Everyone: please read, look, and participate

[cymbidia]

All of the following has been taken wholesale from here: http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=79591

1 The BDSM forum is a general community forum - personal ads are innapropriate here and we do not welcome them. Any Personals posted will be deleted.

and here are some more;

2 Respect other peoples kinks, this is a safe place not a place to discuss the validity of the BDSM lifestyle.

3 Register - we are all wary of 'unregistered' posters

4 No racist, sexist or other derogatory remarks please

5 Don't indulge in 'roleplay' in public threads - if you get along with someone and want to take it futher do it via PMs

6 Always be polite when you send a first PM, its fine to send a brief note saying you like someones post/thought/idea but please don't get too personal

7 Don't ask for or give out personal information - especially address and phone numbers

8 Try and read at least some of the Mother thread before posting

9 Play nice kiddies and you might just get a spanking!!

Rules:

1. No spam
2. No posting of another's personal information
3. No threats
4. No personal ads

Any post breaking this rules will be removed.

Guidelines:

1. Please be nice to each other.
2. We do not discuss the issues and implications of the word 'nilla' on this forum. We realize that outside of the BDSM community it can be construed as insulting, but inside the BDSM community it is part of our jargon.
3. Please read all of KillerMuffin's fine stories.
4. Put whatever you want here.


Why do it this way? 3 of the rules are Lit rules. 1 is forum specific. You can state these rules and the consequences of breaking these rules right away. Guidelines are more for how to enjoy the forum. You have no consquences for guidlines.

The four rules are way too brief.

1. No spam. Advertising other sites will not be tolerated.
2. No posting of another's personal information.
3. No threats or abusive language directed at another board member.
4. No personal ads, solicitations for contacts, requests for...

You should explain "spam" and "threats" I think.

Rule 1 - Personal ads will not be tolerated. Any and all personal ads posted will be deleted.

Rule 2 - Personal information (be it yours or that of someone else) is not permitted. Any and all posts containing any personal information will be deleted.

Rule 3 - Demeaning and/or degrading language will not be tolerated. Any and all posts using demeaning and/or degrading language will be deleted.

Rule 4 - If you do not have an open mind and an open heart you may leave this forum at any time.

Rule 5 - If you've come here to learn, to understand, to question, to laugh, to enjoy the lifestyle that you have chosen we're here for you. However, since we are a society of people who first and foremost trust, respect, and tolerate others if you are disrespectful of us or the lifestyle that we have chosen, consider this fair warning that your posts are subject to deletion.[/B]

(cym's note: Muff's post here was about the rules above and i thought the comments salient to our ongoing discussion so i included them)Rule 2 - You can post your own personal information to your hearts content, you're just not allowed to post someone elses. This is a Literotica-wide rule.

Rule 3 - Demeaning and/or degrading language will be tolerated. This is a Literotica-wide rule. Censorship beyond the Big 3 (spam, personal info, physical threats) is not permitted here.

Rule 4 - This isn't a rule, it's a guideline. However, you should note that responsibility and etiquette cannot be legislated.

Rule 5 - See rule 3. Censorship is not tolerated at this site. If you can say whatever you like the corollary is that so can anyone else. It is, however, completely up to you to respond and encourage trolls or to ignore and watch them slink away.

Personal ads are not deleted, they're moved to the appropriate forum. Threads that break the Big 3 are moved to a Laurel-specific forum for Laurel's perusal. Laurel is the only person allowed to edit or delete posts at Literotica.

Any rules created must conform to the rules that run the entire discussion board.

1. No spam
2. No personal info
3. No threats
4. Please post personals in the proper forum

Phrasing them as community standards (requirements for belonging) rather than as rules would certainly give a more welcoming tone to newcomers, as well.

 

[cymbidia]

And this is what i've come up with for our rules/guidelines:

BDSM Forum Rules:

1. No spam
2. No posting of another's personal information
3. No threats
4. No personals ads

Any post breaking any of these rules will be removed.

BDSM Forum Community Guidelines:

1. We're tolerant of and kind to each other for the most part, even if we don't, individually, agree on some issues. We ask that you behave toward everyone here in a similar manner.

please consider the following erased from consideration:
2. We do not discuss the issues and implications of the word 'nilla' on this forum. We realize that outside of the BDSM community it can be construed as insulting, but inside the BDSM community it is part of our jargon.

 

[cymbidia]

WD's sticky is important, and not just for BDSM'er; it has to stay.

R's sticky is a masterpiece which deserves far wider recognition and it has to stay, too.

I like mine, too, immodestly.

We have two options for the posting of the above rules/guideline:

1. A whole new sticky (the 4th one) authored by an Unregistered called The Lit BDSM Community

-or-

2. I will save the contents of my sticky, delete it, then cut 'n paste it all back with the above rules/guidelines included and renamed...what? What should it be renamed, should we want to pursue this course?



Vote, please.
Chime in.
Let your opinion matter!
(You, too, new people. )

 

[MissTaken]

I am not sure I see why it is necessary to make a guideline concerning the term "nilla."

Should then be a rule lit wide against referring to us as "freaks" etc.

It is my belief that this forum should be a safe place for us "freaks" to hang out, express ideas, share information and concerns and make friends. If someone not into the lifestyle enters a BDSM thread, they do so of their own volition. In the event that that thread has some discussion concerning "nilla", so be it.

When W/we post in the general board, we chose whether or not to discuss BDSM issues and thereby open ourselves to those who do not understand the lifestyle or issues. If someone flames me for discussing nipple clips on the General Board, I then, chose how and whether to respond. I know prior to posting about nipple clips that I am on foreign soil and then, need to be cognizant of the consequences of my post and deal with them. Perhaps apples and oranges, but I think not. (BTW, this did happen.)

I was here for the nilla wars. I believe that any derogatory use of the term is covered in first guideline.

Are you sure KM didn't have her tongue firmly implanted in her cheek when she suggested that guideline. I wasn't certain.

If you chose to stick with the "nilla" rule, then there should be a list of banned terms concerning many other facets of the lifestyle and life in general.

This just doesn't sit right with me....the no nilla rule.

 

[MissTaken]

Re: stickies

You could have one sticky devoted to safety which would include both WD's and Risia's posts. Then, as other important writings are tossed into the board, they could be added if it seemed appropriate.


Then, a second sticky concerning our BDSM Community.

If there are too many stickies, none will be read.

 

[cymbidia]

The "nilla" point is well-taken, MissT; consider that part erased.

I think it's important to have all the mods have their own sticky which is why the three sticky thing has to stay, i think.

Anything else for the Community Guidelines section of the thing or should that be dispensed with since i talk about all that stuff in my sticky anyway?

 

[MissTaken]

Should we define "spam?"

Is it only luring to another site?

Is it posting self promoting posts to link to stories at lit?

That might be helpful.....

Good Point on the stickies.

 

[WriterDom]

BDSM Forum Rules:

1. No spam
2. No personals ads
3. Treat others as you would like to be treated.


I don't like to get hung up on rules. Some people are assholes and will have to be dealt with. I can repost the online predator without the posts of others which will put it in equal footing with the other two stickys. cym can rewrite her sticky to include rules. That should move it to the top.