Falling In Love Here

[sfldaddy]

I know this wonderful place is mainly for the enjoyment of fantasies, but I have met so many wonderful females online here (as opposed to other places) and have realized that "plain vanilla" is now out of the question for me, and I want a real-life situation..

Problem is, one particular female from here (who enjoys a particularly unique lifestyle as I do), who has been terrific, kind and loving. She lives many miles away (naturally) but at least calls me once a day to say "hi" if only for a few moments.

Besides exchanging photos, we haven't met, but I am extremely tempted to ask her to share the rest of her life with me, right now. I realize this could be dangerous as we hardly know one another, but I'm sure things like this have worked for some.

Culd any of you share in this regard, or offer some advice (I will never divulge who she is)? Thanks!

 

[Diamond_Girl]

Awwwwww, it's so sweet that you're feeling this way! I'm glad you've found such a fabulous lady.

I had an online lover who told me that he wanted to marry me (despite the fact that I'm already married), and we'd done no more than cam together, though we did talk on the phone pretty much every day, and chatted online 3-4 days a week. It was pretty intense, but we said that it's useless even thinking of that until we met, which we never did.

Note I said, "Had." He couldn't handle it if I were in any way less than perfect. If I said the wrong thing or was in the wrong mood (read: PMS'ing), then he was outta there. I finally got sick of the crap and broke things off.

My current online lover is simply phenomenal. We mention "in real life," yet even though he lives on the other side of the planet (literally), it feels pretty real as much as we can work it. We're a part of each other's lives and schedules, and in almost three months, there hasn't been a single day that we didn't communicate in some form or fashion. We had our first fight yesterday morning, and had made up by lunchtime. But even our fight was great.

Just keep in mind that an online relationship is far different than real life. Your lady love may be awesome with phone calls and chatting, but you may not have that great chemistry irl. I recommend spending quite a bit of "face time" together before getting down on bended knee.

 

[sfldaddy]

You are correct! I once met someone here who was phenomenal over the phone, but when we met, she was frigid and had almost no personality. I was too bad, because we truly did like each other. There's a term for her kind of clinical depression: I think it's called "current affect". She was on medication, but she just couldn't work things out. That she had two little ones complicated it as well (I am NOT rapping children at all), as they wore her out and she had to give them 99% of her attention.

So while I absolutely sympathize with her, I cannot and will not make that kind of mistake again! The one i am infatuated now is child-less and older (and wiser). I don't think she feels the same way as me, though, and of course, that is pivotal.

Regardless, I know there are so many females here (as well as males) literally starving for love and affection. I have a comfy home, but it's an empty nest as I'm a widower. So I'm starving, too.

 

[Diamond_Girl]

You are correct! I once met someone here who was phenomenal over the phone, but when we met, she was frigid and had almost no personality. I was too bad, because we truly did like each other. There's a term for her kind of clinical depression: I think it's called "current affect". She was on medication, but she just couldn't work things out. That she had two little ones complicated it as well (I am NOT rapping children at all), as they wore her out and she had to give them 99% of her attention.

So while I absolutely sympathize with her, I cannot and will not make that kind of mistake again! The one i am infatuated now is child-less and older (and wiser). I don't think she feels the same way as me, though, and of course, that is pivotal.

Regardless, I know there are so many females here (as well as males) literally starving for love and affection. I have a comfy home, but it's an empty nest as I'm a widower. So I'm starving, too.

Awwwwww, hugs, Daddy!

I know a lot of men starving for love and affection, but don't know of any females. My problem is, I have a lot of love to give, but at the end of the day, I am still married. In an ideal world, the Aussie hottie mentioned in my location would live near us and I could give him irl the love, affection, touches and company that space and distance limits me giving him now. I can - and do - love him all darn day, but I can't cuddle him at night, except in our dreams.

 

[omahaman2]

this thread might help!

LDR

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

I think people can fall in love here,,,just as they could anywere else in life that they meet.

 

[Guest]

Hang in there Daddy. I have found the same thing, where I have phenominal chemistry with someone online and on the phone, but when we meet IRL, it's just not there.

I am "virtually" dating a man now who I met thru here, that I have come to care a great deal for...luckily for me, he lives in the same state, just on the other end. So while we can't get together easily, it IS possible (and being worked on as we speak! LOL). But I do care for him, and it would be crushing to meet him face to face and realize the chemistry just isn't there....especially if I had let my online feelings known.

Slow it down a bit, try to arrange a few meetings IRL first before promising her your life. As romantic as that sounds, it could end up being the worst mistake you've ever made.

We are all starved for love in the age of quickie divorces and shacking-up. But I still believe in one true love for everyone. There is the "perfect" mate out there for everyone...just need to find each other. Hang in there darlin and it WILL happen. Of that I am sure!

 

[cobrasangel]

Someone mentioned starved for affection and love above...being a female...I am one that is...searching endlessly into the night ...writing my thoughts on a few sites...making friends and speaking to others and yet...something major is missing....good luck to you Daddy...you seem very nice and deserve the best...

 

[ima6uldv8]

Don't let distance keep you from going further, if that's what you both wish. I met my Master totally by accident here. He's on the west coast and I'm on the east coast. I just got back last week from a week with him. It was as wonderful as it has been on the phone/computer. Now it will be hard to be away from each other, especially after the first visit. Wouldn't lie to you there. But, if you find something wonderful like I have, it will all be worth it. I wish you all the best.

 

[sfldaddy]

Well.. I have an empty nest and plenty of space for someone to love and pleasure and cherish! Any takers?

 

[ima6uldv8]

Well.. I have an empty nest and plenty of space for someone to love and pleasure and cherish! Any takers?

I think you need to get to know people here and just have fun. I mean, would you walk up to a woman you didn't know in real life and ask her to spend her life with you? Just give it a little time.

 

[a_sweet_juicy_peach]

Well.. I have an empty nest and plenty of space for someone to love and pleasure and cherish! Any takers?

hmmmmmmmm, anybody will do?