Ever Been Held Hostage In Someone Elses Heart...

[A.Wittlechubby]

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship that you just couldn't walk away from even tho you knew the relationship was eventualy going to end up as a reservation at the Heartbreak Hotel...

Why is it so hard to call it quits and move on...

Why do we hang onto an ounce of hope when we already know the outcome...

Why is it the more time invested in trying to work things out only makes things worse...

Why do we fight all the time and then try to justify the fighting as communicating...

Why do we purposely do things that we know will irritate the other person...

Why is it that relationships become a game of playing mental trump cards...

How many times can you say "I'm sorry" before the words don't have any affect...

What is it about someone else that makes breaking up 100X harder than everyone else you ever had a relationship with...

There has to be at least one of these people that you've fell in love with only to realize that you're a hostage in their heart and while moving on in life and finding someone else is the right thing to do, you can't escape that special something that keeps you locked up and in love with them...

~i~

 

[Laurel]

No.

 

[Reverie]

BEEN THERE
DONE THAT
CAN'T EXPLAIN IT

Maybe we're all masochists at heart?

 

[glamorilla]

most of the time we're more in love with the idea of being in love.

 

[Angel]

Hrm.

I promised I'd answer, so I am. Although it's kind of difficult at the moment since the person I'm referring to is kinda back.

Why is it so hard to call it quits and move on...

Hope? Love? Probably some fucked up combonation of both. I'm still not able to figure it out.

Why do we hang onto an ounce of hope when we already know the outcome...

Oops, kind of answered that already.

Why is it the more time invested in trying to work things out only makes things worse...

Heh, it probably doesn't really make it worse - it probably just feels that when when you're the only one trying anymore. And if the other person has already moved on, it's pointless and you're just making things worse for yourself.

Why do we fight all the time and then try to justify the fighting as communicating...

Because you're trying to make things work - and you'll justify anything just to have it go the right way.

Why do we purposely do things that we know will irritate the other person...

Cause love is more than just an emotion, it's a logic puzzle.

Why is it that relationships become a game of playing mental trump cards...

Wtf, see above.

How many times can you say "I'm sorry" before the words don't have any affect...

Well, it depends. How many empty apologies have there been? Kind of hard to tell the difference when faced with a real one. On the other hand, if they're all genuine - why exactly is there a need to say them in the first place.

What is it about someone else that makes breaking up 100X harder than everyone else you ever had a relationship with...

Duno. Kind of helps when they don't pop back in and out of your life and give you no time to get over them.


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Then again, I still haven't figured out if the popping back in is a good thing or a bad thing yet.

 

[Guru]

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

yeah, and it pisses me off that I don't have the ovaries to tell him about it. The sad thing is, I can't even call him my SO anymore. I mean the feeling is mutual I'm sure. Just that neither one of us wants to call it quits.

I have to agree with Glam. We all just want to be loved. We'll hang on to the even the slightest glimmer of hope that things will be alright.

You know, women have just as much fear of rejection as men do.

 

[Starfish]

People only like change when it is certain. If we are uncertain, we cling to the little things and they are strong enough to make us cling because they feel 'safe'. We know those things, we absorb their familiarity as a comfort and they make us feel good. We sort of cling to known territory because that comfort reminds us of what we loved about a person in the first place, and sometimes love is simply an amplified delusion we create to feel good or at least partly normal.