Earning a title v instant gratification

[PotNoodle79]

Just saw a post on the BDSM personals section where someone was wanting subs to KIK him (I wanted to KICK him) and submit to their "Master".
I assume the Master is, of course, the person posting.

It got me to thinking, whatever happened to earning submission and a title? Why the need for instant gratification?

"Kneel before me, oh worthless submissive, worship your new Master. Oh, what's my name? Sorry"

Pisses me off.

 

[HazeyDaze]

I’ll never understand this.

 

[seela]

Just saw a post on the BDSM personals section where someone was wanting subs to KIK him (I wanted to KICK him) and submit to their "Master".
I assume the Master is, of course, the person posting.

It got me to thinking, whatever happened to earning submission and a title? Why the need for instant gratification?

"Kneel before me, oh worthless submissive, worship your new Master. Oh, what's my name? Sorry"

Pisses me off.

Not everyone is into the same type of play.

For some people it’s just a hot, temporary role play and the lingo they use is a part of it and helps them get off. It’s not a lifestyle thing for them. They’re not necessarily looking for anything more than a quick wank and for a quick wank slowly building trust, earning the titles etc doesn’t really work.

Different strokes. *

 

[Acktion]

Stay after to class to clean the blackboards.

*****

In all seriousness, I understand this. Albeit from the other side. I struggle to tolerate "Sir" from people I don't know. Calling me "Master" or "Daddy" as my late wife did is tantamount to calling me "Husband" in my eyes. It takes time and getting to know her to get us there. I am either a Daddy with Master tendencies or Master with Daddy tendencies (and a mean stripe of Sadist), but she had no way of knowing that when she first spoke to me. Nor did I know her well enough to know if I would even want to take that sort of responsibility for her. In other words, no, I'm not that for just any random person that wants to slap a bumper sticker that reads "submissive" on their ass and waggle it at me.

***shrug*** For me, insisting on a title has always been just silly. I either resonated with her as that, or I didn't. But, reciprocally I either consent to allow her to use it or I don't. Pushing in and using those titles with me without my consent is the epitome of "Topping from the bottom."

I understand and accede Seela's point "different strokes for different folks" where the "relationship" only lasts as long as until the ropes are untied. But, I think it's important for both sides to remember Consent is not just important but imperative.