Domination: More Mental or Physical

[oneguy4fun]

Which do you find more exciting, the mental aspects of domination or the physical? What are some specific examples that just drive you wild?

For me I love the mental aspects. Just the thought of knowing that I'm owned, or a plaything drives me wild. I can get aroused just at the mention of it. After a good session with my Goddess, I think about it over and over again during the week and this keeps me excited.

On the physical side my favorite thing is to be queened. It's so exciting to service my Goddess in this capacity I would do it every night if she wished.

 

[SubKekiLee]

For me both are the best. I love the mental part cause knowing I am owned, cared for and loved and his making my choices are incredible for physical? I enjoy the punishments .. I love to feel his hand against my ass.. and feeling him push me to the edge..

 

[lne_iii]

I enjoy the mental aspects much more, even though i think they compliment each other.

Though, I tend to restrain myself, because getting too into the physical end makes me feel abusive, even if it's wanted.

 

[bobshortforkate]

Mental aspects. I'm not a physical masochist though. I don't like pain, and don't enjoy it when he inflicts pain as punishment, only a little spanking during sex. The flip side of this is I hate, hate, HATE the whippings, but mentally they turn me on.

 

[intothewoods]

mental! Although I love the feeling of being held down.

 

[shy slave]

To me, mental aspects are an integral part of being Dominated.

I can't submit if he cannot capture my mind.

Once he can control me by his voice, the rest follows.

However, some men are great at mental Domination but when it comes to following through all they say they will do; it just doesn't happen.

That is more than annoying.

One of the reasons I push a Doms limits is to see if he does all he says he will

Capture my thoughts and then show me that actions match the words.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Mental is way more important to me whether in a vanilla relationship or a D/s relationship. I can mentally be brought to orgasm without anything physical and feel wonderful afterwards. I can also be brought to orgasm from just the physical but afterwards I feel like shit--abused and unvalued. I can do without that.

The best of course is to be brought to a point mentally before the physical starts.

 

[WriterDom]

Both added together are larger than the sum of the individual parts. Mental alone is just mental masturbation. Physical alone is little more than exercise.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I need the mental in order to cope with the physical. If Master talks to me and tells me who I am and what I am and where my place is during a spanking/flogging/paddling I'll invariably tolerate more than if He's silent. The same goes for all our play.

The mental allows me to totally surrender control and provides the endorphine rush that lifts me above the physical until the two are indestinguishable and I'm floating in subspace.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I need the mental in order to cope with the physical. If Master talks to me and tells me who I am and what I am and where my place is during a spanking/flogging/paddling I'll invariably tolerate more than if He's silent. The same goes for all our play.

The mental allows me to totally surrender control and provides the endorphine rush that lifts me above the physical until the two are indestinguishable and I'm floating in subspace.

Exactly! Well said.

 

[RJMasters]

I'll see your mental and physical and raise you an "emotional". Takes all three in the right combination.

 

[Louise_Loves]

The mental aspect is most alluring to me. However, the physical side is the outward manifestation of that, so -

For example, if my lover is denied orgasm, it is the mental part that excites me and makes it erotic. However, the physical effort that she has to put into it shows how much the mental part is, in fact, real.

:LL

 

[myinnerslut]

both are required for me. one without the other just doesnt cut it. out of the two of them though, id say the mental is a tad more important then the physical.

 

[Climaxamus]

M stands for Mental!

 

[museofdragon]

For us, it is the mental/emotional aspects that give the physical activities their meaning.

 

[sexy_sarah11]

I love them both. But. I like physical stuff more...it turns me on to get slapped, spanked, and bitten. Yummy...

 

[Betticus]

When I was younger the physical part was more important. It still is but the mental/emotional adds so much.. It's also what I've been exploring but being alone gives you time to reflect.

 

[oneguy4fun]

For us, it is the mental/emotional aspects that give the physical activities their meaning.

Well said. For example, physically being denied an orgasm is no fun. In fact in many instances it is bad thing because the partners just don't want to have sex or have a bad relationship. Now take a couple that wants to practice denial. The emotional aspects of knowing that you are purposely being denied in order to be controlled suddenly make it soooo exciting.

 

[katteon]

Mental power play is definitely the strongest component for me...a Dom that can consider and realize where my mind will go and be a step ahead...waiting...always in ultimate control...It is the mental edge play for me that makes me desire the physical. The physical is definitely a wanted component, cause I do love to cum, but without the mental...just not as interesting or as desirable. Mental power play does not mean fantasy or role playing to me. It is knocking my logic and analytic processes down by making them bow to the unknown. My body crying out forcing my mind to reel out of control and finally fall silent as the physical raw passions take over...Domination: more mental for me....

 

[Netzach]

Sub-wise? Emotional. It took 8 years with this person and some turns of life events to finally get me to where I was literally able to say "ok, you can have anything you like, and I accept and love you without re-creating you in my fantasy image or to my ideal desires."

But submissive me is not by any means traditional in terms of development. And I need mental and physical aspects and manifestations too - it's hard to be ready to do anything and feel you don't have enough to do, but there's no one else I'm doing this with.

As D, again, it's a mixture of outcomes. Physical is a means to a psychological end. Psychological is a means to an emotional end.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Mental Sub

Which do you find more exciting, the mental aspects of domination or the physical? What are some specific examples that just drive you wild?

For me I love the mental aspects. Just the thought of knowing that I'm owned, or a plaything drives me wild. I can get aroused just at the mention of it. After a good session with my Goddess, I think about it over and over again during the week and this keeps me excited.

On the physical side my favorite thing is to be queened. It's so exciting to service my Goddess in this capacity I would do it every night if she wished.

I’m a mental sub. I get wildly aroused whenever I see a PM from my Dom. The anticipation of the directive to come from him, knowing that because he has captured my mind, there’s nothing that I would not do for him to please him.

It is such a turn on that through his words alone, he has the power to control me, to do with me what he will for his pleasures and desires.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

It is the mental element which draws me in but the physical which keeps me in place so to speak.

I have engaged in scenes where the mental element was so powerful I was reduced to tears without ever being touched. Now I'm not talking humiliation either as I'm not in to that scene but tears of pure joy or like emotion.

 

[Softouch911]

Mental AND physical.

Control is my thing.

Physical control w/o mental/emotional/psychological control is no more fun than taking the dog on a walk with a leash.

Mental control w/o causing physical behaviors is like calling MS customer service.

ST

 

[HoHoBomb]

Psychic domination!

 

[Blkhearted_Rube]

Mental - definitely mental. To get someone to submit to you physically you need to have them in "sub space".