Do you think that "we" (as a collective group) appear

[*bratcat*]

 

[RisiaSkye]

Intimidating and Judgemental, I'd bet.
I notice that people have a much longer memory for and a greater capacity for recognizing negative things than they do for positive traits.

 

[Ice Cold]

I think most new things can appear intimidating, to the uninitiated. But you can't always go by first appearances either.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

More intimidating and judgmental to anyone new who passes through or all-welcoming and nonjudgmental?

This is NOT a shitstirring post...it was brought to my attention during the sermon at church today when Jesus sat down for supper at the baddest tax collector's house and was soon surrounded by many more of the "same type of people"...the lowlifes, etc...according to the upright and rightous groups...

It just made me wonder what the lurkers think of us (note the collective all-encompassing us...no...and I repeat...NO names were thought of in conjunction with this).

Having been a lurker for a while (now an addicted poster), I must say from my own observations that this community seems to be mostly all-welcoming and nonjudgemental. If I had felt otherwise I would not be here today.

dixicritter

 

[Sillyman]

Yes, I believe we do. I found the board very intimidating to begin with.

 

[amelia]

when i first joined i felt very intimidated.

once i got to about 500 posts, i started feeling a lot more comfortable and accepted. i love it here (most of the time)

 

[TWB]

I think the board undulates with a variation of three major variable vibes.

The first is the bitch vibe, where members generally like to jump down each other’s throats, make snide remarks, and try to one-up each other with witty sarcastic cuts.

The second is the straight humor vibe, which may be mixed with the third vibe, which is the sex flirt vibe.

There are always outliers, like the clicky (but wonderful, without doubt) “I saw this picture and it reminded me of you” thread, which is exclusionary simply because, well, you can’t include ‘em all.

When the bitch is at a low ebb, and the humor and sex flirt vibe are at their peak, well, people feel pretty welcome. When the bitch vibe is high (especially as evidenced by threads talking about eating, killing, or otherwise destroying newbies) new folks definitely feel intimidated and judgmental.

There are many variations.

Frankly, in the words of a preschool teacher, there are three rules (and I think Jesus would have agreed). Be kind, be kind, and be kind. That should make anyone feel welcome.



Ok. Anyone care for a roasted newbie? It was a high bitch variable last night. . .

 

[sacremento]

Well I am really shy with people I don't know, but I felt ok with jumping in here, it didn't seem that scarey

I was a little nervous when I made my first hello thread though. What if noone answered me! But of course that didn't happen and I felt welcome.

So thank you

 

[AzureAngel]

It's easy to perceive things as very intimidating, but somehow acceptance comes quite quickly from all the right people.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

Ok. Anyone care for a roasted newbie? It was a high bitch variable last night. . .

I prefer mine lightly breaded & fried.

 

[sacremento]

Ok, I must have missed that "bitch vibe" LOL

Roasting the newbies are you? OMG

 

[TWB]

Well I am really shy with people I don't know, but I felt ok with jumping in here, it didn't seem that scarey

I was a little nervous when I made my first hello thread though. What if noone answered me! But of course that didn't happen and I felt welcome.

So thank you

That's because you have blue eyes. We are all a bit shallow here. If you had brown eyes, I think you would have had alot more trouble.

Welcome.

And don't mind IrishWolfHound's breadcrumbs and that hot skillet.

heh.

Just kidding.

 

[Siren]

 

[IrishWolfhound]

ME..............Intimidating?

Siren doesn't scare me...much...(backing towards the door).

 

[Nora]

I didn't/don't find it intimidating. Like in any community some of the posters are more welcoming than others. Some are only welcoming if you post your tits, which is fine. Some act as though you're invisible, which is fine. Some assume since you're new here you've never seen a computer before, which is kinda cute. It's a pretty decent mix overall, I think.

 

[cesra]

Not intimidating. Complex. Requiring pondering. So many people, so many vibes, so many variations. Very interesting.

I haven't posted much (obviously) but so far, I've only had good experiences. I do tend to listen more than I talk, and I have a policy about ignoring the bitchy threads, anyway.

This is a unique sort of place, in a very good way.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[estevie]

More intimidating and judgmental to anyone new who passes through or all-welcoming and nonjudgmental?

[/i].

Its both. When we have enough newbies that we can stand for a period we become intimidating and judgemental. Once those newbies have gone thru hell and found their spot, we become all-welcoming and nonjudgemental till we get enough newbies again. See, its a cycle.

 

[KellyFong]

well

From my experiences here (as a still fresh newbie) it's a pretty warm, friendly place. I imagine that can change, depending how how you act and what you say, but thats really quite fair when you compare it to so many other places online.

Kel.

 

[morninggirl5]

I think the board undulates with a variation of three major variable vibes.

The first is the bitch vibe, where members generally like to jump down each other’s throats, make snide remarks, and try to one-up each other with witty sarcastic cuts.

The second is the straight humor vibe, which may be mixed with the third vibe, which is the sex flirt vibe.

There are always outliers, like the clicky (but wonderful, without doubt) “I saw this picture and it reminded me of you” thread, which is exclusionary simply because, well, you can’t include ‘em all.

When the bitch is at a low ebb, and the humor and sex flirt vibe are at their peak, well, people feel pretty welcome. When the bitch vibe is high (especially as evidenced by threads talking about eating, killing, or otherwise destroying newbies) new folks definitely feel intimidated and judgmental.

There are many variations.

Frankly, in the words of a preschool teacher, there are three rules (and I think Jesus would have agreed). Be kind, be kind, and be kind. That should make anyone feel welcome.



Ok. Anyone care for a roasted newbie? It was a high bitch variable last night. . .

I think TWB said it almost perfectly.


My three rules are Be kind, Be neat, Be safe.

 

[APhil]

On the other side of the coin

Even someone like me, who's lurked and posted over the past nine months, can still feel a little bit outcast.