Emotional attachments n LIT.... do you really want them ?

[Morning Rain]

Do people on Lit really want to delvelope emotioanl attachments ?
I did once and it was against my better judgement ... Now I feel uncomfortable . And miss a friend I had fun with .

Tell me ...... Ladies and Men .. is it really worth it ?

Do you or do you not to want to make that kind of emotional attachment? Or just for SHEER PLEASURE OF THE MIND ?

I guess I should be more clear..... Romantic emotional connection ....

 

[SilverVeil]

I have made some very good friends from sites in the past.

It really depends on the idividual person and the situation.

 

[Starblayde]

Do people on Lit really want to delvelope emotioanl attachments ?

IMHO, If it happens, it happens. If you connect with someone, even by posts and pm's... and then you get to know them offline, there's no reason why not.

Developing an attachment based purely what you find on the net can be rushing in too fast.

 

[Ice Cold]

It depends on the signifigance of the attachement. I don't mind making friends here, but I don't know if I would be willing to invest any further emotional connections.

 

[Morning Rain]

I have made some very good friends from sites in the past.

It really depends on the idividual person and the situation.

Thank You Silverveil ..... I meant more of a romantic envolvement .
I too have made many .. but only crossed the line once...

 

[Bindii]

I'm a woman, I can't help forming emotional attachments to some of the members at Lit. Now these attachments can be on a friendly basis, as in I genuinely care about some of the members I have gotten to know. I don't think that its a bad thing.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Simply friends...

I have made some nice friends here on Lit.

But I have never crossed that line and become romatically/emotionally involved.

I am fine as I am and need no romance in my life. * phew* *ack*

Just teasing ... never developed such a deep emotional/romantic attachement on Lit.

 

[cutie pie]

I was looking for everything but emotional attachments when I got here. . .yet I got caught up in it anyway. I would do it all over again, but, because of circumstances, it has been painful, heartwrenching, exciting and nerve-wracking all at the same time. I have made some great friends as well, that I hope will hang around for a long time.

 

[Morning Rain]

We all have shared at such a deep level here...with showing our inner self sometimes. Let alone our OUTER selves ..

We share a very intimate part of our lives here. Things maybe the so called " OUTSIDE WORLD" never sees.. We seem to be comfortanle with our sexual sides here .. and share with complete strangers ..

I wonder if dometimes it makes it easier to cross that Line .... Friendship and lust and love are so close together.

I myself will NEVER cross that line again .... We lose ....then

 

[Morning Rain]

I was looking for everything but emotional attachments when I got here. . .yet I got caught up in it anyway. I would do it all over again, but, because of circumstances, it has been painful, heartwrenching, exciting and nerve-wracking all at the same time. I have made some great friends as well, that I hope will hang around for a long time.

Thank you cutie pie .. for being so honest.... it does hurt and it makes it rough to come back on .... But I do have other friends here I have become fond of thrm as friends .... and hated to leave them .

 

[Morning Rain]

Re: Simply friends...

I have made some nice friends here on Lit.

But I have never crossed that line and become romatically/emotionally involved.

I am fine as I am and need no romance in my life. * phew* *ack*

Just teasing ... never developed such a deep emotional/romantic attachement on Lit.

Oh I do agree .... I finally put in my bio ..NO EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENTS..... LOl which makes me sound so cold , but I am really not..... it's like standing by a fire....ohhhh so nice and warm . but you get to close and OUCHHHHHH !!!!!! you get burned... I don't want to be burned anymore..***** is just to damn short.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Re: Re: Simply friends...

I don't want to be burned anymore..***** is just to damn short.

Life is short. I wouldn't want to give up the flames. They are the best. Burns heal if you let them. The hot fire is worth the burn.

 

[Wiggles]

As a relative newbie to the online world (yes, it's true!) I have been struggling with these sort of issues.

It's hard to say Stop! that's far enough! And the hardest part is that sometimes you don't want to.

I'm in a long term relationship, and I've come to Lit mainly for friendship, and self discovery. But of course, along the way, I meet people that interest me. People that I feel would be perfect for me if I wasn't so attatched.

I think it is harder here, to remain aloof. Here at Lit. sexuality is a main topic of discussion (suprise, suprise) and that bleeds over into the conversations that I have with people that I meet here. And love (or attatchment) is not far away from sex, or from friendship. It's hard to know where to draw the line.

If I sound confused, I am. Because I love to get to know people, and I often do love the people I get close to. I find it hard not to get to know someone so intimitately, and not feel affection.

Sooo........ In short ....My answer is No, I don't come here for love, but I do come here for connections.

 

[MissTaken]

In terms of emotional attachments, friendship is fine. I, long ago, came to terms with the tentative string crossing between on line friends. There is no doubt feeling behind that attachment, but by nature of the medium,. many times, the friendship comes to an end.

As far as romantic attachments, this is not what I came to lit for, nor is part of my grand lit plan!

However, I suppose one never knows..........

 

[april-wine]

Emotional attachments, often scary, but they are in life....Anyone can make a wrong choice....I have met truly wonderful people, gained some incredible friends, ones I respect highly....All this from and erotic site lol....

Sometimes you get lucky, and meet someone who just clicks with you....Hmmmm fits, that fit is wonderful.....

 

[Morning Rain]

Re: Re: Re: Simply friends...

Life is short. I wouldn't want to give up the flames. They are the best. Burns heal if you let them. The hot fire is worth the burn.

Very GOOD advice..... and point taken ....

I guess it's like GARTH BROOKS song.... THE DANCE..... The dance is wonderful ....
I just hate losing the friend .... Im the type that is friends with most of the men I have DATED, ....
As a matter of fact with one very good friend now for 4 years ... And we have No problem at all.

I adore my friendships and would do anything for my friends.. I guess this is why it hurts.


GAUD ..... I am so glad Im not the only one that feels this ... I was begining to feel I was the only one here. And have been trying to figure out why I was the odd ball out ... LOl

I would really like to hear as well from you GUYS ... hOW DO YOU FEEL ON THE SUBJECT ?

 

[Siren]

emotional attachments on the LIT?

 

[Starblayde]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Simply friends...

I would really like to hear as well from you GUYS ... hOW DO YOU FEEL ON THE SUBJECT ?

*points upwards to the third reply, hoping it might spur some other guys into posting*

edited 'cos you dont want the guys to start posing, rather posting

 

[Morning Rain]

Re: emotional attachments on the LIT?

hahahaha that is sooooooooooo funny,

naw, it dont happen

not at all

neva.

you just dont see people meeting on lit,
getting together.........

and marrying in vegas.


this place is pure fantasy, things like emotional attachments never happen here.

get real

get a life.

ha hah ha NEVA is a LONG TIME .....
I AGREE WITH YOU ..EVEN IF YOU DONT THINK SO ... THIS IS HOW I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE ... and wanted it to be this way ...

And I do have a life... a very good productive .... one ....
But still ...I crossed that line ...
No need to be rude..... I hope one day we all don't have to eat the words we write here.
Some of us may choke .....

But thank you for your opinion...this is what I wanted ..just not the rudness .. it could have been left off....:kiss

Im so sorry .... Your post was not ignored...... Yes you are right ...it is rushing.. but sometimes words can hit a spot needed filled at the MOMENT ...We are all in need of something at some time...I guess we were at the same time . {meaning him and I ..}[/COLOR] :

 

[Siren]

oh pluh leaseeeeeeee will someone help me here

 

[Woody201169]

I agree with you for the most part but my take on it is that we only really know each other through what we choose to say here. A very small and sometimes capartmentalised part of our lives that we share. That makes it very intense sometimes and as someone else said when the talk turns sexual that only adds to it. Afterall sex is very personal and intimate and when you share that you do make a bit of a bond whether you want to or not. You now know things about that person that most dont and that is where the connection is made, that deep sharing. I have seen your pictures and you have seen mine, we obviously both liked what we saw or I wouldn't be typing this right now. We share that and if we never speak again we will carry that little peice of eachother around for the rest of our lives.
I hope that I am not to long winded in this but my point is that we all connect and form attachments. We don't have control over how they go but lets sit back and enjoy them while having the strength to just say no when we need to.

 

[Morning Rain]

Re: oh pluh leaseeeeeeee will someone help me here

Morning Rain...............

my post is called sarcasm ....
it was dripping with it.


I cant believe you have been here since Nov 2001 and you dont know that I met my husband here on lit,
got together with him
and married him in Vegas a year and half ago.

We are the ONLY couple to have met here,
and married.


Hence, my sarcasm about emotional attachments, since I have the ultimate attachment you can achieve emotionally.

Dont jump to conclusions.

The oldies here, we have alot of history and alot behind what we post.



and this is for the original post

Re: oh pluh leaseeeeeeee will someone help me here

Well excusee me ..... then sarcasm ....
I thought you were a MAN ...... being RUDE .....
I didnt go and read your profile/it didnt concern me that much ...

Im happy you met your husband here,,, some are just PURE lucky I guess... As you are I see...

I am NOT here to argue .... I accepted your opinion .. and agreed with you ....
Thank you once again .... Next time I'll reall alllllll posts BIO ..

 

[Siren]

Dont get all twitty at me if you dont pay attention to the old posters here

 

[Morning Rain]

I agree with you for the most part but my take on it is that we only really know each other through what we choose to say here. A very small and sometimes capartmentalised part of our lives that we share. That makes it very intense sometimes and as someone else said when the talk turns sexual that only adds to it. Afterall sex is very personal and intimate and when you share that you do make a bit of a bond whether you want to or not. You now know things about that person that most dont and that is where the connection is made, that deep sharing. I have seen your pictures and you have seen mine, we obviously both liked what we saw or I wouldn't be typing this right now. We share that and if we never speak again we will carry that little peice of eachother around for the rest of our lives.
I hope that I am not to long winded in this but my point is that we all connect and form attachments. We don't have control over how they go but lets sit back and enjoy them while having the strength to just say no when we need to.

Woody ... thank you baby for your input....
I think you are right ..... enjoy it while we can .... and when we need to ...
We do take each and every part of us all with us ... we may go in different directions, but take a part of all with us....

 

[Morning Rain]

Re: Dont get all twitty at me if you dont pay attention to the old posters here

you might want to pay attention to those of us that have been here for a while and have garnered some respect and not just assume things about us.

The exclusivity of some of you newer posters defies my understanding and your decidedly lack of respect is beyond reason.

I for one understand why many older posters either decide not to post to any of these threads due to an entitlement attitude prevailant by many of you................
or have left altogether due to this attitude of superiority towards those that have been here for years and have made relationships and
proven ourselves worthy of respect,
not by number of postings

but by acting with respect and admiration towards others here.


Sad, you all are the ones drawing the line in the sand,
and you are definitely making this place lack in
the fundamentals of discussion, debate and joking.

And let me ask you this..........
since when does a man have a name of SIREN?

I am sorry for drawing a conclusion .... I did not mean to make a statement of rudeness .... I am not this way ...it was sarcasm ...playful at that ... I may be a new poster....and I did not read your bio as I said.... but in NO WAY trying to show disrespect for no human beings point of view...
I have NO DISRESPECT for no one here..new or old posters....
I am sorry you took my playfulness as rude...
None intended....


OUCHHHHHH !!!! ;-)