Facts about Marital Infidelity

[PapaRomantic]

I was cruising on Facebook this afternoon, and I came across a clickbait site called "42 Cheatin' Facts About Infidelity." I have no idea if any of these are actually true, but I found some more interesting than others, so I figured I'd share, since it entertained me for a while.

• Straight men with larger penises are actually more likely to be cheated on by their wives. In one study, for every inch Kenyan men had on their genitals, their likelihood of being cheated on rose by 150%.
  
• In one survey, 42% of cheaters claimed that rock n’ roll music was their favorite genre. Only 2% of rap fans, 3% of gospel fans, and 7% of classical music fans in the survey were cheaters.
  
• Affair website Ashley Madison found that the most popular stores for cheating women who want to look good for their lover were J. Crew, Ann Taylor, and Macy’s.
  
• This one strikes home with me.... Male spouses who have deep voices are more likely to be suspected of cheating. The same is true for female spouses with high voices.
  
• When straight men flirt with other women, they become more intolerant of any transgressions by their partner. When straight women flirt with other men, however, they become more tolerant of slip-ups.
  
• 22% of men have said that they have cheated on their significant other, while 14% of women have confessed to cheating on their significant other. I thought these numbers would be higher.
  
• Men and women who have been unfaithful before are 350% more inclined to cheat again than those who haven’t. Yikes. Talk about breaking a seal.
  
• Overall, business is bad: common projects, late nights, and long hours spent together make it so that 85% of affairs start in the workplace.
  
• When a woman cheats, it’s usually for emotional satisfaction, whereas when a man cheats, it’s usually from a physically sexual motivation. In perhaps telling results, men also believe sexual cheating is worse than emotional cheating, while women believe the opposite.
  
• 2%-3% of children are the result of infidelity. Furthermore, most of these children are raised without knowing that their father figures are not their biological fathers.
  
• Ashley Madison revealed that cheating happens the most on Wednesdays in the early evening. No, really.

I won't post the link here in the open forum, but if you'd like to read the rest of the facts, send me a PM and I'll send it to you.

 

[Justfantasies]

Given the fake profiles that have been created by Ashley Madison, they are quite good at cheating themselves

 

[screwher]

I totally believe the 350% stat. Case in point - my sexy wifey. It took her many years but she did eventually drop her panties again for another man!

 

[Justfantasies]

I totally believe the 350% stat. Case in point - my sexy wifey. It took her many years but she did eventually drop her panties again for another man!

It's the inevitable bell curve -- the hot wives with husbands who want to share their pussies are the outliers but push up the averages

 

[suckonsimon]

I don't get that one about men feeling that sexual cheating is worse than emotional cheating. If - IF! - I had a sport-fuck with another woman and it came to light, I believe we could cope with that. If I were to fall in love with one of the [several] women who have fallen for me, then my marriage would be in a wreck of damage and we'd both see it that way.

 

[Justfantasies]

I don't get that one about men feeling that sexual cheating is worse than emotional cheating. If - IF! - I had a sport-fuck with another woman and it came to light, I believe we could cope with that. If I were to fall in love with one of the [several] women who have fallen for me, then my marriage would be in a wreck of damage and we'd both see it that way.

I love the term "sport fuck." The world needs more sport fucking.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I don't get that one about men feeling that sexual cheating is worse than emotional cheating. If - IF! - I had a sport-fuck with another woman and it came to light, I believe we could cope with that. If I were to fall in love with one of the [several] women who have fallen for me, then my marriage would be in a wreck of damage and we'd both see it that way.

I know a lot of guys who see sex as almost exclusively a sexual thing and their wives fidelity entirely through the perspective of whether their physical purity has been affected and what her cheating says about her husband's manhood. They need to believe their wife could never want another so if she does it is a blow to their manhood.

Women on the other hand know their husbands want other women so while they are disappointed if we give in to temptation it doesn't alter their view of themselves. They are more focussed on whether this event represents a real threat to the relationship.

Plus we tend to project our own perspective. As the data suggests women cheat for emotional satisfaction reasons so they probably associate this as being the thing to worry about. Men cheat for physical reasons so we associate that as the thing to worry about. Neither is likely to stop and think that the their spouse might have different motivations.

Guys approach it in a very silly and self-destructive way in my view but there it is.

 

[suckonsimon]

... They need to believe their wife could never want another so if she does it is a blow to their manhood.
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Guys approach it in a very silly and self-destructive way in my view but there it is.

In our first couple of years of marriage I remember being a bit shocked and, yes, threatened by my wife's readily expressed crushes on a few other men. She still has those 41 years on! But I see it oh so differently. These guys are dudes I tend to admire too, and I feel good about being in the circle of these men who she sees as hot. Further, the way she is so open about this signals to me that she feels totally secure in the love of her life and I value that immensely.

 

[littlecordelera]

If you study the people's of the world, now and historically, you will find that monogamy is a cultural practice. It is not an innate human need, and it pains me to see relationships torn apart because because people have been trained to believe that infidelity demonstrates a lack of love.

 

[Justfantasies]

If you study the people's of the world, now and historically, you will find that monogamy is a cultural practice. It is not an innate human need, and it pains me to see relationships torn apart because because people have been trained to believe that infidelity demonstrates a lack of love.

Agreed and of course a little variety spices up marriages

 

[screwher]

If you study the people's of the world, now and historically, you will find that monogamy is a cultural practice. It is not an innate human need, and it pains me to see relationships torn apart because because people have been trained to believe that infidelity demonstrates a lack of love.

For whatever reason infidelities are going to happen. My wife cheated on me a couple of times. I believe it was because she was limited in sexual experience before we got together. Then she became curious of other men. Her second tryst opened up our marriage to the hotwife lifestyle we're currently enjoying.

 

[Funnbrandy]

There's two people you can't trust in this world.....politicians and statisticians.....I believe most of the points fall into the latter category, lol

 

[LitMasterJ]

http://gifimage.net/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/never-tell-me-the-odds-gif.gif

 

[SlutAddicted]

In our first couple of years of marriage I remember being a bit shocked and, yes, threatened by my wife's readily expressed crushes on a few other men. She still has those 41 years on! But I see it oh so differently. These guys are dudes I tend to admire too, and I feel good about being in the circle of these men who she sees as hot. Further, the way she is so open about this signals to me that she feels totally secure in the love of her life and I value that immensely.

I am with you buddy. My wife is attractive and sexually aware and mature. The fact that other men also find her attractive and she finds them attractive is only logical. To expect otherwise would be silly and to expect her to pretend otherwise would have a negative impact on us.

 

[SlutAddicted]

If you study the people's of the world, now and historically, you will find that monogamy is a cultural practice. It is not an innate human need, and it pains me to see relationships torn apart because because people have been trained to believe that infidelity demonstrates a lack of love.

Even among people who embrace non-monogamy many see it as the exception. They simply can’t comprehend the premise that monogamy isn’t the default “right” way.