Dom(me)s who like to 'share' their sub(s)

[CollarAndFeather]

So, I've been curious lately about the mindset of Dom(me)s who like to 'share' their sub(s). What do you (or people you know) get out of it? I can guess at things like voyeurism and some other things, but I'm just guessing.

I don't expect there's just one or two reasons why a Dom(me) might want to, but I'm curious what people here think/have experienced.

 

[pensivepoet]

A definite fantasy

 

[seela]

I can imagine it being the representation of ultimate ownership for some D types. They have another person to even give away temporarily if they so wish.

 

[Kim_Burly]

Stand by for a post that makes no sense, whatsoever.

Sir sees me as his prized possession, and I am very, very happy to be his possession. He has shared me with two friends (on separate occasions).
These are two very close friends that he served with in the military for many years. In fact his small group has a bit of a fraternity and that is where the tattoo on my breast comes from. So his friends were staying with him, before we had moved in together, and he had me go to them after they had gone to bed. With both, in the morning, Sir did show his dominant side. My sense was that he did this out of a sense of loyalty and obligation. He was not happy to share me. Sir has been with the wives of his comrades as well.

On the recent experience, I never told him that I wanted to have multiple men and women at one time. He talked to Lynn, my sub and she spilled the beans. I think he did this for me because he saw that although I am not crazy about the therapy, he was very pleased with my progress. So unbeknownst to me he planned the whole affair and hosted it in his old house. Again, he showed his dominant side to those there which made me proud. Looking back and knowing what a sacrifice it was for him, I told him that my fantasy had been fulfilled and I don't want to ever do it again.

 

[CutieMouse]

Eh. I had two lovers for a few years (who knew about each other). At the time, I referred to them as The Men™.

We didn't talk often about why they were okay with "sharing". To a certain extent, it was simply an issue of practicality... all of us were busy. One of The Men™ lived out of state and was only in town once a month; the other wasn't interested in a "traditional relationship" where he was expected to spend X amount of time a week with a partner. Result? I saw each of them once or twice a month, which (at the time) was a pretty good balance.

In all honesty, I "belonged" to one of the of The Men™ more than the other. His attitude was that there was something pretty damn spectacular about understanding I could have physical and emotional needs met elsewhere... and KNOW I would come back. The only "rule" was that whomever else was in my life, had to be good for me. If it caused me hurt, or negativity, or drama, or anything bad... it wasn't okay. If I had other relationships that met my needs, helped me grow as a person, were supportive... kick ass; keep it up.

I think the one I "belonged to" less, simply liked the idea that I was so comfortable with my sexuality, that I was okay with having more than one lover. He also recognized that he wasn't exactly available (only being in town once a month), so it took some guilt/pressure off him, too.

 

[rimmy]

I can imagine it being the representation of ultimate ownership for some D types. They have another person to even give away temporarily if they so wish.

There's that and the pride you feel when they perform admirably. Especially if it's something you've taught them.


Chag Sameach.

 

[HntersToy]

We are just starting to dabble into this. Has been a fantasy for years. I have been on cam in front of over 100 viewers before, but He is stepping up the "game" per se. And hinting that I will be shared with someone whether I like it or not. Which turns me on immensely! This being said.....It has not happened yet. So I don't know how I will really feel till it happens.

For me, I feel proud of my Master for being open to "sharing" me. It reinforces His Dominance, His Ownership, His contentment...Overall, it is hard to put into words...but i am His!

 

[tristantrotsky]

For A Submissive Cock-Sucker's Perspective

For me - as a submissive male cock-sucker, it allows me the unlimited pleasure of sucking other guy's cocks which my dominant Boyfriend selects for me, thus eliminating the awkward and troublesome problem of my initiating sex or making the first move in a relationship, something I've never been very good at. Lacking that kind of self-confidence I simply leave it up to him, he brings home guys for me, then he watches as I suck them off

 

[amofiga]

Sharing is not for everybody, but for those who appreciate the connection to each other and to other friends to share something prized, there is understanding. The best option is not just sharing your sub or being shared by your dom(me) with one other person but as a couple sharing between you. It's like sharing a cozy intimate dinner or a vacation trip or other such memorable things. However, it takes both/all wanting it. If one or more are uncomfortable, then it makes for tense times.

 

[SovereignShe]

I discussed this with my male sub. He's extremely sensitive. I knew that I couldn't just throw the idea at him. Sharing is something I cannot do with him, due to his sensitive nature. However, I am open to training additional subs. If they didn't have the same issues, sharing could be a beautiful thing. I find it highly erotic and am open to it.

 

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[Ltsmooth]

Sharing

I began sharing my wife/lover/sub several years ago, first with a co-worker, then with a married man we both met and liked and lastly with a fellow schoolmate who I met on another adult site. We are currently still playing with my schoolmate and are planning more adventures! Sharing is the spice of life.

 

[CollarAndFeather]

I discussed this with my male sub. He's extremely sensitive. I knew that I couldn't just throw the idea at him. Sharing is something I cannot do with him, due to his sensitive nature. However, I am open to training additional subs. If they didn't have the same issues, sharing could be a beautiful thing. I find it highly erotic and am open to it.

Can you put to words what about it is a turnon for you? It's pretty easy for me to imagine why a sub might enjoy being shared or seeing their Dom with someome else, but when I see depictions of Doms that enjoy it, the specifics of what they like about it are usually glossed over completely.


Also, thanks for the responces everyone. ^_^

 

[SovereignShe]

Can you put to words what about it is a turnon for you? It's pretty easy for me to imagine why a sub might enjoy being shared or seeing their Dom with someome else, but when I see depictions of Doms that enjoy it, the specifics of what they like about it are usually glossed over completely.


Also, thanks for the responces everyone. ^_^

He's mine. I've taught him what he knows. I'm extremely proud of him. He could have fun playing, but he's coming back to me and under my care. This I know. It's very rewarding to know we can live a certain way and be together for the remainder of our years.. Blood, sweat, and tears have gone into preparing him. It's not only wanting to show him off, but also that fetish of watching.

That being said, I can fantasize. My beloved has made this a steadfast rule. He will not be with anyone other than myself. Perhaps that's what makes the fantasy so fun...that I know I will never happen.

 

[SlaveAriel]

I get gifted to other people as a reward and as punishment. Often I only am told that someone will take me and they have permission from my Master or Mistress! I belong to a couple!