Dominated by a younger guy

[deliciouslyummy]

I was just wondering if any subs particularly like being dominated by a younger guy. I know most younger girls prefer to be dominated by a older guy, but is that the same for girls who aren't as young ?

 

[HisSexyPet]

Pet cougar

B is younger than me and I wouldn't have it any other way. We tried it vanilla and it ended in badly. When He started doming me, we found our true selves and can now be totally open and honest.

 

[CurlyKat]

My Master's younger than me, and honestly it doesn't play a role at all with us. We might joke about it occasionally, but it works very well for us. We're very good compliments to each other in the kind of Dom that he is versus the kind of sub that I am, which is much more important than age. The things we need to have in common are there, and we relate on an even plane, so the distractors that would normally come with any age difference just aren't there.

For me, there's really no preference in having someone older or younger than me. What really matters is if we're a good match and satisfy each other. I used to prefer older guys, but that was when there weren't any my own age, much less younger, who were on the same level I was. But now that I've found someone that I do work well with, the age just isn't a factor. I don't think age really should play that much of a role in things. What should matter most is how satisfied both parties are in the relationship.

 

[HisSexyPet]

Again Kat has said exactly what I wanted to say, but much better.

 

[CurlyKat]

Again Kat has said exactly what I wanted to say, but much better.

Just more wordy. Y'all fit together in this dynamic, end of story. Makes total sense.

 

[drksentinel1]

it's been my experience that younger people in the kink/bdsm community are kind of rare, and young doms/tops/PYL (like me! /wave) have a bit of a tough time, especially when searching for older women.

and yes, i'm willing to be proved wrong.

 

[gigi1968]

My current play partner is younger than me, in my opinion age is just a number as his experience and my lack thereof, meshes perfectly for us. Let me also point out, his collar is over 10 years older than he is. So it does work for some.

 

[cromsgirl]

I've only subed to my husband, so I can't say I prefer to sub to younger men (although he is younger than me). I've always preferred younger men in general though. I've dated a few older men, but it was never as much fun.

 

[Samuelx]

My Master's younger than me, and honestly it doesn't play a role at all with us. We might joke about it occasionally, but it works very well for us. We're very good compliments to each other in the kind of Dom that he is versus the kind of sub that I am, which is much more important than age. The things we need to have in common are there, and we relate on an even plane, so the distractors that would normally come with any age difference just aren't there.

For me, there's really no preference in having someone older or younger than me. What really matters is if we're a good match and satisfy each other. I used to prefer older guys, but that was when there weren't any my own age, much less younger, who were on the same level I was. But now that I've found someone that I do work well with, the age just isn't a factor. I don't think age really should play that much of a role in things. What should matter most is how satisfied both parties are in the relationship.

I'm bisexual, and I'm married to a woman who was a college senior when I was a freshman at her alma mater. I'm versatile, and she's a bit of a dominatrix with submissive tendencies. It's fun for both of us.

 

[shewantsmore]

Not sure if that classes me as submissive but i do like being dominated

 

[Adakgirl]

Speaking with on-line submitting only...the very best bar none..on-line Dominant I have ever had was/is 24 and I am 51. It isn't his age that makes him so but his excellent, active, imaginative, interestingly evil, sadistic mind. His Dominant ability's come naturaly to him and that makes him a very powerful force. At only 24 he still holds incredible control over me with his words alone and he makes me WANT... even crave to submit to just about anything he fucking wants, anytime he wants it.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

My Master's younger than me, and honestly it doesn't play a role at all with us. We might joke about it occasionally, but it works very well for us. We're very good compliments to each other in the kind of Dom that he is versus the kind of sub that I am, which is much more important than age. The things we need to have in common are there, and we relate on an even plane, so the distractors that would normally come with any age difference just aren't there.

For me, there's really no preference in having someone older or younger than me. What really matters is if we're a good match and satisfy each other. I used to prefer older guys, but that was when there weren't any my own age, much less younger, who were on the same level I was. But now that I've found someone that I do work well with, the age just isn't a factor. I don't think age really should play that much of a role in things. What should matter most is how satisfied both parties are in the relationship.

Yep. This.

I'm 30 and Master's 26. It's not a huge age gap but it's there and like CK, we do joke about it occasionally. I actually look younger than he does so people assume he's older than me anyway.

I think most women who are serious about finding a partner who complements them and their kinks are sensible enough not to rule out people based on things like age. Granted, there has to be trust, respect and physical attraction but all those things can be found in places you wouldn't normally look.

I think it also depends what you consider to be a significant age gap.

 

[BlitzKrieger]

Wall-o-Text

I think there are several factors, that have all come into play at once, that have lead to more and more "older women" being dominated by younger men.

But, before I get too far into my explanation I want to point out that there seems to be a general surge of women who identify as "sub", at least on these forums, these days. These are basically sex forums, dedicated and linked primarily to a literature site, sure, but it's a sex literature site and in the end they are sex forums. So, common sense should predict that there should be far more horny men roaming around these boards looking for an easy cyber lay, but if These poll results are a reliable gauge, then that is not the case. Instead, the lit forums have a majority of sub women populating it, and I have a theory as to why that is. And, yes, it relates to the "older sub being dominated by younger men" topic.

(What follows is opinion, open for debate, but without any first hand knowledge or statistical research to back it up. Just my own views, observations, and opinions)

I think that after 30 years of Women's Liberation many women, from that generation, each generation since, and the current generation, have come to realize that what has been hammered into their heads over these past years just doesn't jive with how they feel inside.

Sidebar: I love WL. I think it has helped us as a society as a whole. Women should not be blanketed with the "second class gender" stigma, and I am thankful for every opportunity that is available to women in the world we live in today. Without WL my daughter would have no better lot in life than that of a clerk, a secretary, or a housewife. And that would truly sadden me if that were the world we lived in today. /end sidebar

I think that many women have come to realize that while they are equal to men, in the workplace, in society, and in everyday life, that they can still be a "sub" as we define it here, and in the BDSM world. That it is OK to be submissive to a partner (brownie points to me for being PC), and still have a successful professional career and personal life. It seems to me that for years women, and young girls, were taught that they all had to be hard nosed, ball-busting broads to be successful, and many are finding out, both young women and older women, that just isn't true. The kicker is, the younger generation of men are also finding out the same thing about themselves, only in reverse.

I was raised in a way that made me feel like ashamed of how I felt inside. Made me think of myself as a lesser person for wanting to inflict pain, to dominate, to be a Master, but I have learned, recently, that was wrong. And, I am not alone.

Go to fetlife.com. Search for Male Doms, anywhere, and you will see a curious trend. There is a noticable generation gap. You have your 50... 50+ doms, love those guys, and then... very few male doms at all until you get down into the 20 or 30 year old range. Looks like the 80's and 90's produced a bunch of whimps to me.

We, this new generation of "Doms" are also sick and tired of the Hannah Montana/Britney Spears/Madonna stereotypes that proliferate our female peers, and so we go searching elsewhere for what we really want. And, what do we find? An entire generation of women, who may happen to be older but not exclusively so, who are also just discovering themselves and who are looking for what we have to offer. And, we don't give a damn about age, I don't, never have, and never will, all we want is someone who will fulfill our needs, love us for who we really are (despite what society says), and do as they are told. I believe the same is true for the new subs.

And, THAT is my long winded, round-about, meandering explanation for why older women like being dommed by younger men.

BTW, I just want to add:
I am 29, pet is 49. I loved her before we discovered this wonderful world of BDSM, and these boards, but I love her more, now, than ever. Because, we can both relax and be who we really are inside, express ourselves fearlessly, and love with every part of our beings. Age has never once played a role in our love, and it never will.

 

[cjones30001]

I truely prefer an older master, guess I'm just backing up the fact that younger women prefer older men.

 

[CuteBrat]

for real life BDSM, i prefer older Dominants. im 25. The Masters who own me are 35 and 49. ive just always been hardwired to be into older guyz, since my first experience with one at 16.

ive been shared with younger guyz in real life. That can be a turnon because a lot of times its the first time they really feel they can do WHATEVER to a girl...so they get really into that. i like that sort of use. But for actual ongoing submission, i want older guyz who are more experienced.

Plus, i love that feeling knowing im just a young fucktoy

 

[gigi1968]

Well I have had older and actually prefer older guys, but the one I have been playing with of late is just a couple of years younger than me. But what I do not understand is a bigger age gap. But that is just me and my preferences.

Yes I agree with Bleitzkrieger that Fetlife is a wonderful place to visit and explore. It opened a whole new world to me and made me realize I was not "out there" in my fantasies....

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Go to fetlife.com. Search for Male Doms, anywhere, and you will see a curious trend. There is a noticable generation gap. You have your 50... 50+ doms, love those guys, and then... very few male doms at all until you get down into the 20 or 30 year old range. Looks like the 80's and 90's produced a bunch of whimps to me.

Yowsers. I totally thought it was just me. Across various sites, the ones that are showing any interest in little old me, are either late 30s and up, or randy 19 year olds. Even trawling profiles, I don't find a lot in the mid 20s to mid 30s range.

Now, I have no issue with either age group, and truthfully, I've trended towards older guys anyways, but as I get on in my 20s, I start thinking about life partners. And ultimately, I see a life partner within my age bracket.

 

[CurlyKat]

Yowsers. I totally thought it was just me. Across various sites, the ones that are showing any interest in little old me, are either late 30s and up, or randy 19 year olds. Even trawling profiles, I don't find a lot in the mid 20s to mid 30s range.

Now, I have no issue with either age group, and truthfully, I've trended towards older guys anyways, but as I get on in my 20s, I start thinking about life partners. And ultimately, I see a life partner within my age bracket.

I totally agree with your last statement. My whole life, my preconceived notions about who I'd end up with included a guy my exact age or a few years older. When I realized that wasn't really working out so well and decided to give things a try without using age as a limiting factor, it turns out that someone who is a good match for me is just a few years younger. I guess it all just depends on how you define your age bracket, since a few years really isn't that big of a difference. Not saying that you specifically are limiting by your definition of your age bracket, just pointing out that different people's definitions are indeed different.

And you and Blitz are right, any sort of male top in his mid to upper 20s or 30s is relatively nonexistant on kink-friendly sites. Maybe we should call in a sociologist to study the phenomenon and tell us exactly why that is. Could be very interesting results.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I totally agree with your last statement. My whole life, my preconceived notions about who I'd end up with included a guy my exact age or a few years older. When I realized that wasn't really working out so well and decided to give things a try without using age as a limiting factor, it turns out that someone who is a good match for me is just a few years younger. I guess it all just depends on how you define your age bracket, since a few years really isn't that big of a difference. Not saying that you specifically are limiting by your definition of your age bracket, just pointing out that different people's definitions are indeed different.

And you and Blitz are right, any sort of male top in his mid to upper 20s or 30s is relatively nonexistant on kink-friendly sites. Maybe we should call in a sociologist to study the phenomenon and tell us exactly why that is. Could be very interesting results.

I'm thinking 25 - 35. (I'm 28) I'll be flexible within a couple more years on the older side, but I wouldn't want to go younger than that.

I'm also certain that those limits will change as I get older. I know that a personal connection is much more important, no matter what the age. I just want someone who wants the same things as me, who's at the same stage of life as me. And yeah, that can also happen with someone of any age.

And yeah, I know everyone's definitions are different. I guess I'm sticking with the romanticised picture I built in my head during high school, only with a D/s flavour to it now.

 

[HisSexyPet]

I strongly suggest you forget age limits. I had the same preconceived ideas on how old my life partner would be. I married a man 4 years older, thought we had the perfect marriage, two kids, decent house, good two incomes, several cars, sex every night...it all came crashing down.

B and i had been chatting quite a few months as we were in the same guild in an online game. We had both heard each other over vent, an online way players can converse, and both had a very strong initial reaction to each other. One day our chatting went further. When i found out how old he was i tried to back away..go back to being just guildmates...He wouldn't hear of it. After 10 months of online and telephone calls i agreed to let Him come for a visit. If i had let the very large age gap hinder me i would not have found my soulmate, the love of my life, my Master.

 

[CurlyKat]

I'm thinking 25 - 35. (I'm 28) I'll be flexible within a couple more years on the older side, but I wouldn't want to go younger than that.

I'm also certain that those limits will change as I get older. I know that a personal connection is much more important, no matter what the age. I just want someone who wants the same things as me, who's at the same stage of life as me. And yeah, that can also happen with someone of any age.

And yeah, I know everyone's definitions are different. I guess I'm sticking with the romanticised picture I built in my head during high school, only with a D/s flavour to it now.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with doing what works for you. Being able to be on the same page is definitely important. As is that whole D/s thing.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with doing what works for you. Being able to be on the same page is definitely important. As is that whole D/s thing.

I just find it funny that there's this gulf between what I expect/ed, and who I've been with. I wouldn't change any of it for the world though.

It's just a thought that's been sitting with me lately. I think about all the different things I want from life, and a partner, and I wonder how I can mush them all into one.

 

[CurlyKat]

I just find it funny that there's this gulf between what I expect/ed, and who I've been with. I wouldn't change any of it for the world though.

It's just a thought that's been sitting with me lately. I think about all the different things I want from life, and a partner, and I wonder how I can mush them all into one.

Magic!

 

[HisSexyPet]

I just find it funny that there's this gulf between what I expect/ed, and who I've been with. I wouldn't change any of it for the world though.

It's just a thought that's been sitting with me lately. I think about all the different things I want from life, and a partner, and I wonder how I can mush them all into one.

I am a firm believer in Fate and going with what feels right.

 

[BlitzKrieger]

Everything happens for a reason.

The good, the bad, and the ugly. Even if it seems completely random and nonsensical, there is a root cause, a rhyme and reason, behind everything. Imho.