Domination and manhood.

[delphi604]

I'm a 45-year-old married man with a beloved wife and two children. I'm in a mid-level management job at a large corporation. I have long wanted to be collared, restrained with a leash, made to stand in a cramped, cold-metal standing jail cell, subjected to whipping, flogging, and strapping, and vigorous butt-fucking. Does that craving make me less of a man?

 

[cdstefi]

Why does it bother you about the definition of a man?

There's a pretty good track record of in-control, typically "alpha" males in everyday life wanting to give up control completely and be vulnerable in their kinky sex lives. A trained analyst would be able to get to it better than I can, but it's so common as to be almost the norm, I'd say.

I'm probably similar, in that I fulfil a professional role (not management but a solid responsible and physical and demanding job nonetheless), have done the family man thing although my kids are all grown up and independent now. I've never felt the need for deep submission or humiliation, but I have my kinks (lingerie and gay sex for me).

I think trying to keep our vanilla life and expectations in sync with the deep sexual stuff that turns us on deep down is futile. You can live a double life if you can learn to compartmentalise and are *really* careful about not allowing bleed over between your two worlds.

 

[BillyWalrus]

I'm a 45-year-old married man with a beloved wife and two children. I'm in a mid-level management job at a large corporation. I have long wanted to be collared, restrained with a leash, made to stand in a cramped, cold-metal standing jail cell, subjected to whipping, flogging, and strapping, and vigorous butt-fucking. Does that craving make me less of a man?

Definitely. Just joking.

For the last six years I have been sucking my girlfriend's big cock and getting fucked up the ass. Submissive in the bedroom? Hell, yes, I am. Outside the bedroom? Watch it, mister.

 

[delphi604]

Why does it bother you about the definition of a man?

There's a pretty good track record of in-control, typically "alpha" males in everyday life wanting to give up control completely and be vulnerable in their kinky sex lives. A trained analyst would be able to get to it better than I can, but it's so common as to be almost the norm, I'd say.

I'm probably similar, in that I fulfil a professional role (not management but a solid responsible and physical and demanding job nonetheless), have done the family man thing although my kids are all grown up and independent now. I've never felt the need for deep submission or humiliation, but I have my kinks (lingerie and gay sex for me).

I think trying to keep our vanilla life and expectations in sync with the deep sexual stuff that turns us on deep down is futile. You can live a double life if you can learn to compartmentalise and are *really* careful about not allowing bleed over between your two worlds.

Thanks. I believe that a man (or a woman) can have intense fantasies and experiences simply because he or she likes them. IOW, they're part of their catalog of sexual tastes, just like intercourse, oral sex, anal, etc.

 

[DpropertyofR]

I once read that submissive males make up the largest population of BDSM enthusiasts. I have also heard many anecdotes about men who are in charge in their work life enjoying submissive sex, because it feels good to let someone else run the show for a change. As a submissive woman, I even find that this holds true for me. You’re definitely not alone in your fantasies.

 

[Samantha47]

I'm a 45-year-old married man with a beloved wife and two children. I'm in a mid-level management job at a large corporation. I have long wanted to be collared, restrained with a leash, made to stand in a cramped, cold-metal standing jail cell, subjected to whipping, flogging, and strapping, and vigorous butt-fucking. Does that craving make me less of a man?

Oh no honey it's perfect