Ever have this happen?

[much2much]

You are having a party or are at one with your spouse. Everyone is having fun and flirting a bit once and a while. All of a sudden, you find yourself in a situation where someone elses spouse is going beyond the flirt zone and it is up to you to decide if you are taking the plunge or not?

 

[intrigued]

Define flirting.

And welcome to Lit.

Edited to say: define "beyond flirting".

 

[Guest]

I never flirt.

 

[Gil_Favor]

You are having a party or are at one with your spouse. Everyone is having fun and flirting a bit once and a while. All of a sudden, you find yourself in a situation where someone elses spouse is going beyond the flirt zone and it is up to you to decide if you are taking the plunge or not?

yes

 

[miles]

No.

 

[Nora]

You are having a party or are at one with your spouse. Everyone is having fun and flirting a bit once and a while. All of a sudden, you find yourself in a situation where someone elses spouse is going beyond the flirt zone and it is up to you to decide if you are taking the plunge or not?

Um...no. That's a gimme, as far as I'm concerned.

 

[much2much]

Thanks for the welcome Intrigued. Do you mean the initial flirting or the flirting boundary?

 

[intrigued]

Thanks for the welcome Intrigued. Do you mean the initial flirting or the flirting boundary?

The boundary, the point that you reached that troubles you.

 

[much2much]

The point where you feel so excited and want to go with it but are wrestling with the consequences.

 

[ma_guy]

Unless your wife is into 3 somes running off to the bedroom with a guest while your wife is in the living room hosting a party is usually considered bad etiquette.

 

[Gil_Favor]

The point where you feel so excited and want to go with it but are wrestling with the consequences.

consequences are a bitch

 

[intrigued]

The point where you feel so excited and want to go with it but are wrestling with the consequences.

Yes, I have in the past, but only in a fantasy kind of way. It's not something I could seriously consider, but I remember thinking "if only". I was unhappily married, but my mind just didn't go there, other than to realize that it would be nice to be free again.

Its not worth it.

 

[much2much]

No, my wife is pretty cool. Not those consequences. Neighbourhood politics stuff. You know, who wants to be on the cocktail circuit because somebody sobered up and might see things differently the following day.

 

[Nora]

Unless your wife is into 3 somes running off to the bedroom with a guest while your wife is in the living room hosting a party is usually considered bad etiquette.

And it's a good idea to make sure that the "lady" in question's husband isn't packing at the time.

 

[much2much]

Intrigued, I guess that was what I mean. Women are much better at fantasy for fantasy sake. Guys think that if they have these fantasies, it must mean that is what they would like to turn into reality.

I've never done this but it happens a lot and it takes a lot of restraint to hold back. Could this happen and just be for fun? I'd love to hear your perspective.

 

[curious2c]

Hmmm...similar thing happened to me. Wife was friends with gal next door, (her friend was at the time twenty-four, single parent, partier, and quite good-looking), her friend used our phone since she had just moved in and hers wasn't hooked up (took two months...I think money was tight for her) ...anyway...
Wife took a call for her as she was heading to the shower, told me to go get her. It was around eight a.m., and she was still in her nightrobe. She followed me over to our place then as she was talking to whoever and my wife was about eight feet away in the bathroom showering...she opened her robe and then proceeded to strip totally nude. I was sitting on our couch with a big problem developing. she hung up and then headed for me. I (like a real man) ran...outside...down the street...for about twenty minutes. When I got home my wife wondered where I had gone to..she was still talking to her 'friend' (who was back in her robe). I replied..."I was just out for a jog dear."

Some days later she tried again...but I stopped her cold. I tried to be nice...but very firm. worked sort of, she never tried to do that to me again, but she also tried to get my wife to think that I was the one trying to start something...took quite some time to get it all straightened out.

 

[Gil_Favor]

heres a hint, you dont cheat on your spouse especially with a neighbor.

 

[much2much]

Yeah, curious2c. That sort of thing. I live in a pretty extravagant house and it is amazing the things that come up like that. My wife and I are pretty open so we talk about these things and have a laugh but sometimes in a certain situation, I feel like I might not be able to resist.

 

[much2much]

Ladies help me out with this. These are situations where I am not the aggressor other than perhaps a bit of flirtaceous conversation. Any lit women who can relate to this? Perhaps a nice neighbour, fun to talk to, ......maybe he wa in a fantasy or two?