Does Being Controlled Turn You On?!

[Smart_dumb_blonde]

I've found through out the years that being used by strong controlling men just turns me into jelly. I don't know what it is about it. Anybody else relate? Ps. Good mooorning!

 

[Emmcee20]

Congrats on joining Lit.

There is definitely something about having a partner direct and control the interaction. My wife, when we first were going out together, loved to occasionally take control. Not knowing what was coming next was very stimulating and she was pretty creative so that made it more fun.

 

[Smart_dumb_blonde]

Congrats on joining Lit.

There is definitely something about having a partner direct and control the interaction. My wife, when we first were going out together, loved to occasionally take control. Not knowing what was coming next was very stimulating and she was pretty creative so that made it more fun.

Exactly! Giving up control of a situation is always hard but when you do its liberating and exciting.

 

[Emmcee20]

Sent you a PM

This deserves a bump just to see if there are others out there who aren't fully into BDSM but enjoy control or the lack of it sometimes.

 

[sandie350]

i like a guy who knows what he wants and takes it...........also love the attention i get...being a whore

 

[RickTango]

Power exchange can be intoxicating, even for the one given the trust to take control

 

[rhod101]

Even though I have fantasies about being submissive, I tend to go more towards dominant in the bedroom, particularly with my wife who is submissive. We're not really into bdsm as my wife has such a low pain threshold and doesn't enjoy pain in any way.

I love being able to tell women what I want but equally appreciate a partner who can effectively communicate what she wants too.

 

[KiKi71]

me to

I'm totally into that!

 

[Prince Albert]

Good afternoon & welcome to Lit.

 

[Kalamain]

I'm not really into being dominated as such....But I do like being told what to do sexually. If anything I suppose it could be because I have a moderate self esteem issue...Kinda

Also... I **LOVE** knowing that whatever I am doing is what the other person wants. I'm a sexual GIVER rather than taker... If that makes any sense? (It may not) I get off knowing that you are enjoying that thing.

If you want me on my knees and licking your arse...I will do that. If you want to tie me up, take control and do things to me...Thats fine.

Its worth noting here that I get very little out of the actual domination... Its YOUR reaction to it that I enjoy. This is probably why I love masturbation vids where you see the persons face when (s)he cums.

I would be a shitty sub... If only because I am doing things for the wrong reasons.

 

[jackstud]

i like a guy who knows what he wants and takes it...........also love the attention i get...being a whore

Throws you back on that couch. Pulls up your legs n spreads them. Hikes up that black dress. Sees no panties. Aims my 7in cut, nice mushroom head, on that wet pussy. Shoves it in ooo yea

 

[MeltformySir]

I love it in all shapes and forms. Power exchange, sexual domination, micromanagement...bring it on.

 

[dirtycarol]

Sometimes...

 

[debycha1968]

i do

I am just starting to explore it but the idea does turn me on. I do not like the idea of humiliation or degradation but being told what to do and in a certain way serve does appeal to me. This may sound very cliche but I am very much in control in my life, work etc, so it is a release to just let go and be controlled.

 

[alexx_is]

I can totally relate to that. Nothing turns me on as much as a strong powerful man who knows how to get what he wants. Like most of the others here, I'm not into the whole dom-sub thing but I do like it rough

 

[SexStarvedTeach]

i like a guy who knows what he wants and takes it...........also love the attention i get...being a whore

This. Definitely this.

 

[southern_gal]

For me being controlled allows me to do what I crave. Not just making someone happy, being the reason they're satisfied. It allows my submissive need to be taken care of and I get to satisfy them which does more for me than anything. There is a very fine line between being controlling and being an abusive asshole. Cross it and the fun ends and the relationship soon follows.

 

[djyak]

I've found through out the years that being used by strong controlling men just turns me into jelly. I don't know what it is about it. Anybody else relate? Ps. Good mooorning!

Very much so! I love when hubby or my swap partner, both a great deal deal bigger than me, pick me up and use me at their will, tying me up sometimes too. Just to be manhandled, mmmmmm.

I remember when a much older man I was dating when I was 19, he was a huge football player type, he loved just picking me up and slamming me against the wall, fucking me like that.

Tifani

 

[soccergurl7]

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[JessiH82]

One of my biggest fantasies is blindfolding myself and laying on my bed naked and somehow a really hot guy comes into my house and finds me naked and has amazing sex with me and leaves without me ever knowing who he is as I remain blindfolded the entire time. But in the end, I secretly know that it's the really cute guy that lives a few houses down who is flirty but married!

 

[Amberchgo]

It's more a relief than a turn on. I don't have to make decisions at home.

He tells me what to do.
What to wear.
How to act.
What to cook.
How he wishes to be pleasured.




Since I make the decisions at work, this is a welcome change.

 

[PureAnni]

One of my biggest fantasies is blindfolding myself and laying on my bed naked and somehow a really hot guy comes into my house and finds me naked and has amazing sex with me and leaves without me ever knowing who he is as I remain blindfolded the entire time. But in the end, I secretly know that it's the really cute guy that lives a few houses down who is flirty but married!

Oh this is also a fantasy of mine. But I want to wake up blindfolded and bound. Fucked sense spanked and whipped. Force to suck this faceless man's cock. Omg. The idea is extremely arousing.

 

[sexijenfun]

Oh god yes!!!!

 

[Hornywetcanuck]

Count me in!

 

[*professorx*]

...such lovely responses from all these sweet ladies

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