Etiquette Question

[IG_88]

I've mentioned this before but it bears repeating, if you're on a dating app and use a snap with one of those stupid cat or dog filter things then fuck you. I'm swiping left cuz you're stupid enough to think that's a good pic of you. Either you're being dishonest about your appearance or you're just an asshat. Either way...left.

 

[Notcastor]

I've mentioned this before but it bears repeating, if you're on a dating app and use a snap with one of those stupid cat or dog filter things then fuck you. I'm swiping left cuz you're stupid enough to think that's a good pic of you. Either you're being dishonest about your appearance or you're just an asshat. Either way...left.

Real people using fantasy avatars to represent their desires.

Sounds like a discussion forum i post on now and then.

 

[oggbashan]

My best friend was diagnosed with that same hearing condition ( the part where background noise drowns out those talking to you) at a relatively young age, so i know of what you speak.

I gave up playing in bands due to hearing loss; he still plays, in four bands no less, but those are extraneous to the point.

The rest of your post is amusingly familiar too.

The intersection of Curmudgeon and Hearing Loss; is it chicken and egg?

Curmudgeon?

Possibly. The effort involved in communication means that meaningless chatter is a nuisance.

But...

Want another beer? Always gets through clearly.

It's your turn to pay? Doesn't.

 

[CandiCame]

I also hate this, but it's always been like this. I just have to keep like 12 conversations going at once and playing all in my head. I hate it but like... I've never thought there might be any other option.

And tbh it seems like no one has presented one.

This is just how communication works now. People who want to send pms or dms are gonna do it, and you're an asshole if you don't reply. I'll do that thing where I get the alert, but then I don't open the app, because then it won't see 'read' and I have plausible deniability.

I also have a couple discord servers for group chats, but that doesn't help people who want to talk alone. I don't know. I don't know why people think you owe them your time. It's fucking maddening. But that's just how it is.

So that's my one tip. Don't read it right away. Don't leave them on read and they won't know you saw it and then you can be like, "Oh no I didn't see it! Phone, how dare you not give me my alerts! Our robot overlords have failed this friendship, not me!"

Like the fucking robot can't defend itself YET. It'll have your back.

Interestingly, the closer you are to me, the more likely I'll leave you on read. It's a sign of trust. That I feel like we're close enough that you're not gonna get mad at me if I don't drop everything and look at some stupid fucking picture or someshit.

And if you message me and I don't know you you can probably just fuck right off. It's really rare that I'll reply. But people do that a lot for some reason, especially on older platforms like facebook. People who have no buisness trying to talk to me. Like, "hey remember me? We went to highschool together." Or "I got to church with your gf" Or "I bought something from your bf one time" or the DREADED "I like your picture, how you doin'?"

Shitty. I'm always doing shitty. I will sometimes respond to those honestly because they piss me off in the hopes that it'll just scare the person off. Because honestly like... fuck off.

And the thing is, I know that's a mean, jaded attitude to have but like... I don't think it used to be like this before everyone had phones? Like I think people, at some point in human history, could have five goddamn minutes to themselves.

But the flip side of it is, I know how bad it pisses me off when someone doesn't answer me. My little brother is REAL bad to not answer me. And I don't message my brother to fuck around- if I message him I need something. More than once I've barged into his room like, "Hey dipshit check your FUCKING DISCORD. I HAD TO WALK THROUGH THE HOUSE LIKE AN ANIMAL. ON MY HUMAN LEGS."

No one should have to do that in this day and age.

 

[CandiCame]

I've mentioned this before but it bears repeating, if you're on a dating app and use a snap with one of those stupid cat or dog filter things then fuck you. I'm swiping left cuz you're stupid enough to think that's a good pic of you. Either you're being dishonest about your appearance or you're just an asshat. Either way...left.

I straight-up don't like dating apps. My gf uses those and so often the guys on there are creepy as fuck. Like you wanna talk about being bombarded with messages. They blow up your phone even if you don't respond to them.

Like dude maybe she's just not into you shut the fuck up.

I had an account for like a month on tinder, because she likes it and she actually has hooked up a couple times through there- and it made me want to pull my fucking hair out.

I don't know if it's just our area or what but like... the desperation... is thick...

I feel like maybe I just don't like people as much as I did when I was younger.

 

[Que]

Lies!

Nonsense. I sent it telepathically.

Not to put too fine a point on it. . .but unlless communication is robustly mutual- it's just mental masturbation.

You burden me with your questions
You'd have me tell no lies
You're always asking what it's all about
But don't listen to my replies
You say to me I don't talk enough
But when I do I'm a fool
These times I've spent, I've realized
I'm going to shoot through
And leave you

The things, you say
Your purple prose just gives you away
The things, you say
You're unbelievable​

 

[Debbie]

I don't think it is rude to tell people sorry I am busy at the moment or I am talking to someone else but if I can I'll catch up with you later.

Now if the humans in my household don't come when they are called for dinner and I have to log into discord to message them because they're talking to other gamers I will put on my angry face and TELL THEM OFF IN CAPS. Just kidding.

 

[Luk]

Tsk tsk. I am not going to mentally masturbate you, query. We’ve had that talk before.

You also put him in the friendzone.

 

[Que]

Oh boy, calm down. He never wanted to be anywhere else. It was a joke. Query has never been anything but nice in my interactions with him on the HT.

There was that one time when I dipped your ponytail in the inkwell. . .

 

[Luk]

Seen on Rainshine's Cabriolet...

https://i.imgur.com/z91A4lZ.jpg

 

[Luk]

https://i.imgur.com/sgwxOS1.jpg

 

[Luk]

Oh... that’s cute.

Crushing the dream, I’m straight up soccer mum cliche. I drive a VW Tiguan.

I was giving you the benefit of the doubt. I almost posted a 1996 Dodge Caravan

 

[Dribble]

This is the GB for fucks sake...etiquette is for losers

 

[Ann_Tagonist]

I keep running into this problem. Too many people wanting to talk to me at once. Either PMs on here, Skype, Kik, other places on the Internet, or even phone calls. This is one reason I started my party thread. I figured that way, people could all talk to me at once. However...

Most of the people I communicate with want privacy and/or want to talk to me alone. So... What should I do? I have resorted to just leaving Lit for a time and telling people that I'm busy. I hate having to play favorites. I hate feeling like I'm rude as in telling one person that I'm talking to another. Unless of course I am talking about something important and then of course I will at least say that.

Sometimes I will say that I was talking to another person first. This seems reasonable. But sometimes I really would prefer talking to the person who contacted me 2nd or 3rd or... I know, I know. I shouldn't talk so many people at once. And sometimes I simply can't do what they might want me to do, even if the desire to do it.

So... How do you guys and gals handle this sort of thing? Thanks!

Sounds like you need to raise your prices.

 

[Jada59]

You said you have enough PMs.

True.

 

[Jada59]

Sounds like you need to raise your prices.

OMG!

 

[Jada59]

There is no reason for you to feel guilty, you can PM or otherwise communicate with whoever you want on your terms.

That's true. Guess I just have to set some parameters. Thanks!

 

[twister947]

I have a mobile phone used two or three times a YEAR.

My landline has two or three calls a week.

Why?

Because I have hearing problems with telephones. I tell friends and family to use email. I can sort and select which emails to respond to, and in which order, when convenient to me.

Advertising cold calls? My response is "Sorry. I can't hear you." The cold calling has reduced dramatically.

If I want to talk to someone, they have to be in front of me and with no distracting other noises in the room. Going to most restaurants? I won't hear my companion(s) unless they speak directly into my ear.

I can understand my father's attitude in his old age. If he didn't want to converse, he would turn off his hearing aids, take one out of an ear, hit it a couple of times and say "They're not working. You'll have to write what you want to say."

That reduced his contact with assholes.

Exactly.

Text me so I can hear you.