Does Love Make Us Vulnerable?

[juicylips]

Maybe it's just the feeling of vulnerability. Do you associate vulnerability with weakness?

You don't really give all your heart to someone, do you?
Tell me.
jl

 

[Smiley777]

“I love a good question that causes me to pry into my heart and dig something wonderful out”-Julia

 

[MissTaken]

It isn't love that makes us vulnerable, it is trust.

And vulnerability means that you have let some of yourself open to be hurt. A weakness? No. I admire people can do this.

Good morning, jl

 

[Coolville]

JL
your thread titles all sound like topics on those American talk shows!

 

[Zmey]

Maybe it's just the feeling of vulnerability. Do you associate vulnerability with weakness?

You don't really give all your heart to someone, do you?
Tell me.
jl

Vulnerability IS weakness. Some people will exploit it so you have to be careful.

 

[juicylips]

JL
your thread titles all sound like topics on those American talk shows!

You are just now noticing that?


Actually this one was inspired by some old emails I was reading.

 

[Smiley777]

It isn't love that makes us vulnerable, it is trust.

And vulnerability means that you have let some of yourself open to be hurt. A weakness? No. I admire people can do this.

I agree. In love, you grow to trust and to share with one another...I would hope.

I do not think it a weakness to be able to open up with someone you care about. You may feel vulnerable...but that is usually just our own insecurities and fear.

 

[juicylips]

It isn't love that makes us vulnerable, it is trust.

And vulnerability means that you have let some of yourself open to be hurt. A weakness? No. I admire people can do this.

Good morning, jl

Morning, Miss T.

Hope you had a terrific weekend.

 

[juicylips]

“I love a good question that causes me to pry into my heart and dig something wonderful out”-Julia

Someone's a very, very lucky man.

 

[Smiley777]

And he knows it too.

 

[bknight2602]

The trust issue does make us more vulnerable, since in my way of thinking there are many types of love that can be given/received.

 

[Soblue]

I don't think you should feel vulnerable, being in love makes me feel confident. If you feel vulnerable, then it's because you don't trust your partner for some reason.

And yes, I believe you give them your heart and trust them not to break it.

 

[Smiley777]

"It is only by risking our persons from one hour to another that we live at all. And often enough our faith beforehand in an uncertified result is the only thing that makes the result come true."

 

[bknight2602]

I don't think you should feel vulnerable, being in love makes me feel confident. If you feel vulnerable, then it's because you don't trust your partner for some reason.

And yes, I believe you give them your heart and trust them not to break it.

But you can break hearts by "leaving" a relationship.

 

[Soblue]

But you can break hearts by "leaving" a relationship.

Well yeah, but by the time someone is leaving, I think the damage has already been done.

 

[bknight2602]

Well yeah, but by the time someone is leaving, I think the damage has already been done.

Sometimes, but not always. My "first" love left without a reason, although I'm sure there was one or more.

 

[Lost Cause]

To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.
--Lao-Tzu

I do give myself totally and open to what scars may come. I like to approach everything like I live my life, wide open and fully responsible for what happens if there's mistakes. I have been wronged by some mates, but the happy times far outweigh the sad times. I enjoy being in love, and I act like a colt springing in the pasture for the first time, and it never changes each time I'm in love with someone. It's a feeling of completeness, like a song added to an instrument. I'm just fucking goofy I guess.

 

[juicylips]

I'm just fucking goofy I guess.

No.

Not at all.

 

[Guest]

All emotions can leave you vunerable.

I think one of my main problems is no one ever gets my entire heart. I hold back..probably because I don't want anyone to have so much control over me and my emotions.

But in the end...it ends up hurting more because I didn't love completely.

You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.
--Barbara DeAngelis

 

[weed]

Love comes from the heart and soul.

It does not make you vulnerable. One's own insecurities do that. Trust issues can come into it. But when you come to truly love some one as well as love yourself and also accept your own weaknesses as well as theirs then you can move on from those insecurities and distrust that can make you vulnerable.

I'm presuming vulnerable from being hurt. The thing is there is always the potential for hurt. Especially as we got through the process of understanding ourselves and our loved ones. It's a learning and growing process that has growing pains with it and the results are never fully known.

 

[calypso_21]

Maybe it's just the feeling of vulnerability. Do you associate vulnerability with weakness?

You don't really give all your heart to someone, do you?
Tell me.
jl

Sure it makes some of us vulnerable. But I don't necessarily think it makes us weak. It just means we are right there in the thick of it, heart out there taking a risk at love...a risk at having it tossed back at us...or being captured for all time (a wonderful thought in my book).

It is difficult to give all your heart to someone. I know I want more than anything to give all to someone but it is often difficult to do. More often than not obstacles stand in the way preventing you from getting to that point where you open up completely...or you do open up and the other person is not there with you.

Given time and the right person and communication and LOVE...all of the crap doesn't matter...you will eventually give over and into all the love you feel and share it completely with the one who does the exact same for you...hopefully. The key is to find the one who compliments you in this manner.

 

[tn_8tiv]

Maybe it's just the feeling of vulnerability. Do you associate vulnerability with weakness?

You don't really give all your heart to someone, do you?
Tell me.
jl

Of course love makes us vulnerable. Love can be the most wonderful, fulfilling emotion there is...but it can also leave us hurting far worse than any imaginable trauma.

Is it associated with weakness? Love is never a weakness. It requires great strength to fall in love over and over even after the great hurt. When you completely surrender your heart to someone, live to please that person, want to share every feeling and emotion, it completely fills your every thought and desire.

As the saying goes,
"It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".

Now raw, unhibited sex....that's another matter.

 

[Lonley1]

Maybe it's just the feeling of vulnerability. Do you associate vulnerability with weakness?

You don't really give all your heart to someone, do you?
Tell me.
jl

I didn't feel vulnerable while I was in love. But now that it is over I do.

And yes I gave all my heart. And i'm sure I will again someday.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Does Love Make Us Vulnerable?

I didn't feel vulnerable while I was in love. But now that it is over I do.

Nicely said. It's like you stand back, look it over and think..."OMG...what the fuck was I thinking!"

 

[Lonley1]

Re: Re: Re: Does Love Make Us Vulnerable?

Nicely said. It's like you stand back, look it over and think..."OMG...what the fuck was I thinking!"

Well i don't think that but I can see why some do.

For me it's more "OMG...what went wrong?"