Does jealousy turn you on?

[Blushing Bottom]

Some days what doesn't?

 

[FurryFury]

Some days what doesn't?

*chuckles*

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Just a few thoughts about the food jealousy that occurred to me last night.

I used to obsess about food. Often I too would sound orgasmic while eating. I've lost weight though damn it! I don't want to go back to that.

Also I grew up with people so passionate about anything with HUGE mood swings and because of that I have a sort of evil characteristic. I like to "even out" any strong emotions I see and it's not always conscious. It's as if I feel there is a scale in my head and I have to keep things (and people around me) in balance or risk being destroyed by a maelstrom.

Fury

 

[indianPilot]

I think jealousy in very small doses can be alluring, sexy and somewhat flattering.

However, jealousy gone bad can be very defeating in a relationship. To purposely cause one's mate to become jealous, could possibly cause them to develop insecurities... and once they begin, it is just a downward spiral.

indian - of indianPilot

 

[chris9]

Just a few thoughts about the food jealousy that occurred to me last night.

I used to obsess about food. Often I too would sound orgasmic while eating. I've lost weight though damn it! I don't want to go back to that.

Also I grew up with people so passionate about anything with HUGE mood swings and because of that I have a sort of evil characteristic. I like to "even out" any strong emotions I see and it's not always conscious. It's as if I feel there is a scale in my head and I have to keep things (and people around me) in balance or risk being destroyed by a maelstrom.

Fury

I usually don't sound orgasmic when eating. And I don't eat so much or unhealthy to gain weight.
I just makes me happy/keeps me happy. Like everything seems worse when I'm hungry, even if I don't know that I'm hungry. And even if food doesn't bring ultimate happiness, I get more relaxed, whatever had pissed me off isn't as bad anymore.

I do feel though that it's not a good thing to get those mood swings and try to avoid them. At present I'm practicing to not yell at everybody (especially boyfriend and sister). So I'm with you, Fury, on the balance thing, and doing my best to get close.

 

[phoenixstone]

partial hijack... but since we've drifted here a bit already...

Sorry to hear it, though I always thought that your previous protestations of happiness in vanilla marriage were a bit much. Welcome to the snakepit.

Not protestations of happiness, just 'protestations' that I love the guy. Which I still do. First and maybe last guy I will ever be in love with. And I'm divorcing him. To his continued protests. And not because of our respective unaligned proclivities, though that doesn't help. Other reasons, not even sex-related. Anyhoo, we'll probably just live in sin and see how it goes.


And now for the nod to staying on topic -- don't understand food jealousy, just the other kind. In fact, when I stop being jealous it's because I don't care anymore and may as well be outa there. (No excuse, explanation or defense here, it's just how I am, and unlikely to change anytime soon. No I don't throw things or have fits but if someone can't deal with any jealousy he's with the wrong woman. Too bad.)

Ps. thanks for the welcome. I've missed you guys.

 

[graceanne]

Just a few thoughts about the food jealousy that occurred to me last night.

I used to obsess about food. Often I too would sound orgasmic while eating. I've lost weight though damn it! I don't want to go back to that.

Also I grew up with people so passionate about anything with HUGE mood swings and because of that I have a sort of evil characteristic. I like to "even out" any strong emotions I see and it's not always conscious. It's as if I feel there is a scale in my head and I have to keep things (and people around me) in balance or risk being destroyed by a maelstrom.

Fury

I know the feeling. My mother had (until I was in my teens and she got some counseling) split personalities. She's also . . . well I dont' know if she was ever diagnosed bipolar, but she should be. My dad isn't bipolar, but he's WAY moody (and you wonder why they're divorced.) Extreme emotions make me VERY uncomfortable. Even more so if they're from me.

 

[phoenixstone]

Way over in OT-Land...

Ka-ching. For those of you with only a passing interest in something a little harder, i'll buy the original "how do i" question. For the rest, best of luck in your endeavors.

Jury is still out on this one. I'm pretty much 'in my head,' anyway, so it didn't matter that much. Now? Something rl came up that alerted me to some new territory that I don't want to never explore deeper... but it's more talk-related, more around control stuff, than what is generally seen as mainstream bdsm.

So. There was something Netzach said a long time ago, that my fantasy life qualifies me automatically for the deep end. Hearing that from her, (as I respect her judgement and intelligence), in an odd way was comforting, a turning point in thinking around this whole issue. Helped me let go of ever, always, wanting to be vanilla, (like some poor, deep-Christian, gay guy wanting, yearning, to be straight.)

The hi-jack continues... wish it was something as simple, or straightforward anyway, as physical pain that works for me. Now, how to relate this back to the topic, just to keep my new goal, now that I'm a virgin again, of not being bratty on board? (If for no other reason than just to see how long I can go....)

End Hijack: Well, jealousy is a form of pain. Mental pain, my favorite kind. (And yet, too intense for me to handle in rl, though it has served it's purpose in fantasy.) Right up there with betrayal and other forms of mind-fucking. Have we talked about mind-fucks in a while? (Where is Etoile?!)


(Ps. Thank you, Netzach.)

 

[FurryFury]

I know the feeling. My mother had (until I was in my teens and she got some counseling) split personalities. She's also . . . well I dont' know if she was ever diagnosed bipolar, but she should be. My dad isn't bipolar, but he's WAY moody (and you wonder why they're divorced.) Extreme emotions make me VERY uncomfortable. Even more so if they're from me.

I understand that! *hug*

Fury

 

[rosco rathbone]

Not protestations of happiness, just 'protestations' that I love the guy. Which I still do. First and maybe last guy I will ever be in love with. And I'm divorcing him. To his continued protests. And not because of our respective unaligned proclivities, though that doesn't help. Other reasons, not even sex-related. Anyhoo, we'll probably just live in sin and see how it goes.


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Loving the guy has nothing to do with anything.

Most of us battle-scarred perverts have been through something like this: "and not because of our respective unaligned proclivities, though that doesn't help. Other reasons, not even sex-related."

 

[FurryFury]

I usually don't sound orgasmic when eating. And I don't eat so much or unhealthy to gain weight.
I just makes me happy/keeps me happy. Like everything seems worse when I'm hungry, even if I don't know that I'm hungry. And even if food doesn't bring ultimate happiness, I get more relaxed, whatever had pissed me off isn't as bad anymore.

I do feel though that it's not a good thing to get those mood swings and try to avoid them. At present I'm practicing to not yell at everybody (especially boyfriend and sister). So I'm with you, Fury, on the balance thing, and doing my best to get close.

*hugs*

You sound great to me!

I need to pretty much stop eating again. I started on our vacations. Then came the damn Holidays.

*sighs*

I have to start exercising again too.

Now if this constant sinus headache would just go away.

Fury

 

[chris9]

*hugs*

You sound great to me!

I need to pretty much stop eating again. I started on our vacations. Then came the damn Holidays.

*sighs*

I have to start exercising again too.

Now if this constant sinus headache would just go away.

Fury

*hugs back*
Of course I'm great
(And at the moment I don't have a problem with low self-esteem.)

I have been pretty lazy with my sports this week, too. Another 3 weeks and my sis and bf will have taken their exams, so hopefully they'll join me again with a bit more enthusiasm...

 

[FurryFury]

*hugs back*
Of course I'm great
(And at the moment I don't have a problem with low self-esteem.)

I have been pretty lazy with my sports this week, too. Another 3 weeks and my sis and bf will have taken their exams, so hopefully they'll join me again with a bit more enthusiasm...

Sounds good! I need a partner too and these sinus things to let me alone!

I haven't done anything physical other than fuck or dance since the commitment with RJ was up. Nada. Squat. I feel HUGE!

Fury

 

[chris9]

Sounds good! I need a partner too and these sinus things to let me alone!

I haven't done anything physical other than fuck or dance since the commitment with RJ was up. Nada. Squat. I feel HUGE!

Fury

I consider dancing always working out, fucking only when I'm lazy about other things...
And I don't really like just exercises. I go climbing, fun, great for about all muscles, but only works with two people if you don't want to fall off LOL. And I do yoga. I should be running at least twice a week, and I'd like to lose some weight to make the climbing easier. Oh well, I go to university by bike, but it's only like 10 minutes.

 

[indianPilot]

I try to go to the mall at least every other day. I have a pedometer, and the goal is to do at least 5000 steps. God how I wish they would change the window displays... I am already tired of the old ones.

indian

 

[RJMasters]

Sounds good! I need a partner too and these sinus things to let me alone!

I haven't done anything physical other than fuck or dance since the commitment with RJ was up. Nada. Squat. I feel HUGE!

Fury

Taps foot patiently*

 

[FurryFury]

I consider dancing always working out, fucking only when I'm lazy about other things...
And I don't really like just exercises. I go climbing, fun, great for about all muscles, but only works with two people if you don't want to fall off LOL. And I do yoga. I should be running at least twice a week, and I'd like to lose some weight to make the climbing easier. Oh well, I go to university by bike, but it's only like 10 minutes.

Sounds like fun!

Fury

I try to go to the mall at least every other day. I have a pedometer, and the goal is to do at least 5000 steps. God how I wish they would change the window displays... I am already tired of the old ones.

indian

Good for you!

That sounds fun too!

Fury

Taps foot patiently*

*grins*

I'll be right with you!

I promise!

Fury

 

[phoenixstone]

Loving the guy has nothing to do with anything.

Most of us battle-scarred perverts have been through something like this: "and not because of our respective unaligned proclivities, though that doesn't help. Other reasons, not even sex-related."

What, is this doubtful aspersion-casting on whether something other than 'unaligned proclivities' are at the root of the problem?

I suppose it's possible that the other stuff wouldn't have come up, (or would have seemed ignorable), if our proclivities were better aligned, but it's kind of a stretch.

And unfortunately, for me, loving someone has everything to do with it.

(In other woids, assuming I understand you correctly, the only part of your response with which I concur, is the shared label of battle-scarred perv. (But it's nice to talk with ya again.))

 

[phoenixstone]

It sounds as though life has not been dull for you.

no kidding. that's not the least of it. Started working again, went back to school -- grad school this time, etc
And dontcha answer yer email anymore? I told ya all this and more but no answer. (need a pouty smilie here -- this is the best they've got and it's got no lips )

Its a brave step that you have taken, i admire you for giving up on trying to light the electric cooker with a match and turning to what you really want in life.

Appreciate your saying that. I'm so wishy-washy. keep kinda changing my mind, figuring that we'll keep living together, etc. Many many years together and he's my best friend. And he's REally Really trying.
Aack. One of the worst things is feeling like I've got no place to be honest anymore. even with myself. Or something like that. Anyway....

As for you being a brat...its just a matter of time

If you see Gracie anywhere, she is sitting on a tonne of Christmas cookies and needs a bit of persuading to share

cookies are good -- are they chocolate?

 

[graceanne]

cookies are good -- are they chocolate?

*scowls* stay away from my cookies MINE

 

[shy slave]

And dontcha answer yer email anymore? I told ya all this and more but no answer. (need a pouty smilie here -- this is the best they've got and it's got no lips )
cookies are good -- are they chocolate?

Answering now, I promise.

In the past few months I have been practising doing as I am told!!

Now if you could just ask in a soft, deep, firm voice with a Danish accent I will roll over and do ANYTHING...

well apart from wrestle with Gracie for some of her cookie stash. But as a hint, Snowy can sometimes distract her long enough to make it posible to steal some.

Any chocolate ones are you joking!!!!!

Chris9 (she is the Goddess of Chocolate) and I had all those ages ago

 

[chris9]

Answering now, I promise.

In the past few months I have been practising doing as I am told!!

Now if you could just ask in a soft, deep, firm voice with a Danish accent I will roll over and do ANYTHING...

well apart from wrestle with Gracie for some of her cookie stash. But as a hint, Snowy can sometimes distract her long enough to make it posible to steal some.

Any chocolate ones are you joking!!!!!

Chris9 (she is the Goddess of Chocolate) and I had all those ages ago

I can make new ones. If I have cookies (only Goddess of Chocolate, not of cookies). But it's hard to get them, because of Gracie.

 

[phoenixstone]

*scowls* stay away from my cookies MINE

Meanie!! I'm telling!

Hey Roscoe, wanna watch a female food-fight?! Wrestling in chocolate, you know, that sort of thing??

(ok, ok, I'll go get my own... anyway, shy said i could. or should. or something.... She said Something about you and cookies..., so don't yell at Me!!)

(pout)

 

[phoenixstone]

I can make new ones. If I have cookies (only Goddess of Chocolate, not of cookies). But it's hard to get them, because of Gracie.

Goddess of Chocolate better than Goddess of Cookies, in my religion -- much Higher Plane!

Thank you, Chris9

 

[phoenixstone]

In the past few months I have been practising doing as I am told!!

Now if you could just ask in a soft, deep, firm voice with a Danish accent I will roll over and do ANYTHING...

A guy on the phone once told me I have a smoky voice (I was trying to sound sexy and maybe overdid it a bit), but Danish??! (gettin' in over my head, here. )

And doing ANYTHING???!! Now that's scary! (Gonna dive under the couch now until all the scary subbies are gone! Hmm, I seem to recall this was where I usually found KC back in the old days....)

well apart from wrestle with Gracie for some of her cookie stash.

Gauntlet thrown down (and audience invited ) but then I uh, chickened out. Oh well, she could probably drag me out by one ankle from under the couch if she really wants to call me on it.

(Hugs for shy slave, whom I missed bunches. )



edited to put the quotey-quotes back in the right places