Does anyone else psych themselves out after they've submitted a piece?

[iwatchus]

ust my opinion (which is worth nothing, really), but I think the mistake people make is reflected by your use of the word "beloved." If you let yourself get too invested in your story, then any amount of negative feedback will hurt.

Are any of your works not beloved? I am emotionally vested in each and every story I write. I cry when I write sad parts or even reread them when editing. I get horny with the sexy parts. I am entangled with every one of my MC. Intellectually, I understand being able to step back, but I could never do it.

I guess my best analogy for pushing submit and waiting for responses -- and I admit to being one of the ones who constantly refreshes -- is like watching my son when he would come up to the plate in a little league game. I wanted him to be able to feel the exhilaration of getting a hit and feared for the sorrow of a strikeout.

 

[Voboy]

Are any of your works not beloved?

No. My family is beloved. My stories are just a hobby I have. Of course there is emotional involvement as I write, but "love?" For a tale I'm telling? No. I'm proud of my stories, but that's about as far as it goes. Note, I didn't say getting invested is a bad idea; I said getting TOO invested is a bad idea.

Especially after they're done and submitted. Once they're up, they're no longer really mine. After that, it's the readers' turn.

 

[Gamblnluck]

Just my opinion (which is worth nothing, really), but I think the mistake people make is reflected by your use of the word "beloved." If you let yourself get too invested in your story, then any amount of negative feedback will hurt.

I enjoy writing, and I'm proud of what I produce, but once it's out on the screen? That's it. It has its own life, independent from me and my emotions: it's no longer a part of me. I fling it out into the world like a monkey's turd, thence to find whatever target it can.

I think you misunderstood me. MY story was not beloved. Readers loved the original. Mine was the sequel they hated. I told the cheating wife's perspective. (I did not rewrite the story. I merely continued but from a different viewpoint. One where the woman had severe depression and reacted wrongly but at the same time felt she did not deserve the way she was treated.
The point of my post was, I'd invested time and energy in my story so I left it and all the comments up.