Experience and Interest?

[MissTaken]

Just a little demographical info is being sought here.

In addition to answering the poll, it would be great if you could post something about amount of time you have engaged or been curious about the lifestyle as well as what you hope to achieve in reading or posting here.

Thanks,

MissT

 

[MissTaken]

I went with novice status.

I have about two years experience, but have not had a long term relationship in D/s so feel I lack the experience in actually making it work.

However, I am now in a relationship that is likely to be long term and we both feel this is It!

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL...I had to go for the neither novice or expert or I would have had an unhappy Master. He has many more years experience than I (about 9-10 years actively), but whenever I describe myself as a novice he gives me a lecture on my having more experience and less limits than many longer term subs he has known. I had been curious in one way or another most of my life, but only actively experimenting before Master for a little over a year from memory, and we have been committed since June 2002, and r/l (as in physically together) 24/7 since September 2002. The preparation was worth it, the determination definately a plus in making my dream real. Congrats to both of you, and as you know Miss T, I am always rapt to hear of others finding their magic as we have done. You were overdue a good burst of happiness. Isn't always whips, hearts, and flowers, but the bumps are what give it depth and give you an opportunity to know each other through and through, building a solid foundation from which to evolve and grow as a couple. Enjoy.

Catalina

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

For the record, I began the actual physical journey into BDSM about two years ago. I spent more than a year or better learning and reading before I actually put myself out there. I ended up meeting my first Dom when I wasn't looking. It was a bedroom kind of thing, which was ultimately unsatisfying, and lasted for about 9 months. I also learned from a playpartner that I had for a few months.

What matters the most to me, however, is the relationship that I am in now. I believe this relationship with Him is what has brough me the most growth; it is what has taken me out the realm of "novice." I don't claim "expert" status. But there's definitely a somewhere in between

~anelize

 

[Desdemona]

Well, I have about 2 1/2 years real time experience now. I read alot before I started going out and experimenting. I have grown the most and learned the most in this relationship with Snooze. I am neither novice nor expert. I have alot left to learn and experience but I'm comfortable with the fact that we have time to go there together.

 

[Wizard]

I put neither novice or expert for us. We have been into this about 12 or so years. We always try to take thing to a higher level and learn about our self while doing so.
We started many years ago with old neckties and teeing to the bottom of the bed. Now we have moved too much harder thing always push our self but yet there are so many that are way better and know much more than us here on the boards. This is what makes the boards great we all learn. In many respects I still think we are beginners also…. There is so much to learn.

 

[ethereal~minx]

On line and working toward a real time BDSM relationship. 1 11.11%

only online/phone -- the relationship that just ended in r/l had strong d/s nature but truly, my only experience has been online & on the phone... that was very long ago~~ 2yrs ago & very brief but the experience was extremely profound and because of that introduction, I do know

it is definitely the type relationship I will have~ whether it is with one that considers themselves a Dom/mes or just dominant by nature...

what do I hope to achieve or gain by posting here?
there are times I want advice, perspective ~many times : )
but I find reading posts of others I admire very helpful and insightful..

 

[lilredwolph]

23 (almost 24, geez i feel old) yrs in R/L, i haven't and don't plan on ever doing the online thing.

i spent 7 yrs living and learning as a sub/bottom, then 7 yrs as a 24/7 slave, since then i have gone back to being a sub without any desires for 24/7 at least not until my children get older

 

[lilnymph28]

experience?

Hello all!

I'm new to the boards, but I'd been looking at them for about a year before I finally got the nerve to join.

I'm a 28 year old bi, submissive female. I think I've always known that I was different, but it was only once I started reading about BDSM on this site that I realized that there was a label to it. An epiphany hit me one day - "Aha! So that's part of what I am!" I don't know why it took me so long to realize it

From what I've read, that seems to be a fairly common way that people learn to start defining themselves.

I wouldn't classify myself as experienced at all. I was lucky enough to meet a man about a year ago who enjoyed the same "control" games that I did, and this is what started my path of self-exploration, although he wouldn't have classified himself as a Dom. I just started my first formal relationship with a Dom a little over a month ago. We're still testing the waters with each other, and it's been a huge education for me so far. I can't wait for it to continue and to find what the future holds.

What do I hope to achieve by posting here? I want to learn more, experience more, meet others like me, and have a place to discuss any questions or ideas that I have. A safe community to share with.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I'm a novice, because I am.

I hope I will always be a novice. I think there is so much to learn and so much I don't know and have not experienced. That brings to mind the chain trick again.... someday.

 

[Bandit58]

Online only so far, but graduating to real time in less than 2 weeks. I've always been curious, but never had the opportunity to explore it before. I tend to lurk and read - a LOT - I feel I'm too inexperienced as yet to contribute much to discussions, but want to learn as much as I can......

 

[WriterDom]

I'm fairly comfortable where I am now, but there are some skill sets I want to acquire. Right now I'm practicing with a 4 foot single tail. I'd like to learn more about rope bondage just for the heck of it. It's never been a real turn on for me. And maybe one day, learn a little electrical play. And leatherworking for custom toys.

 

[bunny bondage]

i have real time experience, but am neither novice or expert. i've seen and done much more than most 21 year olds, but i still have much to learn.

 

[dragonlace]

I am neither novice nor expert.......have had the tendancy and desire for about 13 years but up until a few years ago i didn't know there were so many others like myself. I am constantly striving to learn anything i can. Love of the lifestyle keeps me like a sponge sucking up all the knowledge i can. I am in a ldr right now waiting on the time when i can move down to be with Him full time.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Voted neither novice nor expert. I have had 2 r/l BDSM relationships (one fairly recently) and until 4 years or so ago...i was a fairly active Domme. Since that time though..i have discovered a need for submission, mayhap even slavery. I am mostly new to this side of the fence (submission) so that particular category fits me best.

pet

 

[Wizard]

Intresting to see how many of us voted "novice nor expert" and how much we feel we wish to learn more........

 

[SierraMoon]

i voted that i have real life experience, but i consider myself to be a novice... As anyone can see by my location, i have a lot to learn!!

 

[Wizard]

i voted that i have real life experience, but i consider myself to be a novice... As anyone can see by my location, i have a lot to learn!!

Well if your avitar is any example your learning well.........

 

[SierraMoon]

Well if your avitar is any example your learning well.........

Practice makes perfect!!

 

[Richard49]

I recently turned 54
I have been in the lifestyle since I was 15

It was suggested years ago that to be a true Dom
One should train as a sub under an experenced Dom
I did mine under a couple where both were dom

I listed neither novice or expert

 

[redelicious]

Well I'll never be an expert, but I don't think I quite qualify as a novice anymore.

I guess I have officially considered myself submissive for a little over a year. In that time I had both online and r/l experience. Before that I didn't know BDSM even existed. I can't say that I have always been submissive in every facet of my life - I am the strong willed, independant type for sure. But, my sexuality has always centered around giving myself to my partner's pleasure.

As for what I hope to achieve... that's a good question. I'm not looking or practicing as it were so I guess some would look at me and say "what's the point?" It boils down to this: I like reading here. Some of it doesn't apply, but I do internalize a lot. Much of what I read challenges me, and that's good regardless of where I go with it. On RARE occasions I think I have something to share that might be meaningful to someone else. However, most of the time when I post I am just thinking out loud.

 

[MissTaken]

I have to say that I have read these posts and it is fascinating to me to read about other's histories and perspectives.

Yes, I do believe we always have some more to learn, experience and enjoy.

BDSM for all that some may feel restricts people and relationships actually opens doors, not shuts them!

 

[A Desert Rose]

There are 38 votes and only 16 people posted.

There's some interesting demographical information for you.




Edited because I made a mistake.

 

[Quint]

Neither newbie nor guru. I know at least a little about everything I'm interested in but I allow for the possibility that my interests may grow and thus I'll have to learn more to accomodate them. I have two months of online experience, a year of LDR but definitely real experience, and three months of bordering on 24/7 experience.

 

[cellis]

I don't consider myself a novice but neither do I consider myself an expert... He still pushes my limits...

There is so much room for growth... I look forward to the rest of the journey.