Endless Curiosity

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Hey, I can type pretty good with one hand.

Lol...

 

[*Twisted*]

I ignore people who don't like me or Troll me. I do spend time thinking about what I might have done to offend them but I don't allow it to effect my interactions on the threads..

In response to the OP, like a lot of you I ended up on lit first for the stories, then I spent time in the chatrooms back in the old days. I found myself getting validation that I was not and hadn't gotten in my relationship. I ended up on the forums because of Ampics and eventually ended up in the playground. I've not had a lot of room to move and meet people in the real world that I could be friends with so Lit provided me with good friends and even romantic relationships over the years. Even though I'm close to finalizing my exit from my current relationship I still love hanging with my virtual buddies!

 

[SassySheDevil]

How do you deal with trolls, are even people who just plain don’t like you. Do you ignore them? Put them on ignore? Throw down and get personal? Start trolling them back?

Does how they are trolling you make a difference as to how you react? Does the occasional snide little comment on one of your posts rate the same treatment as post stalking attacks? And how do you handle the passive aggressive hater, who never confronts you directly, instead dropping obvious little derogatory blurts about the board?

Always depends on the situation. Sometimes I ignore and sometimes I Just bite my tongue. Those few times I did open my mouth and say something back, people told me that my best friend must have been rubbing off on me cause that's not my behavior (which is not true cause I can be a bitch)
I did recently just keep my mouth shut when I found out someone was posting to purposely hurt me/make me jealous because I realized that they wouldn't do such a thing if they were not threatened by me in some way.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

This is a great question, and when I stopped to think about it it's really kind of surprising how much trolling goes on here by the regulars when you add in the passive aggressive snide bullshit.

I ignore most trolling. Just scroll past their troll but my iggy list is also employed, mostly as a result of unwanted PMs. I would never troll them back, what a waste of time. It's probably just what they want, no thank you!

I have never had a post stalker come after me aggressively to attack everything I posted, I really can't say what I would do. I hope I don't have to find out Snide remarks I can usually ignore, I mean everyone has a bad day, or responds to a post that strikes a negative chord in them, it's no big deal.

But the passive aggressive haters? :barfingicon: It's the number one way to get me to despise you. If you want to say something, just freaking say it and deal with the fall out. Better yet, take it to PM if it's personal and hack through it all with them in private. Go outside and scream at a tree, whatever. But being passive aggressive and then not owning up to it when called out, acting all innocent, it's pathetic. Repetitive snide remarks, smearing your negativity all over other posters, just fuck off and be a douche elsewhere. Oh yeah, and to answer the question, I will probably call you out on that, because passive aggressive people tend to abhor conflict, and will generally fuck off and stop their bullshit when called out. Unless they are psycho, in which case... DO NOT ENGAGE!

 

[Endless_Night]

Okay. I don’t have much insight on this topic but I am definitely interested in seeing other’s answers!

From watching the board the more overt trollers at least look easier to deal with. If they are really obnoxious they end up populating ignore lists. If it’s a person specific trolling, direct confrontation seems tricky. Either the troller gets slapped down, both participants look like idiots, or the trollee ends up looking the worse for wear. (I kinda hate that last option, it seems a little unfair.)

The passive aggressive stuff, on the other hand, strikes me as more difficult. Not to mention manipulative and childish and a host of other unattractive behaviors.

Myself? I’ve used to ignore button twice, and considered it for a third. Neither of the two I’ve used it for are still on the board.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

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I can write in full sentences AND I'm usually typing with two hands. (That already gives me the home field advantage ..lol

ROFL!
You're the best!

 

[Endless_Night]

This is a great question, and when I stopped to think about it it's really kind of surprising how much trolling goes on here by the regulars when you add in the passive aggressive snide bullshit. <snip>

This^ is so surprisingly true. It's not something I noticed originally, but once I became more in tune with board ebb and flow - yikes!

I now want a :barfingicon:

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I can only remember one woman trolling me. She'd write PMs to be saying she, "was on to me," and that she was going to, "out me." She proceeded to itemize all the things she knew about me from the boards. The list was impressive.

- I used the same, tired lines repeatedly.

- I sent women the same stories over and over again.

- I typically make an ass of myself when posting.

My response was to say I did all those things openly, proving my ineptness in wooing women daily. Go ahead and out me. Everyone knows it already.

Never heard back.....

 

[ViciousTease]

I don't know that I've ever been truly trolled. I have read some "Dear Litster" and "What are you thinking" type posts that I thought might have been digs at me, but they were too vague to be sure so I just ignored them. I'm not hard to talk to and not easily offended. If someone has a problem with me should just come at me with it. There is no need to hide in the shadows throwing spit balls.

 

[Endless_Night]

I can only remember one woman trolling me. She'd write PMs to be saying she, "was on to me," and that she was going to, "out me." She proceeded to itemize all the things she knew about me from the boards. The list was impressive.

- I used the same, tired lines repeatedly.

- I sent women the same stories over and over again.

- I typically make an ass of myself when posting.

My response was to say I did all those things openly, proving my ineptness in wooing women daily. Go ahead and out me. Everyone knows it already.

Never heard back.....

Oh, man. This reminds me a little of something I witnessed some time back. This woman would choose a male poster. Usually a regular poster that other women generally liked. She would start to post stalk them (all over the board) and make inflammatory remarks after their posts. This would escalate until the guy got angry enough to be nasty back. Then she would cry troll and try to shame them for trolling a woman!

Then - yeah, it gets weirder - she would try to negotiate a truce.

I'm not entirely sure what other people made of it, but I finally decided it was some rather bizarre form of courtship. Not a particularly successful form, if what I saw was any indication.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Oh, man. This reminds me a little of something I witnessed some time back. This woman would choose a male poster. Usually a regular poster that other women generally liked. She would start to post stalk them (all over the board) and make inflammatory remarks after their posts. This would escalate until the guy got angry enough to be nasty back. Then she would cry troll and try to shame them for trolling a woman!

Then - yeah, it gets weirder - she would try to negotiate a truce.

I'm not entirely sure what other people made of it, but I finally decided it was some rather bizarre form of courtship. Not a particularly successful form, if what I saw was any indication.

Most recently, I had a woman write and ask a simple question: Why do you hate me?

I was floored. We had only just started writing back and forth a bit, then everything cooled off for a few weeks. Then this message. I assumed it was because we hadn't written in the last two-to-three weeks, and she was irritated. But it was a strange way to communicate it to me, if that was the case.

So, I wrote back and said I didn't hate her, etc.... Then I see some thread about her. And I never got a response back.

Life is too short to worry about anything in lit....it's for fun. So soon as it isn't fun, people should just stop coming here. No fanfare, no "Goodbye, Cruel World" threads....just scoot.

 

[AbsintheFather]

How do you deal with trolls, are even people who just plain don’t like you. Do you ignore them? Put them on ignore? Throw down and get personal? Start trolling them back?

Does how they are trolling you make a difference as to how you react? Does the occasional snide little comment on one of your posts rate the same treatment as post stalking attacks? And how do you handle the passive aggressive hater, who never confronts you directly, instead dropping obvious little derogatory blurts about the board?

Hi SweetTease

I'm usually a lover, not fighter. But about a year and a half ago Ronster gave me some shit on the boards and I fired back at him - hard. It felt good but, admittedly, he was a pretty easy target. I must have gotten a dozen pm's including many from people I'd never talked to before telling me how much he deserved it.

I can take criticism and the occasional snide remarks. Hell, I know that I deserve them sometimes. My skin isn't too thin that I can't take that. The only people I put on iggy are those with cock-a-tars. I don't need to look at that.

 

[AbsintheFather]

honestly? Depends on my mood and the extent to which I'm offended.

Only GB'rs and idiot personal posters have actually engaged with me on the boards.
For good reason.

I can write in full sentences AND I'm usually typing with two hands. (That already gives me the home field advantage ..lol

Hahaaaa - extremely honest - Hiya Darling

Hey, I can type pretty good with one hand.

What a set of skills. I think that's what's referred to as being a two-tool player

 

[SoulAssasin247]

I have a lot of people who don't care for me even in this thread. Some try to come after me directly for them I smack them into their place without getting personal and without using profanity. If they come with continuous passive aggressive comments I will send a message without calling their name out or directly attacking their character. Usually I just leave them alone when I get into a misunderstanding I don't go around talking about them I just move on. No need to keep beating a dead horse what was said already occurred let that be the end of it.

 

[AKentuckyLady]

There are two individuals in particular that I find extremely passive aggressive and quite trollish in the Playground. I ignore both of them.

They thrive on drama, so I deny them my attention. End of story.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Great thread, VT.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Hahaaaa - extremely honest - Hiya Darling



What a set of skills. I think that's what's referred to as being a two-tool player

It's all about the honesty...
(((Hugs you)))

 

[ViciousTease]

Great thread, VT.

Thanks, darlin.

I heard this song today. It always makes me think of you.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Thanks, darlin.

I heard this song today. It always makes me think of you.

Oh!

Love the song, love the group, love her sundress, love the thought.

 

[ViciousTease]

Why was that guy (gal) you thought was going to be sooooo hot in bed, so incredibly, unbelievable…meh?
Everybody talks about the “What was I thinking?” attraction, but no-one ever seems to mention this.

 

[beachbaby179]

Why was that guy (gal) you thought was going to be sooooo hot in bed, so incredibly, unbelievable…meh?
Everybody talks about the “What was I thinking?” attraction, but no-one ever seems to mention this.

Good one.
I think it all comes down to selfishness, or selflessness. If you're only in it for yourself and what you want, the other person's needs will likely go unmet.

 

[NightOfPassion2]

Good one.
I think it all comes down to selfishness, or selflessness. If you're only in it for yourself and what you want, the other person's needs will likely go unmet.

Yep, the difference between a "Here I am" attitude and a "There you are!"

 

[AKentuckyLady]

Why was that guy (gal) you thought was going to be sooooo hot in bed, so incredibly, unbelievable…meh?
Everybody talks about the “What was I thinking?” attraction, but no-one ever seems to mention this.

Okay, this is kind of funny. I originally started writing a post separating the online lovers from offline lovers. I got halfway through it and realized...

...the same rules apply.

Some people can flirt, but fail to carry through.

Some people are braggarts, and think because they've seen a bunch of videos or photos that they can communicate those actions, and they can't.

Some people simply don't have an eye for detail.

Some people move entirely too fast and miss the point of foreplay.

Some people don't verbalize correctly. Sex is all about all five senses, and that includes speaking and hearing. We've all heard that the brain is the largest sexual organ along with skin. If you miss those two, you've missed the entire point.

And I do agree that if you're only focused on your own needs, it's going to fall flat. I've been guilty of this before, when I was so intent on making my partner follow my fantasy of what I *thought* he was into that it fizzled out immediately. A good lesson to learn. Let it happen.

 

[ViciousTease]

Okay, this is kind of funny. I originally started writing a post separating the online lovers from offline lovers. I got halfway through it and realized...

...the same rules apply.

Some people can flirt, but fail to carry through.

Some people are braggarts, and think because they've seen a bunch of videos or photos that they can communicate those actions, and they can't.

Some people simply don't have an eye for detail.

Some people move entirely too fast and miss the point of foreplay.

Some people don't verbalize correctly. Sex is all about all five senses, and that includes speaking and hearing. We've all heard that the brain is the largest sexual organ along with skin. If you miss those two, you've missed the entire point.

And I do agree that if you're only focused on your own needs, it's going to fall flat. I've been guilty of this before, when I was so intent on making my partner follow my fantasy of what I *thought* he was into that it fizzled out immediately. A good lesson to learn. Let it happen.

I agree. I'm sure we all have certain skills that we feel confident about. Things we've been praised for by other lovers. If you're making a cheesecake and you have "the best recipe ever", by all means follow it. Just be aware of the fact that not everyone likes cheesecake. Even those of us that love cheesecake aren't always craving it.

Phenomenal sex isn't about practiced moves or special skills. It's about response. I know what I like to do ... but that doesn't mean it's what he likes to feel. For me, the best sex is completely unscripted. There is no step 1, step 2, step 3 ... It's when he and I are both listening to the moans and signs of the other, both responding to the silent trembles, both so focused on the other that even the sound of one gasping for breath registers and motivates so that we stay in that space, pushing each other, trying to get another sigh, another moan, desperate to hear that growl.

Wait, the question was what makes it not so great.

I've found that when a man repeatedly tells me he's good at something, he's less inclined to adapt his technique to fit my needs. We aren't all wired the same, we don't respond equally to the same things. Those men always seem to disappoint.

 

[ViciousTease]

Dammit, I've killed my own thread.