Dom/Domme or sub/sub crushes, anyone?

[Jay Davis]

I'm not a switch by any stretch of the imagination--I'm a straight up sub, and proud of it. I'm all about serving a Dominant Woman.

But I'm still prone to innocent, high-school-style crushes on smart subby girls, especially ones I know are gay. The attraction is an inexplicable mix of naked lust, paternal protection, and fraternal affection--with just a hint of admiration and envy for the special place girl subs hold in the hearts of so many Dommes. Bottom line (no pun intended!), I just find you girls really attractive, even though I wouldn't have the first clue about how to handle you if I ever got the chance.

I often think that my ideal life would be to serve a bi Mistress alongside a female sub, day in and day out, sharing duties as well as downtime. The idea curling up and falling asleep with my sister slave like puppies in a basket after a long, challenging scene, under the nurturing gaze of a stern but loving Mistress just strikes me as so...serene, I guess...

So I'm wondering...does anyone else have fantasies or develop specific crushes for your fellow Dominants or fellow submissives? (Not to be rude to our switchy friends, but we all can guess what your answer to this question would be! )

 

[Aeroil]

Is there any sub here who doesn't have a crush on Shadowsdream?

Sure as the Abyss not me!

 

[Private_Label]

... So I'm wondering...does anyone else have fantasies or develop specific crushes for your fellow Dominants or fellow submissives? (Not to be rude to our switchy friends, but we all can guess what your answer to this question would be! )

One of my favorite authors here at Lit is elsol - His novella - "A Master's Ring" contains a male sub living in a hetero male Dom's home - and the male sub sees the other subs as "family" and is sexually active with many of them (not "on camera" as it were, just mentions of it happening).

I think S/He is a very good writer, you might want to check out his submissions page hotlinked above.

 

[sophia jane]

Is there any sub here who doesn't have a crush on Shadowsdream?

Sure as the Abyss not me!

I know I have a bit of one.

And Jay- I know exactly what you mean. I've had a few crushes (one on my best gal friend, who also happens to be sub- I mean, really, what the hell would we do with each other??) that make absolutely no sense. We can't help who we're attracted to, I guess.

SJ

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, not so far, but with so many new things happening around here, who can tell what the future may hold. There will only be one (F incase there is any doubt) who owns my heart, but I could see where an admiring type regard could develop for a male sub who exceeded the rest and served with all his strength and patience, and a fair bit of kinkiness thrown in.

Catalina

 

[bronntanas]

I may have misread the question, but I thought he was asking about pyls crushing on other pyls and PYLs crushing on PYLs....

And yes, I've crushed on pyls and PYLs of either gender. Just because the power flow doesn't work for me on pyl/pyl basis does NOT mean that I don't notice...

For instance, if D of D's mariposa would let me play I'd be there like yesterday! But he doesn't like boys and the rule is, they can only bring in someone they can both play with.

 

[Jay Davis]

I may have misread the question, but I thought he was asking about pyls crushing on other pyls and PYLs crushing on PYLs...

Exactly, Brontanas.

Aeroil, you're supposed to crush on Shadowsdream, She's a Domme! I was interested to hear about subs having crushes on subs, or Dominants having crushes on Dominants.

Part of what makes these crushes so sweet is the fact that they almost certainly can't go anyplace. In a way, it's the only innocent attraction that's left to us kinksters!

 

[Marquis]

Hey, I fell for Killi didn't I?


JOKE!!!


THAT WAS A JOKE!!!!!


Oh god, I'm in so much trouble.


But seriously, yes, all the time. Although I tend not to get attached to dominant personalities and I can rarely take them in anything but small doses, I am prone to crush on high powered bitches.

 

[bronntanas]

Exactly, Brontanas.

I didn't fall off the turnip truck yesterday...

Part of what makes these crushes so sweet is the fact that they almost certainly can't go anyplace. In a way, it's the only innocent attraction that's left to us kinksters!

I won't really rule out that these crushes won't go anyplace. I've had a crush on a sub woman and we had a great weekend together. We're still friends, and I'm friends with her PYL too. We won't repeat the event unless the PYL is cool with it; but if she weren't taken, we'd still be "friends with priviledges". I think part of the reason it works is I don't crush on them in a power exchange sort of way. I'm hoping the ladies won't get upset for the mention, but I don't see ciara as a Domme, so while I may think happy thoughts about fun stuff to do with her, I don't get a sexy Domme vibe. Killi trips my switchy switch, because I've seen her get switchy on some subs.

 

[Jay Davis]

But seriously, yes, all the time. Although I tend not to get attached to dominant personalities and I can rarely take them in anything but small doses, I am prone to crush on high powered bitches.

Thanks, Marquis. I'd wondered if this happened to Dominants too, and whether any would admit it if it did.

 

[Aeroil]

Exactly, Brontanas.

Aeroil, you're supposed to crush on Shadowsdream, She's a Domme! I was interested to hear about subs having crushes on subs, or Dominants having crushes on Dominants.

Part of what makes these crushes so sweet is the fact that they almost certainly can't go anyplace. In a way, it's the only innocent attraction that's left to us kinksters!

You did not specify, therefore the post stands.

 

[canadiancutie]

I have a huge crush on Xelebes

 

[Killishandra]

That's IT, Marquis, you're FIRED!!!!




Damn, why can't I stay mad at him, ever? The boy is a dangerous mix of cute and evil. Downright sinister. lol.


Bronn: Who me? Switchy? Perish the thought!

Okaaay, it's true...

Jay:

I often think that my ideal life would be to serve a bi Mistress alongside a female sub, day in and day out, sharing duties as well as downtime. The idea curling up and falling asleep with my sister slave like puppies in a basket after a long, challenging scene, under the nurturing gaze of a stern but loving Mistress just strikes me as so...serene, I guess...

I've had very similar wistful daydreams. The "puppies in a basket" sister-brother sub idea. My problem with the scenario has always been that I want a dominant male in my life. So in order for that to work for me, I would have to be subservient to the other sub (not likely, except for a switchy relationship) OR... (and this is the idea I like alot, but it seems like it would be so hard to come by) me and a brother sub who are submissive to a Dominant couple.

Like getting a mom, dad, and brother all at once. (Figuratively speaking.)

I'm poly-oriented and I have fantasies of such a scenario all the time. Unfortunately, a situation like that is so rare, I can't honestly think the opportunity will present itself and actually work out so wonderfully. I have a much harder time viewing women as dominant (as opposed to males I meet) so the woman would have to be one hell of a Domme.

If the opportunity ever DID present itself.... .... ......

Anyway, so my point is... I know what you're talking about.

 

[catalina_francisco]

That's IT, Marquis, you're FIRED!!!!




Damn, why can't I stay mad at him, ever? The boy is a dangerous mix of cute and evil. Downright sinister. lol.


Bronn: Who me? Switchy? Perish the thought!

Okaaay, it's true...

Jay:


I've had very similar wistful daydreams. The "puppies in a basket" sister-brother sub idea. My problem with the scenario has always been that I want a dominant male in my life. So in order for that to work for me, I would have to be subservient to the other sub (not likely, except for a switchy relationship) OR... (and this is the idea I like alot, but it seems like it would be so hard to come by) me and a brother sub who are submissive to a Dominant couple.

Like getting a mom, dad, and brother all at once. (Figuratively speaking.)

I'm poly-oriented and I have fantasies of such a scenario all the time. Unfortunately, a situation like that is so rare, I can't honestly think the opportunity will present itself and actually work out so wonderfully. I have a much harder time viewing women as dominant (as opposed to males I meet) so the woman would have to be one hell of a Domme.

If the opportunity ever DID present itself.... .... ......

Anyway, so my point is... I know what you're talking about.

All things are possible....and these scenarios are not as rare as you may think. I am learning and exploring more each day as we continue the male sub search.

Catalina

 

[SweetDommes]

I have ... but I refuse to admit who they are (one is from another site anyway ... so only onceburned would know who it was )

Mostly, though, I'm only attracted to submisives, or switches. Holly is the only Domme in my life, and somehow, I don't see that changing any time this century.

 

[Xelebes]

I have a huge crush on Xelebes

^^^

Und Und Und (no, I'm not onomatopoeiating a techno beat)

Killi, just pet (GBer but a sub none the less) and Pinkstarfish.

 

[Xelebes]

Jay:


I've had very similar wistful daydreams. The "puppies in a basket" sister-brother sub idea. My problem with the scenario has always been that I want a dominant male in my life. So in order for that to work for me, I would have to be subservient to the other sub (not likely, except for a switchy relationship) OR... (and this is the idea I like alot, but it seems like it would be so hard to come by) me and a brother sub who are submissive to a Dominant couple.

Like getting a mom, dad, and brother all at once. (Figuratively speaking.)

That would be hot.

 

[Jay Davis]

You did not specify, therefore the post stands.

Er, I thought I was pretty darn clear, both in the thread title and in my original post, and everyone else seems to have gotten it. But whatever.

 

[Killishandra]

Killi, just pet (GBer but a sub none the less) and Pinkstarfish.

What are you telling me about these people, though? Are they brother-sister submissives?

 

[Xelebes]

What are you telling me about these people, though? Are they brother-sister submissives?

I thought you were a brother-sister submissive. Ok, a switch. Close enough.

 

[Killishandra]

I thought you were a brother-sister submissive. Ok, a switch. Close enough.

I'd certainly like to have a brother or sister submissive again, if that's what you're asking.

I'm still confused as to what you're trying to tell me about just_pet and pinkstarfish. Are you just pointing out that they share that type of relationship with each other, or are you suggesting I contact them in regards to me wanting that type of relationship, or...

 

[Jay Davis]

I've had very similar wistful daydreams. The "puppies in a basket" sister-brother sub idea. My problem with the scenario has always been that I want a dominant male in my life. So in order for that to work for me, I would have to be subservient to the other sub (not likely, except for a switchy relationship) OR... (and this is the idea I like alot, but it seems like it would be so hard to come by) me and a brother sub who are submissive to a Dominant couple.

I admit to certain "serving a couple" fantasies, and I can get pretty excited about the idea, but it would be really necessary to me that the Master NOT try to top the Mistress, ever. The reasons behind THAT proviso would be the topic for another thread, tho.

But the idea of assisting the Mistress in training a less-experienced female sub, being put at least part time in a position of dominance over her, is one of the few scenarios I can imagine where I could get really into topping a woman. Under precisely those circumstances, I think doing things that would otherwise be alien to me, would be really hot.

The only thing that would be even hotter would be if the Mistress were actually using me to help train a novice Domme, and required that the novice begin her training as a sub for some period of time. Feeling the gradual exchange of dominance, starting out over her and eventually becoming subordinate to her as she grew into her full dominance over time...wow...THAT is really hot. (Hmmm...sounds like a great idea for a novella-length tale for literotica...one with character development and a plot and everything, not just sex!)

But whatever the circumstance, serving in conjunction with a complementary female sub is a really exciting idea.

 

[Killishandra]

I admit to certain "serving a couple" fantasies, and I can get pretty excited about the idea, but it would be really necessary to me that the Master NOT try to top the Mistress, ever. The reasons behind THAT proviso would be the topic for another thread, tho.

But the idea of assisting the Mistress in training a less-experienced female sub, being put at least part time in a position of dominance over her, is one of the few scenarios I can imagine where I could get really into topping a woman. Under precisely those circumstances, I think doing things that would otherwise be alien to me, would be really hot.

The only thing that would be even hotter would be if the Mistress were actually using me to help train a novice Domme, and required that the novice begin her training as a sub for some period of time. Feeling the gradual exchange of dominance, starting out over her and eventually becoming subordinate to her as she grew into her full dominance over time...wow...THAT is really hot. (Hmmm...sounds like a great idea for a novella-length tale for literotica...one with character development and a plot and everything, not just sex!)

But whatever the circumstance, serving in conjunction with a complementary female sub is a really exciting idea.

Now that's interesting! Because my thoughts would be that I would never want the Mistress to top the Master. I'm not even sure why I'm so hung up on that, and perhaps I shouldn't be, but I guess in the end I really want a fantastically dominant man to serve and that image would be shattered if he was being topped by another female. Even if the female was my Mistress. I could handle if they were both Doms and neither topped the other, but I think if they were in a relationship then one would be exerting at least a little dominance over the other.

I've never thought about being used to train a Dom and experiencing the slow transfer of power as he grows into his dominance. *shiver*

Please let me know if/when you write that novella. (I know it will be about a Domme not a Dom, but I would still find that amazingly erotic. What a wonderful idea for a story! I've yet to read one like that.)

 

[Xelebes]

I'd certainly like to have a brother or sister submissive again, if that's what you're asking.

I'm still confused as to what you're trying to tell me about just_pet and pinkstarfish. Are you just pointing out that they share that type of relationship with each other, or are you suggesting I contact them in regards to me wanting that type of relationship, or...

Oh them, they're just other subs that I have a crush on. Nothing more, really.

 

[Killishandra]

*laughing* ok. totally my bad, X... I thought when you said "Killi," you were addressing me and then telling me the names of two other people.

I see now that you were listing subs/switches you have a crush on, and I'm one of them!

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Killi, just pet (GBer but a sub none the less) and Pinkstarfish.