Experienced Sub, New to Online D/s

[Lilli_Marlene]

Hello there - I am not new to Lit, I've lurked here for years. But I've gotten into an interesting situation that I'd love to discuss with some others.

I am a fairly experienced submissive male CD - bi, of course - and I've been "adopted" so to speak by an experienced, generous and attentive male Dom. He's quite sexy and has a devilish sense of torment and he seems to have a wonderful way of getting into my head, unlike several other dominants I have met.

My problem right now is that, since I am new to the whole online thing, I am not sure of the time frames that are common and acceptable in carrying out tasks or punishments given to me online. I do have a life off the 'net and sometimes it's difficult to comply immediately. I know this disappoints him and of course earns me further penance if I dally too long. Maybe that's part of the whole relationship? But I am very new to online D/S so any insights are welcome.

 

[CutieMouse]

I don't "do" the online D/s thing, but I have been in a long distaqnce relationship before, and faced similar issues.

My solution was to be very clear about my schedule both generally and when I had particularly busy days (deadlines for work/errands/family obligations). For example, he knew I'd be far less able to do XYZ thing on Wednesdays, as I usually had deadlines on Thursday morning, and was in "crunch time", and he chose to work around my real life obligations - which made things a lot more manageable and pleasant for both of us.

 

[HottieMama]

Maybe you need to be very upfront when he gives you a task and ask him when the deadline is to have it done.

For me, i can do simple things immediately, but i need to plan to accomplish more complicated tasks...(i.e. photos, intense writing assignments) (i have 2 small children and a pretty busy home life.) He is very understanding of this and gives me ample time to get things done as well as extensions when necessary. i am careful to not abuse this privelege, and choose to do things as soon as possible.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Hello there - I am not new to Lit, I've lurked here for years. But I've gotten into an interesting situation that I'd love to discuss with some others.

I am a fairly experienced submissive male CD - bi, of course - and I've been "adopted" so to speak by an experienced, generous and attentive male Dom. He's quite sexy and has a devilish sense of torment and he seems to have a wonderful way of getting into my head, unlike several other dominants I have met.

My problem right now is that, since I am new to the whole online thing, I am not sure of the time frames that are common and acceptable in carrying out tasks or punishments given to me online. I do have a life off the 'net and sometimes it's difficult to comply immediately. I know this disappoints him and of course earns me further penance if I dally too long. Maybe that's part of the whole relationship? But I am very new to online D/S so any insights are welcome.

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For my relationship I am instructed via the phone or internet. My D understands that I have obligations and that not always am I able to immdiately do the tasks I am instructed to do. I would freely and openly speak to your lovely D about what is going on in your life and his expectations and yours , COMMUNCATION is the key