Do you share your fetishes with your partner?

[1DarkNightOwl]

We share most of our kinks and dirty thinking. Don't you find it fun?

One of our later chats included 'Do you have a crush on someone who you actually know?'

 

[1DarkNightOwl]

Boy I can kill a thread.

 

[THoney269]

Do you have a crush on someone who you actually know?'

No, I have crushes on *several* people I actually know

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

Oh yes, that why normal relationships never worked for me.

 

[DryRottingHusk]

Have you ever shared with your wife your fantasy of wanting to see her with another man?

 

[bobb_sledd]

Have you ever shared with your wife your fantasy of wanting to see her with another man?

Yes. It was discussed, considered, but never acted upon.

 

[1DarkNightOwl]

Have you ever shared with your wife your fantasy of wanting to see her with another man?

When I revealed to my wife that I would love to watch her reaction was without hesitation 'You want to watch me get tucked?'.

The answer was no which is the truth but it did give me a twinkling into her perverse mind and start a fun conversation.

 

[jays78]

Have you ever shared with your wife your fantasy of wanting to see her with another man?

Every time we fuck.

 

[LMWM321]

Every time we fuck.

I do this too, sometimes. I'll share what fantasy is going through my mind as we have sex. ..Sometimes it adds to the excitement, but other times I think she finds it distracting but doesn't tell me to stop because she knows it's very exciting for me.

I will offer this advice to those who've asked their partner to fullfill a fantasy but were rebuffed:

Deconstruct the fantasy and explain its origin, why it turns you on and how it will NOT become an expectation every time you fool around. Do this and you demystify it.. make it more relatable.

 

[HotwifeBrooksideKC]

Sometimes yes and sometimes no, with variations

 

[Elliott62]

As it says on the subject...

I've just written one of the "main" chapters of my story - My Mom is a Slut - featuring the main themes of cuckolding, D/s, and incest. Kinda proud of it, or more so - proud of having written 12 chapters, about 60,000 words to date, of a story that's getting an average 4.4 out of 5 stars with 50k max and 10k min views per chapter.

My partner is fully aware of my cuckold, and Dom/sub fantasies, but not about the incest.

Back in the early days of our relationship I used to write custom sex stories for her to read, generally whilst I would lick her or use a toy on her; a variety of different themes were explored covering a few different fetishes etc. I didn't however venture too far into kinkdom in those stories, because - well - who wants to bare their soul and risk ending it all?

(Though, wouldn't it be great if I did, and she loved it...)

We have of course discussed various sexual fantasies, hence cuckolding and Domination/submission being in the open, but then you get to certain taboos and it's just so hard to take that leap...

I have considered the idea of telling her that I have something I want her to read, and opening the story up for her, but - as in the old days - she must agree to me eating her/etc, to help ensure she is, ah, in the mood... at least give myself a chance...

But if the topic really is too far beyond her interests, no tongue or vibe is going to be strong enough to persuade her.

So, I'm left with this fetish remaining a secret...

Some she's aware of..that I like big women like herself..big tits, black women. We talked about having a threesome many many years ago ... because I could never cheat on my Mrs but I do think about sex with other women..and it's the only way I/we could be okay with it..but I didn't have anyone specific in mind..and we didn't know how to go about it discreet at the time.
Oh..and it would have to be with a BBW like my Mrs. I've never given up on that...but we don't talk about it anymore..
That I want to know what it's like to have another man suck my cock ..or to suck his.
That I fantasize about having sex with a pregnant woman..those baby bumps make me horny as hell. Or that I like very hairy women.
Would still love to feel my wife pee or squirt on me.. another one we discussed..but dropped..the desire hasn't gone away.

 

[Elliott62]

You are very lucky! I'm glad you have that openness, and encouragement!

You are quite lucky

 

[Elliott62]

Reading the responses here makes me both sad and envious.
Like many here, I too don't share a single fantasy or fetish with my wife. I've been called "weird" or told "thats stupid" but her on multiple occasions when I' brought up tame things to try or explore. Then, by her decision, without any input from me, she declared that she could live without sex and as such, so should I . Just simply turn off that part of you, I was essentially told - just not in those specific words. It's been 11 years and my desires have only continued to smolder and burn but like others have said here - when you have kids in the mix, what can you do.

To those who have partners and are accepting and even participating in their fetishes and kinks, I couldn't be more happy for you, if not a bit envious. Having someone be so accepting of you in that way is something I just cannot imagine. Hold onto them. Love and cherish them because the alternative is a cold, lonely existence where you feel unwanted and shamed.

That breaks my heart..

 

[WetSubGirl]

This thread makes me wonder so much. I'm open to share my fantasies and kinks, but my husband doesn't share and not so interested to hear about mine. Which makes me wonder, wherever he is absolutely vanilla or just doesn't want to share, and if later- why.

 

[Dada88]

As it says on the subject...

I've just written one of the "main" chapters of my story - My Mom is a Slut - featuring the main themes of cuckolding, D/s, and incest. Kinda proud of it, or more so - proud of having written 12 chapters, about 60,000 words to date, of a story that's getting an average 4.4 out of 5 stars with 50k max and 10k min views per chapter.

My partner is fully aware of my cuckold, and Dom/sub fantasies, but not about the incest.

Back in the early days of our relationship I used to write custom sex stories for her to read, generally whilst I would lick her or use a toy on her; a variety of different themes were explored covering a few different fetishes etc. I didn't however venture too far into kinkdom in those stories, because - well - who wants to bare their soul and risk ending it all?

(Though, wouldn't it be great if I did, and she loved it...)

We have of course discussed various sexual fantasies, hence cuckolding and Domination/submission being in the open, but then you get to certain taboos and it's just so hard to take that leap...

I have considered the idea of telling her that I have something I want her to read, and opening the story up for her, but - as in the old days - she must agree to me eating her/etc, to help ensure she is, ah, in the mood... at least give myself a chance...

But if the topic really is too far beyond her interests, no tongue or vibe is going to be strong enough to persuade her.

So, I'm left with this fetish remaining a secret...

Can you send a link of the story?

 

[Elliott62]

This thread makes me wonder so much. I'm open to share my fantasies and kinks, but my husband doesn't share and not so interested to hear about mine. Which makes me wonder, wherever he is absolutely vanilla or just doesn't want to share, and if later- why.

That's so sad...I guarantee a lot of folks on here would be happy to listen and support you

 

[MamaBitte]

This thread makes me wonder so much. I'm open to share my fantasies and kinks, but my husband doesn't share and not so interested to hear about mine. Which makes me wonder, wherever he is absolutely vanilla or just doesn't want to share, and if later- why.

Same situation here, only the other way around. She doesn't want to know anything about it. That's why I'm here on Lit.
Unfortunately, I would need her help to fulfill my greatest wish

 

[TravisAW]

Have you ever shared with your wife your fantasy of wanting to see her with another man?

Yes. She understands why - we had a MFF threesome so she's seen me have sex including giving and receiving oral with another woman.

She hasn't given it a hard no, saying that if the circumstances are ever right, she would let it happen.

 

[darkride]

This thread makes me wonder so much. I'm open to share my fantasies and kinks, but my husband doesn't share and not so interested to hear about mine. Which makes me wonder, wherever he is absolutely vanilla or just doesn't want to share, and if later- why.

I think it can be hard to take that step to really open up about your desires, especially if they are "out there".

There's certainly things I have never ever mentioned to my wife... who, as above - is not very open with me about what she may be imagining. I have for a long time assumed she is indeed very vanilla and not into much... perhaps just - not very sexual...

 

[pumperguy191]

Nope, did it once and it backfired

 

[1DarkNightOwl]

Nope, did it once and it backfired

I can never understand why such discussions with a partner backfire.

Acting on them can have disastrous effects and should be approached with care.

 

[LoveAllKink1972]

Have you ever shared with your wife your fantasy of wanting to see her with another man?

Yes, many times. We were just watching some porn the other night and there was a woman that was fucking her own ass with a big toy and her man came from behind the camera and put his well endowed cock in her mouth. As it progressed, he moved it to replace the toy in her ass. I said to my wife, "damn, it would be amazing to watch a cock like that sliding in and out of your ass." She got very wet instantly.

 

[phunkyphresh]

rarely. now i don't have a partner.

also, i don't think i knew what my kinks were for a long time, and i still don't think i know them all or know what to do with them. lol

 

[LMWM321]

My advice to those who struggle to share a fantasy w/ their partner.

Deconstruct the fantasy and explain its origin, why it turns you on. Do this and you may demystify it.. make it more relatable.

As a personal example, my wife was fairly shocked when, three years ago, I told I wanted to be pegged. I then explained it this way: "Hun, I have penetrated you doggie style literally thousands of times over these past 30 years.. I want to have an inkling as to how that feels! The idea of you, my beautiful wife, kneeling behind me and gently gliding in and out of ME strikes me as incredibly erotic and exciting. So.. will you do this for me?"

She thought for a moment, then said, "Ok, I can see how you might want that.. Sure, I'll do it."

Within minutes I was in my car heading to the nearest Adult Toy store to buy a pegging harness and mountable didlo. And after a few clumsy first attempts, followed by swapping out the harness for pegging shorts (think Yoga shorts w/ a mounting ring) we now both enjoy it thoroughly. And it's made her more receptive to butt stuff for her as well.

 

[pumperguy191]

I can never understand why such discussions with a partner backfire.

Acting on them can have disastrous effects and should be approached with care.

I don't quite get your response.
The first line, my wife ridiculed me for what I said. Then, she proceeded to tell everyone about my fantasy.

Your second line, I never mentioned that I acted on anything. Not quite understanding your response.