I had never given any thought to whether I was a dom in any way, shape, or form. Over the last couple of weeks I've had several women tell me that I am a natural dom. I know that I get satisfaction from controlling a woman's pleasure: focusing on those thing which I know arouse them, trying to prolong their pleasure, controlling the pace of arousal, things like this. I've been told I have some skills, and those skills make me a natural dom, whether I know it or not. I'm asking for input from people with more knowledge - am I probably a dom? I don't know what, if anything, I'd do based on your answers, I'm just curious. Thanks for any insight.
Dom or not?
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Stella_Omega
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who cares what you call yourself? You sound like the kind of person who would be a real find for a lot of women. 
That said, you might benefit from the essay linked in my signature.
That said, you might benefit from the essay linked in my signature.
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Do you want to be?
Often, I think that line is "I've read erotica with an unrealistic hero in it and I'm hoping I can make you more like him."
You said:
I know that I get satisfaction from controlling a woman's pleasure: focusing on those thing which I know arouse them, trying to prolong their pleasure, controlling the pace of arousal, things like this.
When I have sex with a submissive guy, short of overtly controlling and teasing me (I tend to control pace and tease) but other than that, the rest is the same, his MO is arouse me, prolong the engagement, make me feel freaking amazing - and that gets him off.
So what do *you* want/like? Maybe you're, like, a guy. If some of this cuffs blindfolds "please sir may I take off my bra now?" kind of stuff works for you, you may want to explore that.
If it meant the world to you, you'd probably be doing some of this stuff already, but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy new things and find yourself a little more.
Often, I think that line is "I've read erotica with an unrealistic hero in it and I'm hoping I can make you more like him."
You said:
I know that I get satisfaction from controlling a woman's pleasure: focusing on those thing which I know arouse them, trying to prolong their pleasure, controlling the pace of arousal, things like this.
When I have sex with a submissive guy, short of overtly controlling and teasing me (I tend to control pace and tease) but other than that, the rest is the same, his MO is arouse me, prolong the engagement, make me feel freaking amazing - and that gets him off.
So what do *you* want/like? Maybe you're, like, a guy. If some of this cuffs blindfolds "please sir may I take off my bra now?" kind of stuff works for you, you may want to explore that.
If it meant the world to you, you'd probably be doing some of this stuff already, but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy new things and find yourself a little more.
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SweetPuppyBeth
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I think you should research it. What aspects, if any, of BDSM interest you? Do you want, and can you handle having a submissive women?
It could very well be that you simply like to control the pleasure your partners recieve, and that's the extent of it. Or, you could be a Dom. It's really based off of how You feel, not what we think you might feel
It could very well be that you simply like to control the pleasure your partners recieve, and that's the extent of it. Or, you could be a Dom. It's really based off of how You feel, not what we think you might feel
I appreciate your thoughts. I'm new to this subject so my use of terms may not be exact (feel free to correct me where needed) and I should probably have used the term "Daddy". I've had two ladies ask if I were interested in being their daddy. They described a sense of confidence in knowing what I want, confidence in directing them, able to get them to respond. At the same time, they say I'm caring. I'm interested in finding out more about Doms/Daddies. The interest is there; I'm just curious if my skills are really those that would fit being a Daddy. I'd hate to take on that role if it isn't likely to work for both of us.
SweetPuppyBeth
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I would suggest doing a lot of research, before trying to take anyone on as a Little/Baby Girl. Every little is different, but the more you know about the dynamic, the more you will know if it's one you are prepared to take on
