double sided strap on

[Kathleen95]

My girlfriend and I bought one. But she's never been with a guy and doesn't like to be penetrated because she feels like its a penis.. I don't see it that way but she told me after I bought it. Any suggestions on how to go about getting her to use it with me?

 

[clio711]

My girlfriend and I bought one. But she's never been with a guy and doesn't like to be penetrated because she feels like its a penis.. I don't see it that way but she told me after I bought it. Any suggestions on how to go about getting her to use it with me?

tell her it's not about the toy, it's about who it is attached to. On you, it is nothing like a penis. She needs to focus on you, not on the strap on. And penetration can feel very very good. Have you used your fingers on her? Maybe warm her up a bit first, get her used to the feeling. Hopefully she can enjoy how you make her feel. But she may just not like it.

 

[RawHumor]

Hers sounds like similar logic to a guy thinking it's "gay" to have a woman play with his asshole.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Um, no. This is where you have to live and let live, and let her work her way through the issue. You love to have something in your vag, and I'm sure she loves to give you that.

But if she doesn't like to be penetrated, then she doesn't. Please don't try to argue her into doing something that could trigger PTSD or dysphoria.

As a matter of fact, I have one, and there are times when I really love it, and times like right now, were I feel the intrusion is distracting and boring.... I use a regular dildo right now.