Escorts - 1st time

[fenghuang]

I am looking at engaging the services of an escort for the first time. It's a little daunting (sometimes) and feels absolutely fine the rest of the time.
But since it's something I have no experience of, can someone tell me what it's like and how does the hour usually pan out?

 

[human_male]

Have you seen this thread? Saddly the author isn't around because she was really helpful but you may find some insight.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=635470

And also read my amusing (or tiresome depending on who you ask) misadventures.

I went to a brothel once and it had it's good points and bad points. All I can suggest based on that experience is that the girl definitely had a fixed routine in mind that she stormed ahead with despite what I wanted. So if you get one that for example starts with a massage, and you don't particularly want a massage tell her that you don't. Have an idea what you want to do, and discuss it with her beforehand to make sure she's ok with that.

I'm going again at the end of the month when I have some time off work. It makes me nervous as hell too, but it's just something you have to deal with.

Is it legal where you are? Are you going to a brothel or private? Where did you find out about her?

I'd be interested to hear how it goes.

 

[fenghuang]

I read through that thread a while ago and sent the author message, but sadly no reply. Pity, as she was in the UK too, so familiar with local customs.
(Where do I reed of your misadventures?)

AFAIK escorting is legal in the UK as (technically) you're just paying to spend time with someone. What happens beyond that is (technically) just between those involved.

I found the woman I'm thinking of booking through her own website and have exchanged a couple of emails with her. She's been helpfull and understanding with respect to noobie-ism, but (on one small and relatively insignificant detail at least) isn't say yes to everything ... which I take as a good sign - you can get too good to be true!

I can't say for sure I'll visit her, but if I do I'll let you know.

 

[human_male]

I read through that thread a while ago and sent the author message, but sadly no reply. Pity, as she was in the UK too, so familiar with local customs.
(Where do I reed of your misadventures?)

AFAIK escorting is legal in the UK as (technically) you're just paying to spend time with someone. What happens beyond that is (technically) just between those involved.

I found the woman I'm thinking of booking through her own website and have exchanged a couple of emails with her. She's been helpfull and understanding with respect to noobie-ism, but (on one small and relatively insignificant detail at least) isn't say yes to everything ... which I take as a good sign - you can get too good to be true!

I can't say for sure I'll visit her, but if I do I'll let you know.

My misadventures are in that thread.

You've got lucky it seems. The couple of private escorts I've emailed, one ignored me outright (because of all my newb questions) and the other said I should see someone else because I asked if I could meet her first before we made an appointment. I'm concerned about booking someone then not liking her, and what the protocol was in that situation. Is there an obligation or can you just leave? Anyway she seemed to be slightly offended.

The two that I've actually phoned also ignored me and never pick up and don't reply to my messages. My luck with professionals is just as good as my luck with women in general it seems.

I hope it goes well for you if you decide to go ahead. Keep us posted.

 

[SassySheDevil]

So let me ask a dumb girl question. Why do men chose to pay for services like these? Can you really not find women willing to do these acts?

 

[Somehowyou]

So let me ask a dumb girl question. Why do men chose to pay for services like these? Can you really not find women willing to do these acts?

When you get in your 40's you still may want a girl in your 20's and unless your rich and famous you may have to pay for it (No offense because I like woman in their 30's, 40's, and yes even 50's too). Some men have a fantasy that their S.O. refuses to fulfill. So they have to pay for it. This is better than having an affair with your secretary or her girl friend or the neighbor. Some men have a S.O. and may want a change of pace. Some men are lonely and need some intimacy and the opposite sex is not interested or attracted to them unless they pay them. Some men are too busy to have a relationship or do not want to complicate life with too much drama.

From what I understand, Go to the German FKKs, Thailand, or many of the cities in Canada such Montreal,Toronto, Vancouver etc. Read the reviews on TER and other equivalent sites. They will tell you where to go and who to see. Study the reviews and do not be fooled by air brushed glam photos and stolen photos. There will be threads at some of these sites which tell you what agencies or girls to avoid. Know the local laws. For example, in Canada, outcalls (girl comes to your hotel) are legal but picking a girl up of the streets is illegal. Practice safe sex although almost no call girl will go bareback anyway.

Do not Hobby in the States!

 

[infinity706]

So let me ask a dumb girl question. Why do men chose to pay for services like these? Can you really not find women willing to do these acts?

Well, based on the number of married guys I've had come to me, (I'm not even pro) I'd assume that a lot of them are cheating on their wife/girlfriend that either won't put out or won't do some act that they want. I have a feeling that they probably make up the majority of those paying for escort services, since a pro will very likely keep it a secret. Sure, there are probably a few that want to fuck a younger woman and can't get one or, for whatever reason, haven't gotten their hands on a woman lately (or ever), but they're probably only a small fraction of the escort customer base.

Now, as for women that get one, I have a feeling that most of them want a discreet, no strings hookup on their terms. Of course, that would only be an issue for women with money and an image to protect.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Ok I guess I understand the discreet part of it. I guess I just think too much like a woman and would want emotional attraction too. I forget that some people don't want that. It seems so blah to just fuck someone and then pay them for it.

 

[Somehowyou]

Ok I guess I understand the discreet part of it. I guess I just think too much like a woman and would want emotional attraction too. I forget that some people don't want that. It seems so blah to just fuck someone and then pay them for it.

OK, I guess I understand where you are coming from. This may surprise you but sometimes men try to fool themselves when they are with Service Providers and pretend its real and the girls that are "GFE" will reciprocate. That's what the "GFE" Girl Friend Entertainment is all about. Some pretty young French girl 20 y.o. meets you for drinks, she's talking dirty to you in French, kissing you passionately, cuddling after sex, sharing a bottle of wine with you in bed, romance, intimacy etc. and for that 1 -2 hours you think your in young again. You can trick your calloused heart into thinking that you can love again.

 

[kaycee217]

Ok I guess I understand the discreet part of it. I guess I just think too much like a woman and would want emotional attraction too. I forget that some people don't want that. It seems so blah to just fuck someone and then pay them for it.

"Business is business" or so the saying goes.

 

[SassySheDevil]

OK, I guess I understand where you are coming from. This may surprise you but sometimes men try to fool themselves when they are with Service Providers and pretend its real and the girls that are "GFE" will reciprocate. That's what the "GFE" Girl Friend Entertainment is all about. Some pretty young French girl 20 y.o. meets you for drinks, she's talking dirty to you in French, kissing you passionately, cuddling after sex, sharing a bottle of wine with you in bed, romance, intimacy etc. and for that 1 -2 hours you think your in young again. You can trick your calloused heart into thinking that you can love again.

So they actully do this? With their service comes "romance"? If that's the case I could see it. I guess I Just pictured, "can we do this and get it over with so I can go buy some new shoes"

 

[Somehowyou]

So they actully do this? With their service comes "romance"? If that's the case I could see it. I guess I Just pictured, "can we do this and get it over with so I can go buy some new shoes"

Yes. But it is up to the hobbyist. I can tell you that it takes all kinds and most hobbyists like the romance aspect.

 

[infinity706]

Ok I guess I understand the discreet part of it. I guess I just think too much like a woman and would want emotional attraction too. I forget that some people don't want that. It seems so blah to just fuck someone and then pay them for it.

It's not really a lack of enjoying emotional attraction. Even with my triple digits of hookups, I still enjoy it. The difference is not requiring one person to fulfill all your needs. Said guy can probably still get the emotional attraction from his wife/girlfriend even if she doesn't spread her legs. It all comes down to whether you can seperate sex and emotions.

Besides, an escort is as least going to fake enjoying him/herself. In some cases, the sex is even quite good, so no faking is necessary. It's not like everyone that hires a prostitute or hooks up lacks the skill to be a spectacular fuck.

 

[SassySheDevil]

It's not really a lack of enjoying emotional attraction. Even with my triple digits of hookups, I still enjoy it. The difference is not requiring one person to fulfill all your needs. Said guy can probably still get the emotional attraction from his wife/girlfriend even if she doesn't spread her legs. It all comes down to whether you can seperate sex and emotions.

Besides, an escort is as least going to fake enjoying him/herself. In some cases, the sex is even quite good, so no faking is necessary. It's not like everyone that hires a prostitute or hooks up lacks the skill to be a spectacular fuck.

Ok but this is where I got confused as to why you'd (or any person, not meaning you) pay for this. I'd think you could get this off craigslist, or even on here or anyother hook up site.

 

[SweetErika]

Ok but this is where I got confused as to why you'd (or any person, not meaning you) pay for this. I'd think you could get this off craigslist, or even on here or anyother hook up site.

I'm guessing that leads back to the list of reasons earlier in the thread. An attached guy may not want to risk meeting a nut on CL or Lit who could reveal the relationship to his partner. A lot of guys are unwilling or unable to put in the time and effort required to develop even an NSA-type relationship here or on CL - developing a sexual relationship of any type often requires more than a call/visit to a prostitute. Maybe the guy isn't appealing enough to find the type of partner or relationship he wants - he could be unattractive, have a lousy personality, be a poor communicator, have some kind of condition (even an STI) that makes him less desirable to traditional potential partners, etc. Or perhaps he wants something that very few non-professionals are willing to do, particularly with a new person or one-nighter.

Most people probably could get what they sought without paying IF they were willing to spruce themselves up and put in a significant amount of time and effort, but many figure the potential cost of doing so (in time, effort, money) far outweighs the cost of seeing a professional.

As a woman, I can't really imagine paying for sexual services because I can pretty much pick who I want to be with for free, but a lot of men don't have that option due to societal/cultural norms.

 

[human_male]

So let me ask a dumb girl question. Why do men chose to pay for services like these? Can you really not find women willing to do these acts?

I can only speak for myself but basically yes, I can't find women willing to do these acts. And in my case "these acts" is any kind of physical contact. The one time I went I didn't even intend to have sex. I would have rather not actually, she just went ahead and did it (I would have frankly felt stupid refusing considering the circumstances). The next time I go I will be more insistent with what I want and probably not have sex. I'd like to just touch, cuddle, hopefully kiss (most won't), and maybe a bit of a chat.

I'm willing to pay for this because this is the only way I can get it. Would you like to go twenty, thirty, forty years without any physical contact or intimacy?

Most people probably could get what they sought without paying IF they were willing to spruce themselves up and put in a significant amount of time and effort, but many figure the potential cost of doing so (in time, effort, money) far outweighs the cost of seeing a professional.

I spruced myself up when I went. It seemed the considerate thing to do. Clean socks and everything.

 

[AliveInside]

So let me ask a dumb girl question. Why do men chose to pay for services like these? Can you really not find women willing to do these acts?

Yes. Some of us just aren't very good with women.

 

[fenghuang]

I think it's a bit like asking "why climb Everest?" If you have to ask you'll probably never understand. (I don't mean that as dismissive of those that need to ask in any way at all!)
Everyone is different and everyone has their reasons. It doesn't have to be about being able to attract someone, or being willing to make an effort, or even circumstances. It might be some of those, or all of them, but there are any number of possible reasons why. Obviously there are usually other ways to get what you want sexually. All with their own pros and cons. The only real diference is which, and how you choose.

To be fair, if the question is asked at all, rather than "why do men ..." it should be "why do people ..." The norm may be gender biased but in it is not mono-polar.

 

[tsgirl4fun]

The more you pay; the more they will do for you.

 

[tsgirl4fun]

So let me ask a dumb girl question. Why do men chose to pay for services like these? Can you really not find women willing to do these acts?

LOL! Funny as hell!

 

[infinity706]

Ok but this is where I got confused as to why you'd (or any person, not meaning you) pay for this. I'd think you could get this off craigslist, or even on here or anyother hook up site.

Honestly, I wouldn't even go to most hookup sites. There's way too many idiots, a ton of bots, viruses and all kinds of other stupid shit to go through. They're also mostly dominated by men (not a problem for me, but for some people) There's also the problem of getting stood up way too much. I've even rented special rooms to meet people and they never bothered to show up .

I'm guessing that leads back to the list of reasons earlier in the thread. An attached guy may not want to risk meeting a nut on CL or Lit who could reveal the relationship to his partner. A lot of guys are unwilling or unable to put in the time and effort required to develop even an NSA-type relationship here or on CL - developing a sexual relationship of any type often requires more than a call/visit to a prostitute. Maybe the guy isn't appealing enough to find the type of partner or relationship he wants - he could be unattractive, have a lousy personality, be a poor communicator, have some kind of condition (even an STI) that makes him less desirable to traditional potential partners, etc. Or perhaps he wants something that very few non-professionals are willing to do, particularly with a new person or one-nighter.

Most people probably could get what they sought without paying IF they were willing to spruce themselves up and put in a significant amount of time and effort, but many figure the potential cost of doing so (in time, effort, money) far outweighs the cost of seeing a professional.

As a woman, I can't really imagine paying for sexual services because I can pretty much pick who I want to be with for free, but a lot of men don't have that option due to societal/cultural norms.

I seriously doubt it has that much to do with you being a woman. You can get what you want because you have the confidence, charisma, social skills, beauty, and the experience to know exactly what you want. It's not really fair to put such a mantle on women in general, just because you're one hot mama. I know tons of women that would be envious of your position and would possibly pick up the phone right now if they had the money and the number for an escort that would rock their world. Sure, women do have some advantages, like sexy clothing or the general perception that women have an edge, but there's plenty of disadvantage, too. Not even the size 0s have it easy like a lot of people assume. It does at least as much harm as it helps. Sure, it can attract guys looking for a trophy, but it also scares off tons of guys that assume that she's 'out of their league.' The field is actually much more biased by confidence.

 

[Turned]

The more you pay; the more they will do for you.

This is absolutely NOT the case.

 

[fenghuang]

This is absolutely NOT the case.

Are you prepared to share any more thoughts on the matter?

 

[texasm31]

The hour should be fine, especially if it is "legal" where you are. But in any case, they are professionals and deal with these situations all the time. I am not sure what the protocol is there but in the us there is sort of a code of what to do so you don't look like a fool or put the provider into an uncomfortable situation, which makes things easier on everyone and allows her to relax and provide more enjoyment for you.

 

[fenghuang]

... I am not sure what the protocol is there but in the us there is sort of a code of what to do ...

What's the US protocol?