Falling off the radar screen…

[on_the_verge]

Through the internet we have found a new vessel for communication. Even though it is fairly static, we tend to treat it as the medium for information as well as entertainment. It really never surprises me how I can get an average of five responses from a woman (and make my respected replies) and after a while after positive responses, she decides to stop writing. Of course there are many reasons for this, but if I had not offended you and you care for no further contact please let me know. It's nice not to take it all to heart though.

It is quite rude to exchange e-mails, then all of a suddenly not write back. Oh. Yes! It is part of rejection, but it is also a case for callousness. It as if you can tell a computability over a few words and judge a person over it. It's like take me off your IM list, but don't leave me hanging, no?

Then again cyberspace is a wonderful culture where it feeds the mind and can enlighten our daily lives. Thankfully, Lit is a welcome community that has much to offer, but at the same time can be like a static televison…sometimes.

How many of you all have fallen off the radar screen?

 

[Merelan]

I have only lost one person on the internet. But then again. I only write people here.
And Ihaven't really lost him, he is out saving the world, and had warned me awhile ago he might not be able to write for a long time.

Wasn't romantic, but miss him.

 

[MidnightAngel]

Ok....I admit to having "fallen off the radar screen" a number of times.....mostly just for short periods of time. Too many things going on IRL, or just needed to re-group. Most of my IM/emails are to those who are simply friends and they realize that I do that now and then.

I also admit that I did the dreaded "just not answering the emails, no explanation" once. It was a friend who I had met online who began making comments in his emails that I found SERIOUSLY offensive. Racial and ethical slurs, which I do NOT tolerate from anyone, online or IRL. Even though they were not aimed at me, I don't believe in stereotyping anyone because of their race or for any other reason.

 

[juicylips]

It really never surprises me how I can get an average of five responses from a woman (and make my respected replies) and after a while after positive responses, she decides to stop writing. Of course there are many reasons for this, but if I had not offended you and you care for no further contact please let me know. It's nice not to take it all to heart though.

It is quite rude to exchange e-mails, then all of a suddenly not write back. Oh. Yes! It is part of rejection, but it is also a case for callousness. It as if you can tell a computability over a few words and judge a person over it. It's like take me off your IM list, but don't leave me hanging, no?

Are you talking about someone in particular here on Lit?

Because I have had that happen countless times and I never have taken offense to it. Never thought it was callous or took it as rejection.

It is just like meeting someone in real life. Exchanging few words. Maybe a dinner or drink. No strings. Just because someone is on my IM list doesn't make them lifelong friends.

You meet. You enjoy. You act like a gentleman and don't post about it.

Cassidy

 

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[Calamity Jane]

I'm sure I've done it. I tend to do it in real life too. It's nothing personal, I just don't maintain communication very well. Most of my friends know this, and are used to not hearing from me for long periods of time, then they'll get in touch with me, or I'll get in touch with them, we'll do the catching up thing, maintain contact for awhile, and then it's back into the void until we meet up again.

I have friends from kindergarten, we'll go years without speaking, bump into each other when we're back home, and it's like we were never out of touch. Same with people I know on the net. I don't expect daily conversations from very many people, here or offline.

Yes, I've occasionally wondered where certain people disappeared to, but after a couple emails asking if all is well, I move on. No hard feelings toward them.

 

[Nigel]

I have to agree with Midnight Angel - I too have "fallen off the radar screen" myself with some people - sometimes it's due to r/l getting in the way of cyber life (as MA said) and other times....well...

Other times it's been because the person has taken their emails, PMs, or chat to a weird level. One in particular that I can recall, started taking our "relationship" WAY too seriously...and after chatting with her about it....and about our idividual comfort levels, she still wouldn't let up. So, I went away and don't even use that particular messenger service anymore. Rude? I don't think so. Harsh? Perhaps a bit, but we're talking about respecting boundaries and comfort levels here. And she couldn't.

Nigel

 

[juicylips]

I have to agree with Midnight Angel - I too have "fallen off the radar screen" myself with some people - sometimes it's due to r/l getting in the way of cyber life (as MA said) and other times....well...

Other times it's been because the person has taken their emails, PMs, or chat to a weird level. One in particular that I can recall, started taking our "relationship" WAY too seriously...and after chatting with her about it....and about our idividual comfort levels, she still wouldn't let up. So, I went away and don't even use that particular messenger service anymore. Rude? I don't think so. Harsh? Perhaps a bit, but we're talking about respecting boundaries and comfort levels here. And she couldn't.

Nigel

So THAT'S what happened to you??

*sob*

but...you said our relationship was FOREVER!! You were moving in with me.. making all my dreams cum true.

You TEASE!!!

Cassidy,
LMAO

 

[on_the_verge]

Re: Re: Falling off the radar screen…

Are you talking about someone in particular here on Lit?

Because I have had that happen countless times and I never have taken offense to it. Never thought it was callous or took it as rejection.

It is just like meeting someone in real life. Exchanging few words. Maybe a dinner or drink. No strings. Just because someone is on my IM list doesn't make them lifelong friends.

You meet. You enjoy. You act like a gentleman and don't post about it.

Cassidy

Well, who called the "post police" on me? Juicy, I am not cynical and tactial in thay way to post about any particular person on "Lit or other place."

Oh sheesh, it's not to be taken for face value! It's just nice to see others' experiences and thoughts, hee!

Like Nigel states on how R/L might be a factor, Pagan that I understand that people don't have to be in constant contact. That if the person(s) value you, they will always be there like a day never slipped by. Midnight and Fox, that if a person is rude or offensive, Merelan. that her friend gave a warning and the thought to be sincere, and the rest that falls or does not, etc.

There is always more…

 

[Nigel]

So THAT'S what happened to you??

*sob*

but...you said our relationship was FOREVER!! You were moving in with me.. making all my dreams cum true.

You TEASE!!!

Cassidy,
LMAO

Cass....sweetie...it's not ALL about you. You said you wanted me to move with you, but I can't leave CA. And remember you said that it would be hard for you to move, because of all of your sex accoutrements - the "mini dungeon", the harnesses, the wide assortment of lotions, lubes, dildos, and vibes, your "Giant Whirling Wheel of Fun" (which makes me dizzy, by the way). So, we were basically at an impasse. Then all of the emails and messages.....the begging...the pleading.... I just couldn't take it anymore. I think....I think it's time that we both move on, hon.... No...please...please don't cry. Life will go on, Cass. I'm sure that some day you'll find someone almost as good as me. So...goodbye.

...Cassidy? Please let go of my leg. No, don't grovel, hon...it isn't seemly......

Nigel
LMFAO

 

[juicylips]

Cass....sweetie...it's not ALL about you. You said you wanted me to move with you, but I can't leave CA. And remember you said that it would be hard for you to move, because of all of your sex accoutrements - the "mini dungeon", the harnesses, the wide assortment of lotions, lubes, dildos, and vibes, your "Giant Whirling Wheel of Fun" (which makes me dizzy, by the way). So, we were basically at an impasse. Then all of the emails and messages.....the begging...the pleading.... I just couldn't take it anymore. I think....I think it's time that we both move on, hon.... No...please...please don't cry. Life will go on, Cass. I'm sure that some day you'll find someone almost as good as me. So...goodbye.

...Cassidy? Please let go of my leg. No, don't grovel, hon...it isn't seemly......

Nigel


Good times in my "dungeon", tho right??

No regrets??

Cassidy,
calling out...NEXT!!!!!!
LMFAO

 

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