Enema before anal?

[logophile]

Hello!

I'm new to the board, but I have a question I really want to ask, and I'm so glad I've found a place to ask it!

My ex husband and I had anal sex a few times when we were dating, but it was always really painful for me. I ASSumed at the time that it was because he was so large, but now that I've been reading around, it seems that it's also probably because we didn't use enough lube or time or clit stim. All of the above!

Anyway, I'm seeing this guy now that loves loves loves anal play and is actually really good at making it good. He can't eat pussy for anything, but I've never had anyone work my ass like that. I'm seriously thinking of suggesting we try anal sex sometime.

I keep reading on here about using an enema before hand to clean yourself out, but I've never had an enema. What kind is recommended? Do most anal enthusiasts recommend this? Does it make for a more comfortable experience, just cleaner (which is extremely important..)?

Thanks for the help!
Warmly,
LogoPhile

 

[red_jane_doe]

Any enema is fine. Fleet is the most known I believe. It just makes it much more clean. I would do it a few hours before, not just right before because it can take a while for the process to be complete.

 

[SummerMorning]

wouldn't just plain old warm water work as well?

 

[Honey123]

wouldn't just plain old warm water work as well?

Ah, geez...men!

I have never had a problem with anal sex....you really have to be in the mood and really enjoy it.

The moment you clench up and can't relax - just forget about it.

I believe using lube and a condom works the best, at least for me.

But depending on the size of the man, your arousal must be to the point of NO RETURN.....

Good luck...have fun...relax

 

[Etoile]

Ah, geez...men!

I have never had a problem with anal sex....you really have to be in the mood and really enjoy it.

The moment you clench up and can't relax - just forget about it.

I believe using lube and a condom works the best, at least for me.

But depending on the size of the man, your arousal must be to the point of NO RETURN.....

Good luck...have fun...relax

That wasn't the question.

 

[Etoile]

Any enema is fine. Fleet is the most known I believe. It just makes it much more clean. I would do it a few hours before, not just right before because it can take a while for the process to be complete.

Originally posted by SummerMorning
wouldn't just plain old warm water work as well?

Both right! Dumping out a Fleet enema (buy at any drugstore) and replacing the solution with warm water is the easiest way to have an enema. The reason for dumping out the solution is that it can be irritating to internal tissues.

Is an enema required for satisfying anal play? No! But it does make things a lot more fun, in my opinion, because the fear of feces isn't there anymore.

See also: the enema faq.

 

[curiousjen]

I've never had an enema before anal and I've had it plenty of times and nothing disgusting has ever happened. At least that you can see. I'd never even HEARD of one until a few days ago reading some BDSM stuff.

*sigh* I'm so new to all this really.

Sorry i can't be a bit more helpful

 

[Etoile]

I've never had an enema before anal and I've had it plenty of times and nothing disgusting has ever happened. At least that you can see. I'd never even HEARD of one until a few days ago reading some BDSM stuff.

That's absolutely true, enemas are not required to have a good time with anal play. But a lot of people are scared that their ass (or their partner's) will be dirty so it's more a peace of mind thing.

As for enemas being BDSM related, it's true that they are used in kinky play. However that does not mean an enema is BDSM! In fact they are given every day in hospitals all over the world. Enemas (and fisting) are used when giving birth, prior to certain procedures, etc. Even in the bedroom an enema does not mean BDSM, it just means cleanliness.

 

[logophile]

I really appreciate all of your replies. Still thinking this whole thing over and it sounds better and better all the time.

Spank you all very much!

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Go to the drug store and buy a nice clean new red rubber hot water bottle. The one that comes in a box. And lo and behold - all the attachments needed for a proper enema come right along with it! Directions too.

I would suggest starting with only half a bottle of luke warm water. And yes - give yourself an hour before you plan on having sex - just to make sure everything is done! I find it relaxing and makes for nice clean comfortable anal. Or sometimes even if you're not thinking of having anal.... or maybe that's just me..... lol