mattress in the back of the truck, a nice picnic of maybe cheese, crackers, cherries, strawberries, chocolate and a cold bottle of wine. Drive out to the country where you can only see the moon n stars, climb in the back of the truck, cuddle with blankets, snacking and getting to know each other.