Exactly why can't a Dom have a collar?

[Kierae]

Many think it undomly of me to wear latex.

Many also think it's rather unstraight of me to wear latex.

Once upon a time boys didn't wear earrings, I say fuck it.

I agree - wear a collar if you feel like it. Your domliness is what you present outwardly and if you can do that wearing a collar, so be it. Hell I can't follow society norms (nor do I care to start now), follow a straight line, and color within the lines. Shoot me now!

 

[graceanne]

I just don't get it. A dom's supposed to be able to do what they want. But not if it includes a collar?

 

[shy slave]

I thought it was subs who could do what they want, as long as they wear a collar and make the Dom/Mes think its their idea, and not the subs planting ideas in their head

 

[graceanne]

I thought it was subs who could do what they want, as long as they wear a collar and make the Dom/Mes think its their idea, and not the subs planting ideas in their head

SHH!

That's something only us subs are supposed to know. They are watching.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

I thought it was subs who could do what they want, as long as they wear a collar and make the Dom/Mes think its their idea, and not the subs planting ideas in their head

SHH!

That's something only us subs are supposed to know. They are watching.

http://img.tfd.com/dict/107/133091-candy-cane.gif anyone?

 

[graceanne]

http://img.tfd.com/dict/107/133091-candy-cane.gif anyone?

Um . . . not from you. But thanks anyway. *hides behind shy*

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Um . . . not from you.

But grace, i guarantee it's real peppermint.

 

[graceanne]

But grace, i guarantee it's real peppermint.

'S ok. I don't like peppermint. But shy told me it's her favorite flavour. Really. *nods emphatically*

 

[jadefirefly]

Uh... Grace... knowing AA, I'm not sure it matters what -flavor- it is....

 

[graceanne]

Uh... Grace... knowing AA, I'm not sure it matters what -flavor- it is....

Shh! Don't encourage him!

Besides, shy said it. She's the bad one. I'm so sweet and cuddly . . .

 

[Netzach]

Hi gang!

I was able to ask our local leather historian and according to his training and experience (not original generation "Old Guard" but he came up that way):

Dominants can certainly wear collars. They can wear leather pants, harnesses, cuffs or whatever else they want to wear.

What signifies the difference between Top or bottom is the presence of accessories or items used for bondage, to secure the collar, cuff, harness whatever. Plain leather collars or collars with spikes do not signify possession or ownership or submissiveness. D and O rings do.


So there you go, O'Mac! As long as you aren't O-ringing on your collar, rock on. You might consider having your collar customized with "MASTER" or "TOP" in nice shiney silver letters for the not-so-initiated so they can figure it out without having to spend the money to buy a clue... And you probably want to have it fairly wide, as narrow tends to look like a choker and may be considered fem.... *grin*

Hey, don't take my word for it, I'm a guy that has very little in the way of fashion sense...

I guessed kinda right then. Heh.

 

[Netzach]

Many think it undomly of me to wear latex.

I'm mystified. If you have a rubber fetish it means you're a bottom?

I've been told by the uninformed that Dommes can't wear rubber hoods. Ok, whatever.

 

[Hester]

i'm all for ambiguity, contrariety, and paradox.