Dominance in the Shadows: Who Are You When No One’s Watching?

[flameinsidesoul]

A thread for doms, subs, switches, and everyone in-between to explore this: Outside the dynamic, when the toys are put away and the titles drop. Do you still feel dominant or submissive? Or is it all a sacred mask you only wear when the scene is lit? What happens to the power when it’s just you, your thoughts, and the silence?

You could start it.. like:

“Sometimes the dungeon is a bedroom. Sometimes it’s our brain. Ever felt your role so deeply it echoed outside the scene? Or maybe it’s the opposite—maybe your ‘true self’ feels completely different. Let’s talk shadow selves, secret longings, and the versions of us no one gets to see—except, maybe, here.”

 

[OddLove]

I'm VERY much a switch and into almost everything Kink-related. But in the absence of sexuality and kink, I'm the complete opposite. I'm not very adventurous and spontaneous outside of sex/romance. But personality wise, I'm not dominant or submissive, I'm more like stubborn, introverted, and highly opinionated. The dominant and submissive traits are more just playful roles to play, rather than actual parts of my personality.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I'm a regular person..lol..
No body would know my extracurricular sexual fun unless I told them...

I was a caregiver for over 25 years.. And I manager..
So I'm very caring, like my submissive side..
Yet very dominant too..

 

[Dearelliot]

For years I've found regular sex as not so interesting, like eating at McDonalds...The food is good, I like everything about it, great service, prices okay...but I don't think back about it. "Wow that was great, what a good time I had that day I ate at McDonalds...So over the years, I've worked at finding a few specialized restaurants so that when I do think back, I remember great times.

 

[FeelingLikeMyself]

I'm an aerospace machinist during the day. If you've ever been in a machine shop, you understand the atmosphere.

I'm also a sex obsessed bisexual crossdresser and a consult appointment away from being on HRT. I'm very much into the sissy fetish but don't identify as one. Just as an enthusiastic, submissive CD/TV who likes to occasionally top sissies and other CDs. I'm also an exhibitionist and enjoy showing off on FetLife.

Business in street, freak when I clock out.

 

[BiBunny]

I'm a switch.

I'm also a phone sex operator. I do not submit professionally because the kind of men who claim to be dominant and call phone sex are the literal worst.

In real life, I rarely top because I just don't feel compelled to much anymore. I also don't submit a lot because I don't see my Daddy much. So irl, I don't do much of anything these days.

 

[Boat1]

I'm submissive to my Lovely Wife Domme ALWAYS, 24/7/365 (with one disclaimer... ANYTHING regarding Her health, safety and well-being, I can override)

 

[Erosfan]

I am my lady's naked sex toy. I am hers to do with as she wishes.

In my day to day life, I am very much in control, and people that know me would never imagine what I enjoy in private, and at times, not so private.

 

[LinusLattimore]

I'm pretty much a quiet, reserved person. Now retired, I write poetry, fiction, and historical pieces. Throughout my career in industry, I held many positions of responsibility in which I was aggressive, assertive, and dominant to both men and women under me. At home with the Missus, I have always been in a "worship phase," ever willing and eager to submit to her fabulous femininity in any way possible. She is much more vanilla, but does occasionally get into a playful D/s mood, almost always with her dominating. Going on 50 years. I'm very lucky.