Does size really matter?

[BiBunny]

Now THAT is very interesting, and very worthwhile factor to consider throwing into the mix.

Too much conditioning in society in general IMO, especially regards looks, physique, and so-called norms. I doubt anyone's going to argue with that??

But just because you like tall men doesn't mean you're some sheep who's totally given in to societal conditioning.

I like tall men. I also like larged-framed fat men with big chests and shoulders and arms. And furry men. With round, almost baby faces and dark hair and blue eyes. The teddy bear type, most would say. I've been attracted to this kind of man my whole life, basically, and it's not what anyone consider the prototype of masculine beauty.

I also tend to go for shorter women, but I think that's more out of necessity than anything. There just aren't that many women who are over 6' tall. I've been attracted to women around my own height, though. I also like bigger women, the soft, sweet-faced type. Also not the prototype of feminine beauty.

Height and size is not a dominance thing for me, either. Master is 6'2". Mistress is 5'2". Both of them would murder me if I told their actual sizes here, but Master is a big ol' boy, and Mistress and I wear about the same size clothing. As mentioned before, I fall between them at somewhere around 5'9"-5'10" and fat-assed. I prefer the male subs I play with to be tall and fat, too. I have no real size preference on female subs, except I do like bigger girls.

 

[Shalrath]

But just because you like tall men doesn't mean you're some sheep who's totally given in to societal conditioning.

Lucky I didn't say that then, I doubt it's what Corylea meant either.

The whole "prototype of attractiveness" issue is another kettle of fish entirely. If someone would like to start a thread on it.....

 

[Corylea]

But just because you like tall men doesn't mean you're some sheep who's totally given in to societal conditioning.

Lucky I didn't say that then, I doubt it's what Corylea meant either.

Quite right, Shalrath; of course that's not what I meant.

 

[Homburg]

I'll flip the question from a het perspective - how many men prefer petite/shorter partners? How many are more likely to get that dominant/protective/whatever feeling with a partner who is more diminutive, rather than one who towers over them?

I have a preference for shorter partners. All but one of the women I've had a relationship with was under 5'4" or so. The one that wasn't was 5'8" I believe. When she put on high heels she could look me in the eye.

I think the preference is partly based on the overall image parameters I like, and partly just habitual geometry. The image thing is there. Yep, I like being the rawr-manly protector of the diminuitive female. Ooh, I'm primitive. Whatever.

Habitual geometry was the interesting thing to learn. As mentioned above, I've always dated women under 5'4" or so. Not on purpose, just how things worked out*. Anyway, about two years ago, I was in a relationship with a gal that is 5'8". First time ever. It was interesting to work out the geometry of sex with someone that was almost my height (5'11") as opposed to nearly a foot shorter. Certain positional options that I was used to simply were not going to work.

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I think women are socialized and conditioned to be attracted to tall men, and while any individual woman may not be able to change this, if society as a whole were more egalitarian, I think this preference would become far less frequent.

Average height for a man (in the US) is 5'9"

Average height for a woman (in the US) 5'4"

Women are used to the idea of men being taller as much as men are used to women being shorter. I don't think egalite will change the physical reality of size trends much.

This is why I put an * above. As a teenager, I didn't think "I dig short chicks." I am an inch or two above average height, and thus 7" taller than the average woman. This means that most of the women out there are going to be shorter than I am. Barring an expressed preference for taller women, I'm likely to find myself in relationships with shorter ones.

I'm not particularly disagreeing with your post, Corylea. Just picking your quote out as a lead in to a discussion of average heights. I am likewise bothered that people would ask a tall woman with a shorter man how they managed to kiss. Insipid. That part of the size difference would be affected by egalite, and I would be glad to see it, but I doubt that it would modify the preference.

 

[MisterSir]

I'm also realizing that the type of woman I'm usually attracted to is the type to cause me problems.

Better?

Much. Thank you kindly.

 

[00Syd]

Much. Thank you kindly.

It's what I do

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I like tall men. I also like larged-framed fat men with big chests and shoulders and arms. And furry men. With round, almost baby faces and dark hair and blue eyes. The teddy bear type, most would say. I've been attracted to this kind of man my whole life, basically, and it's not what anyone consider the prototype of masculine beauty.

You have just very accurately described my Master, though he's shaven headed and eyes are a weird kind of pale-hazelly-green.

I have also found that my relationship history affects who I'm physically attracted to. When I was dating a Mediterranean guy, I found them more attractive. Since we parted on bad terms, I find them correspondingly less attractive because, to one degree or another, they remind me of my ex. I think our personal tastes fluctuate quite a lot over time.

Also, as MS is 20, his peers are fairly immature and glued to programmes like *chokes on name in sheer disgust* Hollyoaks and 'Skins' where every single character could be a catwalk model. The looks vs brains/personality ratio changes rapidly and drastically in a person's 20s. They focus less on the packaging and more on the package.

At least... they should.

 

[MisterSir]

Also, as MS is 20, his peers are fairly immature and glued to programmes like 'Skins' where every single character could be a catwalk model. The looks vs brains/personality ratio changes rapidly and drastically in a person's 20s. They focus less on the packaging and more on the package.

At least... they should.

Christ, give us some credit. We're not all like that.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Christ, give us some credit. We're not all like that.

I know that. With all these things it's a spectrum or sliding scale. I've been 20 and I know how shallow many people were, even in uni where they should be more intelligent and enlightened. At the risk of sounding even more trite, when you get to 30 you'll see what I mean.

Not that I've got to 30. *checks calendar*

 

[CutieMouse]

How someone walks in 4 or 5 inch heels, I will never know. Have you ever broken an ankle or tumbled down stairs or something?

As an adult, I've only ever met a couple of women taller than myself. I don't remember thinking of them as attractive or unattractive. Mostly I was just thinking: Holy shit, that woman's tall.

One of the reasons I like my heels @ 4" is because I'm fine in flats, mostly okay in 2" heels, graceful in 4" - 5¼" heels... and trip, clomp, stumble and otherwise embarrass myself in 2½" - 3½" heels.

I've never stumbled or tripped or sprained and ankle [because of heels]. The trick is walking with the leg, rather than articulating the entire sole of the foot with every step.

 

[myinnerslut]

But just because you like tall men doesn't mean you're some sheep who's totally given in to societal conditioning.

I like tall men. I also like larged-framed fat men with big chests and shoulders and arms. And furry men.

You have just very accurately described my Master, though he's shaven headed and eyes are a weird kind of pale-hazelly-green.

mine as well though swap out the eye color for dark brown.

we should start a club

 

[BiBunny]

mine as well though swap out the eye color for dark brown.

we should start a club

The I Love To Submit To Tall, Fat, Furry Men club? I'm all for it.

 

[myinnerslut]

The I Love To Submit To Tall, Fat, Furry Men club? I'm all for it.

we've got t-shirts

 

[BiBunny]

we've got t-shirts

OMG!

 

[myinnerslut]

OMG!

i added a back so glance back up.

now ill stop the thread hijack.

 

[BiBunny]

i added a back so glance back up.

now ill stop the thread hijack.

I you. You are so awesome!

/hijack

 

[intothewoods]

"The... the other important joke, for me, is one that's usually attributed to Groucho Marx; but, I think it appears originally in Freud's 'Wit and Its Relation to the Unconscious,' and it goes like this - I'm paraphrasing - um, 'I would never want to belong to any club that would have someone like me for a member.' That's the key joke of my adult life, in terms of my relationships with women."

- Woody Allen, Annie Hall

Quoting Woody Allen is even hawter than an m-m-f threesome.

Just sayin.

 

[JMohegan]

Quoting Woody Allen is even hawter than an m-m-f threesome.

Just sayin.

Weird shit turns you on, woman.

Just sayin.

 

[intothewoods]

Weird shit turns you on, woman.

Just sayin.

I think Woody Allen was my first Jewish friend.

Now I feel bad about the thread hijack. To the OP: I generally have dated taller than me, but I don't have a rule about it. I have known a few men with short man's complex and that is a serious turn off.

In conclusion, honey there's a spider in your bathroom the size of a buick.

 

[JHarrison01]

I have to admit, tall women are a big turn on for me. I'm 6'4" and any woman over 6" is a hypnotic image. If she is big and muscular, look out - I lose all control.

Being able to kiss someone standing up, bodies pressed together is what I like.

 

[JMohegan]

I think Woody Allen was my first Jewish friend.

Now I feel bad about the thread hijack. To the OP: I generally have dated taller than me, but I don't have a rule about it. I have known a few men with short man's complex and that is a serious turn off.

In conclusion, honey there's a spider in your bathroom the size of a buick.

HAHA! God, that movie sucked, but it did have some memorable lines!

 

[Corylea]

HAHA! God, that movie [Annie Hall] sucked, but it did have some memorable lines!

I don't think it sucked, but then, I have a special reason for liking it. When I was in college (in the late 70's), my roommate adored Woody Allen, and Annie Hall was her favorite movie. Whenever the local art house had a Woody Allen film festival -- which was often, something like twice a semester -- she wanted to go see Annie Hall. All of her friends got sick of Annie Hall, and eventually nobody but me would go with her. You see, she might have been in love with Woody Allen, but *I* was in love with her, so if she wanted to see Annie Hall and needed company, I was happy to have her all to myself for the length of the movie.

I should start a thread called What Have You Done For Love? I've done many things, and one of them was watch Annie Hall umpteen times. Good thing I actually like Annie Hall.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

The I Love To Submit To Tall, Fat, Furry Men club? I'm all for it.

Yay! I'm SO in. And the T shirts are awesome.

I feel a thread coming on...

 

[intothewoods]

HAHA! God, that movie sucked, but it did have some memorable lines!

Sadist.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

To be honest, there's a few reasons I generally prefer taller, bigger men.

I like to feel little. I like a big strong chest to cuddle in to, and arms that can wrap around me and keep me safe from the world.

Then there's the "being tossed around like a rag doll" factor. I adore being manhandled. I like fighting back. I love not winning.

Although it's certain that someone smaller than me could do it, it just hasn't happened yet.