Endless Curiosity

[Wild_Honey_66]

You can recommend it, yep!

<snicker>

 

[ViciousTease]

Squick? I sometimes find myself completely lost.

LOL Today's question was submitted by a fellow Litster. While I'd not heard the term before, it sounded fun so I left it. I'm interpreting it as squeamish/icky. I may be wrong, though.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Lit is a place to explore sexual interests. Most of us try to be open-minded, even if what’s on the table isn’t exactly or cup of tea. After all, if a thread’s content holds no interest, it’s simple enough to wander off. But, what if it becomes more personal? What if you’re chatting with a Litster and a little item comes up that seriously squicks you out? Not necessarily during sexy talk, perhaps just general conversation. Do you say something? Bite you tongue and avoid further conversation? Do your best to ignore the information, run screaming into the night?

When talking to someone for the first time, I try to be as open minded as possible.

In general, if something "squicks" me during a conversation, I at east try to let it go unless it gets made into a major topic. If it becomes a major topic, I calmly state my opinion, then see where it goes. I may still become friends with someone, but I may not go further depending on the issue.

One squick should not disqualify a person. I have had people break of conversations due to my politeness and kindness because they expected more douchey.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I have a morbid curiosity and am willing the entertain conversations about things that people find sexy, even if I don't as it's FASCINATING to me. You can be sure to lose my interest pretty quickly if the mention of cum and anything above my neck leaks out. I'm mentally allergic to fellatio.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

my "squicks" include shit and piss play, blood, incest, seduction of married men/women and copious amounts of cum or bukkake *insert barf emoji here*

I don't mind people having their kink, just don't expect me to share your interest or be even the least bit inclined to share it with you when I say "nope, no thank you."

Case in point... Had some conversations with a golden shower boy once a while back, and he wouldn't let it go. Kept asking with EVERY FUCKING CONVERSATION what had I had to eat or drink that day, then proceed to tell me what my pee would probably taste like.

Dude.

What part of politely saying, "I'm not interested, can we talk about something else?" was foreign to you.

So, no, I'm not judgemental until you try and force it down my throat, and then all I am is angry that I now have to be mean to make you go away.

Incest guy was another one.

Ok, I get it, you love the idea of loving your mother, but when a girl says "No, I'm not interested in writing that.... " again, there are plenty of people on here that DO, so why do you run along and find one if them?

A lot of Listers with arrested development...

Have your kinks, but stick to your threads, yanno?

 

[ViciousTease]

It still feels weird to quote myself, so I'll just reference the question by saying "squick".

There are so many layers to kink and fetish, it really depends. There are things I love, some I like, and many I am curious about. There are a number of things that don't interest me at all, and a few that I find icky.

If I'm talking with someone and they have a kink that isn't in my wheelhouse, I will just say that's not for me and we can move back to mutual kinks.

If someone has a true fetish, I find that they have trouble leaving it out of any sexual conversation. The hard core fetish folks can't seem to keep it out of even the most mundane conversations. That's when I have to walk away. If I'm not into it, I'm not into it. I don't like football eek. If you want to talk football for a few minutes, I'm cool. If you can't talk about anything else, then we aren't likely to engage in future conversations.

I love baseball, but I'm not going to talk about it endlessly. If you like baseball, you get it so what really needs to be said? If you don't ... well, I'll point out that you're broken, but then I'll let it go. You have every right to be wrong.

 

[Trekka]

I'm just honest with people. "To each their own, but I'm not super into that," seems to suffice. I don't overthink.

 

[Endless_Night]

As to the "squick" question:

I’ve never had a conversation take this kind of turn, though I can certainly see where it would be awkward, to say the least. There is certainly sexual stuff that “squicks” me out. I had no idea just how much stuff until I found Lit!

There are threads I avoid. I’ve also seen people mention online encounters where things have gone south quickly due to, errr…differing interests.

I’d always try to remain polite during conversation, for sure. If it were a purely platonic conversation chances are I would just ignore the reference. A potential romantic interest? Well, how icky would make a difference. High ick or squick would probably be a deal breaker.

But I’m a prude, so….

 

[Endless_Night]

< I don't like football eek. >

Holy Cow! And here I thought I was the only woman in Texas so afflicted.

 

[1sickbastard]

Holy Cow! And here I thought I was the only woman in Texas so afflicted.

There's at least one man in this state who may not exactly dislike football, but have little to no active interest in it.

 

[ViciousTease]

Holy Cow! And here I thought I was the only woman in Texas so afflicted.

LOL Nope, you're not alone. I've tried to like it. I was even on the Pep Squad back in high school. I just don't see the appeal.

 

[JennyNo1]

Holy Cow! And here I thought I was the only woman in Texas so afflicted.

There's at least one man in this state who may not exactly dislike football, but have little to no active interest in it.

Should we start a "Football Free Club"? I'm in!

Squick....usually when I'm talking to someone about kinky stuff, the first part of the conversation includes finding out what each other's squick limits are. That pretty much ensures the rest of the conversation will be squick free.

I like this word.....squick squick squick squick squick.

 

[Endless_Night]

There's at least one man in this state who may not exactly dislike football, but have little to no active interest in it.

Eureka! One more!

LOL Nope, you're not alone. I've tried to like it. I was even on the Pep Squad back in high school. I just don't see the appeal.

Drill team. And, nope. Never could figure out the enthusiasm for the sport. It's sort of like boxing....

Should we start a "Football Free Club"? I'm in!

It's a foursome!

 

[Endless_Night]

I like this word.....squick squick squick squick squick.

A good thread is known for increasing one's vocabulary.

 

[julybaby04]

I have one now.....

Curious as to why guys can be such jerks?

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Eureka! One more!



Drill team. And, nope. Never could figure out the enthusiasm for the sport. It's sort of like boxing....



It's a foursome!

One moresome

 

[*Twisted*]

I have one now.....

Curious as to why guys can be such jerks?

I think too many guys see Lit as a sex site and therefore normal decorum doesn't apply. There are a lot of stupid people in the world and many of them see online as a way to be tactless and think well "she's on a sex site she must be a slut" instead of seeing the person on the other side as a person who just like any other woman wants to be respected... On the flip side, I've been catfished on this site before so it's not just a guy thing, the women are just more subtle.

 

[Endless_Night]

One moresome

I'm beginning to wonder who is actually watching football in Texas.

I have one now.....

Curious as to why guys can be such jerks?

Do you mean someone just "squicked" you out?

 

[ViciousTease]

I have one now.....

Curious as to why guys can be such jerks?

All men are capable of it (as all women are capable of bitchiness), but some seem to take a great deal of pride in excelling at it. I've never met a jerk who was rewarded for his reprehensible behavior, so I don't understand their motivation.

Hmm, I work with a woman who takes pride in being the biggest bitch possible. I don't understand her either.

When did kindness and honesty go out of fashion?

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

I have one now.....

Curious as to why guys can be such jerks?

You mean like making sexist comments and such? Yeah

I'm beginning to wonder who is actually watching football in Texas.

Vinnie!!

 

[Endless_Night]

I think too many guys see Lit as a sex site and therefore normal decorum doesn't apply. There are a lot of stupid people in the world and many of them see online as a way to be tactless and think well "she's on a sex site she must be a slut" instead of seeing the person on the other side as a person who just like any other woman wants to be respected... On the flip side, I've been catfished on this site before so it's not just a guy thing, the women are just more subtle.

I saw an example of this on the GB a while back. Some guy popped into the forum and said something along the lines that he was working a long shift (like two weeks) and demanded women show him their panties!

You can imagine how that went over.

But, seriously, why do people think normal curtsies don't apply to a sex site. Would you walk into a bar and demand all the women get naked?

You mean like making sexist comments and such? Yeah



Vinnie!!

Ah ha! Yes.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

All curtsies should immediately apply here! I'm in!

 

[Endless_Night]

All curtsies should immediately apply here! I'm in!

Curtsies? Or curiosities?

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Curtsies? Or curiosities?

Yes!

 

[Endless_Night]

Yes!

Curious curtsies?