Electronic women

[TheEarl]

I've come to a conclusion.

There's me, annoyed at being single. I'm not an ogre, so there's no particular reason apart from not having a wide enough social circle of single girls.

So extrapolating from that must mean that there are pretty and interesting and fun women out there in my city in England, who are annoyed at being single and who don't have a wide enough social circle of men. If there was some way for me to meet them...

Which led me onto the thought of dating websites. I do come off reasonably well over the written word and this could actually be a really good way of finding girls who I'd like to go on dates with who'd hopefully like to go on dates with me. I'm quite unreservedly bad at picking up signals and picking up girls and I feel it'd be something of a headstart if I met a girl in a place where I know that she's looking for a date. Then we could see where we go from there.

The only problem is that there's 50,000 of these websites that serve the UK. I don't know if any of them are any kop and I don't much fancy giving my personal details to a disreputable or just-plain-shite website.

Anyone tried this before and have recommendations, advice, etc?

The Earl

 

[matriarch]

match.com

Yahoo personals.

Both pretty above board and well run.

You can browse for free, but as soon as you want to put your own profile up, or contact anyone, then the pennies start flowing out of your bank account.

And yes, yes.....knowing about them does mean I have tried them out. I just never really took it seriously.

Can't hurt to look, can it??

Mat

 

[impressive]

You mean Lit's Personals forum ain't for you?

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I recommend match.com, Lavalife.com, and meetic.com.

 

[yui]

I recommend going to Florida (when I actually get home). yui.com will be happy to host you... I mean your ad.

Happy hunting, Earl.

 

[sophia jane]

I'm liking myspace because it's not dating orientated necessarily. I saw the cutest girl on there from England and the first thing I thought was - I should set her up with the Earl!

I did a local dating site recently (how I had my date last week, actually). It's a nice way to meet people, but don't expect too much from it. Not everyone is who they seem to be, and there won't be nearly as many people as you want who fit what you're looking for.

 

[oggbashan]

Just looking - honest!

I have looked at Yahoo personals for my area.

I was surprised at the range of women looking for men locally. From their posted photographs I could identify at least five of them by name.

I would not have expected to find any of those five on a dating site. There are women on Yahoo who are genuinely looking for men and if the five I know are an accurate sample, there are people who are worth getting to know.

Not by me. I'm happily married.

Og

 

[Elsie Grey]

Sweetie,

You know we don't approve! Please come home and let us introduce you to all of our nice friends... They don't bite, honest! (unless you want them to in which case I'm sure they'd be happy to oblige! )

Take Care,

Elsie

xxx

 

[Elsie Grey]

I give up. You're impossible!

There are hundreds of replies that I could make to that but I'm not going to right now just because I feel too ill and tired.

You're just lonely hun. It hurts believe me I know how much it hurts.

Unfortunately love doesn't come to order and I just don't think you'll find it this way. Relax, have fun and start believing in yourself for a change! When you honestly believe you are good looking, kind, caring, fun to be with, romantic and all those other qualties I KNOW you possess then you will have our blessing to try internet dating. Until then whilst you are obviously an adult and we can't actually stop you we will be very upset. (Yes this is emotional blackmail...)

We're only doing this because we care about you Sweetie. You mean the world to us and we don't want you hurt!

Take Care,

Elsie

xxx

 

[kendo1]

You're not my type.

 

[lil_elvis]

Relax, Earl, I did not date my (future) wife unti I was 28 and didn't marry until 30.

This was long before the days of internet matching....lo and behold she was someone I worked with and had known for 3 years beforehand.

Through the conspiracy of the fates and various other complications, it took that long to find out that beneath that demure exterior, lay the heart of the bottom to my top.

Meanwhile, enjoy life.

 

[TheEarl]

Relax, Earl, I did not date my (future) wife unti I was 28 and didn't marry until 30.

This was long before the days of internet matching....lo and behold she was someone I worked with and had known for 3 years beforehand.

Through the conspiracy of the fates and various other complications, it took that long to find out that beneath that demure exterior, lay the heart of the bottom to my top.

Meanwhile, enjoy life.

'Enjoy life' when said to a singleton is said by people who enjoy being single. I don't like being single. I don't enjoy going out on the pull. I don't enjoy having a crappy day and not having one person who I can go to to whinge about it and she'll make me feel better. I don't like not being there for one person and being their go-to guy.

I'm not looking for marriage. I'm not eyeing my ticking biological clock and thinking about the future. What it is, is that I'm miserable when I'm single. And I'm not a fan of being miserable. And even trying would make me feel better.

The Earl

 

[lil_elvis]

'Enjoy life' when said to a singleton is said by people who enjoy being single. I don't like being single. I don't enjoy going out on the pull. I don't enjoy having a crappy day and not having one person who I can go to to whinge about it and she'll make me feel better. I don't like not being there for one person and being their go-to guy.

I'm not looking for marriage. I'm not eyeing my ticking biological clock and thinking about the future. What it is, is that I'm miserable when I'm single. And I'm not a fan of being miserable. And even trying would make me feel better.

The Earl

Didn't mean to flipant, Earl. Spent many a night in the same mood. But you can't make it happen. All I was trying to say was not to dismiss those you already know based on first impressions.

 

[TheEarl]

Didn't mean to flipant, Earl. Spent many a night in the same mood. But you can't make it happen. All I was trying to say was not to dismiss those you already know based on first impressions.

I only know one single girl in my area. Unfortunately, she's infatuated with someone else. I have a uni course in a male-dominated subject, I work at a male-dominated job and I play a male-dominated sport. The only eligible girls I know are 200 milesaway and I don't want to do a long-distance unless there's something spectacular. And even then it'd be well nigh impossible.

The Earl

 

[lil_elvis]

I only know one single girl in my area. Unfortunately, she's infatuated with someone else. I have a uni course in a male-dominated subject, I work at a male-dominated job and I play a male-dominated sport. The only eligible girls I know are 200 milesaway and I don't want to do a long-distance unless there's something spectacular. And even then it'd be well nigh impossible.

The Earl

So you're a chemical engineer too?

 

[TheEarl]

So you're a chemical engineer too?

Worse - computer scientist.

The Earl

 

[lil_elvis]

Worse - computer scientist.

The Earl

If it's any consolation, there was a girl in my class at university - blonde, legs up to here - she was dating a friend of mine, he dropped out of Chem E and tranfered to business. She dropped him like he had the plague and found another engineer. Turns out she only wanted a study buddy (actually someone to help with the homework).

I suppose it's easy for me to say now, but patience. There is a match for you.

 

[TheEarl]

If it's any consolation, there was a girl in my class at university - blonde, legs up to here - she was dating a friend of mine, he dropped out of Chem E and tranfered to business. She dropped him like he had the plague and found another engineer. Turns out she only wanted a study buddy (actually someone to help with the homework).

I suppose it's easy for me to say now, but patience. There is a match for you.

Patience isn't a virtue of someone with only half a heart.

The Earl

 

[Guest]

Earl, I don't know what to say. I wish I could help.

 

[sincerely_helene]

Come to the darkside, Earl!
Alt.com

 

[TheEarl]

Come to the darkside, Earl!
Alt.com

Would if I could.

The Earl

 

[Guest]

Come to the darkside, Earl!
Alt.com

I belong.

I joined because some jerk on there had posted one of my stories as his own and I couldn't locate matters until I joined.

It's free, Earl, although they always bug you to upgrade.

But since they removed the story, I still belong to this thing and still get mail from other members. I suppose I should quit soon.

 

[TheEarl]

I belong.

I joined because some jerk on there had posted one of my stories as his own and I couldn't locate matters until I joined.

It's free, Earl, although they always bug you to upgrade.

But since they removed the story, I still belong to this thing and still get mail from other members. I suppose I should quit soon.

I've heard some imaginative excuses before!

The Earl

 

[Guest]

I've heard some imaginative excuses before!

The Earl

LOL!

Nahh, you know me. I'd probably boast about joining!

The creepy thing is, there are several people who live very close to me. Within 20 miles, actually. And even though I have not encouraged contact they have been repeatedly sending me emails.

I'd better quit.

 

[human_male]

I'm surprised you haven't met anyone on here yet.