Do you respect sluts?

[SilvaTungDevil]

If a slut respects themselves, gotta love them. If not I just feel sorry for them.

 

[Kitte]

I think we all define slut differently. I do not see it as being promiscuous. For me it is really all about attitude, and to be defined as a slut by me there is an attitude of disrespect for yourself.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

In general, no. Sluttiness in itself isn't a reason to respect or disrepect a person. However, sometimes their choice of partners and timing might lead me to question their judement and lose respect for them.

 

[plasticman33]

Slut? What's a slut? Guess I'm just dumb, it defines a promiscuous woman? Could define a normal man!

 

[patient1]

There's a lot of terms for women used as insults that I don't even care to think,& refuse to use, this being one of them.


I think a libido is a virtue.

I have more respect for a person that can have anyone they want than one that takes anyone who'll have them, but I also think that is reflected in their self-esteem.

I think a person that cheats is dangerous to trust. People in open marriages, swingers, & polyamorous relationships aren't cheaters.

I think that lots of Real Life partners is adventurous, but frightening from a health standpoint.

Here on the General Board, I think the loss of respect I have for a few of the women has more to do with how much of a drama queen a person is, & how much they feed the trolls rather than how flirtatious they are.

 

[Prince Romeo]

Hmmm, a delicious target???? A challenge and compliment all rolled into one.

Just not enough tme in the day for all the fun that is to be had!

 

[Ishmael]

Hmmm, a delicious target???? A challenge and compliment all rolled into one.

Just not enough tme in the day for all the fun that is to be had!

*Sitting back on the couch with some popcorn. Just waiting.*

Ishmael

 

[Nora]

Nora is jealous of me and my slutty ways.

Yes, I am. But since I like you and have to justify being friends with someone as slutty as you, I choose to define your behavior as "endearingly open and honest."

^^^^
The above is said in jest, for those who don't realize that I adore and worship red_rose. Not to mention that whole thing where I don't find "promiscuity" all that threatening. That isn't to say that she's promiscuous in the least, btw. Not that there would be anything wrong with that.

Ok, is it lunchtime yet?

 

[Calamity Jane]

I don't call someone a slut in any seriousness unless I don't like them and I've run out of insults.

Has your vocabulary every actually run dry?

Of course, I don't really know what a slut is. It's someone promiscuous, but how promiscuous? I like to think of it as someone who displays sexual behavior in vastly inappropriate places.

That's a pretty good definiton, actually. Better even than using promiscuous. And in the case you've suggested, no, I wouldn't respect that person. Purposeful inappropriate behavior is usually an attention getting scheme, and I lack respect for people who feel the need to be the center of attention constantly.

 

[JazzManJim]

I respect everyone I meet initially until such time as they give me a good reason not to.

I've never found sexual promiscuity one of those "good reasons". Now if they take that promiscuity and use it to hurt or belittle someone, then they've stepped over the line into an area where they will lose some of my respect.

I don't consider promiscuity all that important when considering someone's character, really. It might speak to lack of self-control but that's about it.

 

[Cheyenne]

I think we all define slut differently. I do not see it as being promiscuous. For me it is really all about attitude, and to be defined as a slut by me there is an attitude of disrespect for yourself.

Ditto.

 

[PaganZepher]

... Me and the sarcastic bastards like me .....

AMEN!

 

[Ham Murabi]

"Do you respect sluts?"

Let's turn this around a bit and think, for a moment, of our part-time zeal for posting on this (porn) board.
Given our proclivity for hanging around here, and what we can read and let our minds think about, isn't it more important for us to strive to gain the respect of sluts?
Sure, we can all sneer at women who take on the Green Bay Packers, or who caused half of the graduating class to vanish when they got pregnant. And sure, it's easy to make jokes about the well-traveled woman who joined the circus, and her only job was to suck the stuck peanuts out of an elephant's trunk.
But suppose, if you will, that you happened to get lucky enough to go home with such a slut. And suppose (shudder) that after you'd labored all of your customary 23 seconds to please her, she found your efforts, umm, less than satisfactory.
This is not the type of performance that made America what it is today. This is not the effort that prompts our elected officials to declare national holidays.
No, to be a man in this great country, one must strive to earn the respect of sluts! Nothing less than a series of mind-shattering orgasms — or a hefty wad of bills left discretely on the table beside the bed — will suffice. Either you deliver or you don't.
Anybody can join and be an army of one. I ask you, do you have what it takes to earn the respect of a seasoned slut?
Our country's future hangs in the balance.

 

[Guest]

If by "slut" you just mean a single man or woman who has a lot of sex with various partners, well, that's not enough to make me disrespect someone. It's rarely even a factor.

But if you define slut the way I do: someone, male or female who uses sex for validation, abuses their power of attration to hurt others, or with disregaurd for the feelings and well being of others than no, I do not have any respect for that person. But then people like that don't have any respect for themselves, which is far worse.

 

[sunstruck]

Whoops. That was me. Forgot to reset my browse with cookies option now that I'm home.

 

[Ishmael]

If by "slut" you just mean a single man or woman who has a lot of sex with various partners, well, that's not enough to make me disrespect someone. It's rarely even a factor.

But if you define slut the way I do: someone, male or female who uses sex for validation, abuses their power of attration to hurt others, or with disregaurd for the feelings and well being of others than no, I do not have any respect for that person. But then people like that don't have any respect for themselves, which is far worse.

Sunstruck, you've done a good job putting my thoughts to words there.

Ishmael

 

[Lancecastor]

Some imprecise, common english words have multiple shades of meaning derived more from syntax than semantics.

"Slut" is one of those words. "Nigger" is another, more powerful, example of syntax dichotomy.

Say the word about your self or amongst intimates, it's cool, hip, funny.

Say the word to someone else or in public to a stranger, it's insulting, disrespectful and unfunny.

Imprecise language doesn't translate well to use online, as it requires so much inflection to be understood.

Do I respect sluts?

Depends.

You talkin' bout my slut? My bitch? My ho? Damn skippy.

If you're talkin' bout that bitch I used to know, you know the answer to that one, g. She was a ho.

Yanno?

Lance

 

[Guest]

What I'd like to know is

 

[Rubyfruit]

I respect people who respect themselves and treat me with respect.

Period.

 

[Ishmael]

Re: What I'd like to know is

is that the actual Prince Romeo in his av?

Mamma mia.

To the point of this thread, I think there are women who may be promiscuous online, but it doesn't translate to their behaviors in real life. If you choose, this can be a fantasy world, where you can pretend you're empowering yourself by notching the bedpost and taking them or leaving them. You can be the Homecumming Queen when nobody would have voted you into the job in high school.

I have trouble with that, since anytime sex is involved, my feelings go right along with it. And I also know that at those times when I've been promiscuous online (i.e. just f'd around to get off with no open emotional attachment with 4 different guys in one week), then there were things making me feel angry and low in real life and I channeled them into the hope that sex would make me feel better. Or give me a sense of revenge when I felt I'd lost my place. So I don't disrespect "sluts." I kind of worry about them.

Lioness

I don't dispute a thing you've said LIW.

But to me the word slut is NOT gender specific. So would you like to expand on that aspect of a broader use of the term.

Ishmael

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: What I'd like to know is

 

[Ishmael]

Re: Re: Re: What I'd like to know is

Are you a bit of a mind-reader, Ish?

I was considering how men fit in while I wrote that. What do we call promiscuous men--dogs?

I chose not to talk about men in what I wrote above because I'm not a man, and I can't relate to male promiscuity from my heart. I can see the hurt it causes (same as with women), but it's a mytery of gender as to how men talk to themselves or what they're feeling that drives them to the hunt, so to speak.

Lioness

Oh I think that you'll find that the reasons aren't all that different LIW.

There is the biological imperative of course. Men and woman have differing and somewhat opposite strategies for the survival of the species.

Other than that difference, the reasons are all the same. Validation, self-worth, etc. Why one person becomes a predator is not so simple to answer. There is a psychology unique to the individual. In some it's latent, in others it's there from the beginning. I keep going back to the Havard rat experiments. While it doesn't explain individual behavior, it is a good model for the recognition of the behavior the individual is actually engaged in. And in many cases recognizing the behavior is more important than the 'why' of it. The why of it is of greatest importance to the individual engaged in the behavior and their counselor should they choose to correct that behavior. If they don't choose to do so, then they have their own rationalization. And one rationalization is as good as any other I suppose.

Ishmael

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

My Sluttiness is not the reason...

...most people do not respect me because I have long-flowing nose hairs that flutter and make strange noises when it's windy out, I am an almost exact duplicate (looking-wise) to Antonio banderas...it's uncany really...exact look-a-like...from behind...from the waist down..except my ass is white and fat, I am as bald as a baboons ass.... and my cock reminds many women of a chewed on old # 2 pencil.

I think those reason FAR outweigh my sluttiness as far as why people have lost respect for me.

Not sure I answered the question properly...hopefully, if I can figure out this screen, I can delete my comments before I post....

 

[Rubyfruit]

Re: Re: Re: What I'd like to know is

What do we call promiscuous men--dogs?

Yes, but it's really unfair to dogs, which are so loving and loyal.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

I don't know any sluts, so it's difficult for me to say whether I would respect one or not. I don't think I've ever called anyone that, except in a context where it was understood to be a joking or playful term.