Do you respect sluts?

[KillerMuffin]

Honestly here. Whatever your definition of a slut is, do you respect people you see as "slut?" Why or why not?

I'm not asking anyone to point fingers at anyone else or whatever.

 

[Bluesboy2]

First off

I dont think of that term as derogatory. Secondly, I would respect anyone who earns it. Their sexual habits (assuming nothing illegal ect..) would have very little bearing in that equasion.

 

[Guest]

I do respect you.

 

[Kitte]

I have two definitions of Slut.
There is the me kind of slut, for one person it is about being sexually available and adventurous for that special person. I know many do not like the term. But I am me and I like it.

Then there is a Slut. Someone who just uses sex for attention, or gain. With no regard to herself and/or with many people. They show no respect for relationship boundries as in dating married/involved men and taking the lesser rather then seeking a true relationship in which they get what they should deserve.

No, I do not respect them. They do not respect themselves.

 

[Blindinthedark]

If they respect themselve why should I have a problem with it.

We all make decisions on how we want to live. I'm not bothered by their choice. Hell the world could do with a few more sluts.

Prob be less war!

 

[zipman]

I respect sluts more than people who start threads and never return to them.

 

[Dantetier]

I respect sluts more than people who start threads and never return to them.

I respect sluts who admit that they are sluts. What I cannot stand are sluts that pretend to be innocent

 

[Prince Romeo]

At the time I am fucking a slut, I'd say I don't really care. What kind of a question is this anyway? Don't you, didn't you - ever act like a slut? Slut isn't an identity. It's an attitude, a mood. Who hasn't ever felt slutty, sleazy? Ask your partner if he's ever been in the mood for a "slut". If he tells you "no", he's full of shit.

 

[Dillinger]

I'd better, since most of you consider me to be a slut. *lol*

 

[Monazwx]

I respect both male and female sluts.
They're sexually experienced and not ashamed of it.

People who don't are hypocrites.

 

[Calamity Jane]

slut
n.

A woman considered sexually promiscuous.

All other things being equal, I don't think promiscuity is gonna drop someone of my list of respected people. Consenting adults, and all that.

Once upon a time, I was pretty promiscuous, but I still considered myself a respectable, decent human being.

 

[Prince Romeo]

Moo, moo or should I say baaaa, baaaa. Congratulations Muffin,you've hearded us together once again.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Is everyone defensive today for a reason or am I just lucky?

This board is very dichotomous on this issue. There are "sluts" here. I call them that because that's what they label themselves. I'm not passing judgment, they do that by themselves. I am not naming names because I am not interested in the "sluts" themselves but in the way people here treat them.

Some of them get adoration, love, and all the personal validation a person can hope for. And from what I've seen they get it in public mostly for their "slut" identity. This doesn't show respect to me at all, because respect necessarily involves the person and not just the sex the put out.

Some of them do the same thing the adored "sluts" do and they get slapped in the face. They don't, by the way, stick around. Watch the newbies who post sexually oriented threads. Me and the sarcastic bastards like me aren't the only one showering condemnation down on top of them, the people who give the "slut" people attention do as well.

So I'm left to wonder, do you really respect sluts or do you just respect the ones who put out to you? Why do some sluts get treated like they're valuable and other sluts get treated like they're garbage? By the same people, no less.

This is a valid question, and judgment you inject into the word "slut" is strictly your own.

 

[weed]

Disrespect the openly promiscuous? No. To each their own. Especially if they are happy and balanced in other aspects of their lives.

I tend to feel sorry for people who search for satisfaction in their life through series of meaningless and brief sexual encounters though. I think this is what people who are often deemed 'sluts' are really doing.

 

[Mia62]

So I'm left to wonder, do you really respect sluts or do you just respect the ones who put out to you? Why do some sluts get treated like they're valuable and other sluts get treated like they're garbage? By the same people, no less.

This is a valid question, and judgment you inject into the word "slut" is strictly your own.

I don't think that the attention "showered" upon the sluts has anything to do with them being a "slut".

I think it has to do with how those "sluts" treat people with kindness and compassion - not that they "put out".

Remember the saying - do unto others.

 

[Dantetier]

Is everyone defensive today for a reason or am I just lucky?


So I'm left to wonder, do you really respect sluts or do you just respect the ones who put out to you? Why do some sluts get treated like they're valuable and other sluts get treated like they're garbage? By the same people, no less.

This is a valid question, and judgment you inject into the word "slut" is strictly your own.

For me personally, it's the honesty factor. If someone is a slut and acknowledges it, I have nothing but respect for that person. Lord knows I love sex, why think bad about someone else who does?

As for why some get treated differently, I think that's a self respect issue. People who are confident in their "Sluttiness" are the ones who are treated well, while the ones who act slutty for the attention or the praise are treated like dogs who beg their master for attention

 

[Prince Romeo]

KM said:

"Me and the sarcastic bastards like me aren't the only one showering condemnation down on top of them, the people who give the "slut" people attention do as well.

So I'm left to wonder, do you really respect sluts or do you just respect the ones who put out to you? Why do some sluts get treated like they're valuable and other sluts get treated like they're garbage? By the same people, no less. "


So you're one of the sarcastics bastards that shit in judgement then? And so then do you really expect anyone to think you really care about the answer to this question?

 

[DarkAngel]

Honestly here. Whatever your definition of a slut is, do you respect people you see as "slut?" Why or why not?

I'm not asking anyone to point fingers at anyone else or whatever.

Only if she sucks me off till I explode in her mouth... Yup

 

[Nora]

I do see what you're saying, KM, but I don't know that it's about promiscuity. Promiscuity is relative. Here on the board someone may be pure as the driven snow, comparatively. However they may be the most adventurous or relaxed in their sexual attitudes among their real life peers.

Yes, sometimes I think to myself when reading one person's posts, "my G-d! What a ho!" whereas I could read the same thing written by someone I like and think, "aww, that's cute (or funny or sexy or whatever)!"

I think that's mainly just an in-group, out-group difference, however. We all view our friends' actions as more tolerable than strangers or those of people we don't like. It's a method of rationalizing our choices in friends, to a degree.

On the board, I sincerely believe that a lot of the negative attitude towards those seen as "sluts" stems from uh...let's call it competition over resources (instead of jealousy, since that word seems to piss people off). It's just a difference in what's perceived as a valuable character trait. I (or you, or whomever, but I'm going to use "we" and "us" just for ease here) may perceive ourselves to be sexy and smart and desireable, but prefer to keep blatent sexuality to ourselves. That's great. However, if the person actively seeking out females (just as an example) values something different, then it doesn't mean we're less sexy (or smart or desireable), just that to that person, we're not what they're looking for.

It's a good thing, because it means they shouldn't waste time if we're not what they're looking for. Conversely, even though we may miss the attention, it's a mechanism to keep them from wasting ours, as well.

I hope that made sense of my point of view on the matter. I'm afraid I rambled a bit more than I had intended.

 

[Ishmael]

Good observation Killer.

I use the term interchangably. The "that's what it is" sorta complimentary form, and the biting derogatory form.

How those forms are selected probably has a lot more to do with other character traits (like total lack thereof) of the person I apply the term to.

So, you're observation is dead on. But I think that one has to look a lot deeper to find the reason. This one just isn't in the dictionary.

Ishmael

 

[KillerMuffin]

So you're one of the sarcastics bastards that shit in judgement then? And so then do you really expect anyone to think you really care about the answer to this question?

Do you think I'm judging someone here? Is that your problem?



You're very wrong about me. At least in this instance. I haven't attacked anyone and I have no intention of attacking anyone. Even though you are trying very hard to make a delicious little target of yourself.

 

[horny_giraffe]

I guess I respect sluts, in theory. Face-to-face, I really don't know who is a slut and who isn't. I can't usually tell by looking at them. How could I?

Someone who tells me that they've had a lot of promiscuous sex. Well. I guess that while I respect a woman's right to have as much sex as she wants, I'm not sure that I'm willing to hear a lot about it. For one thing, I haven't had more than one partner, myself. A idea that a woman has had twenty or thirty partners can be pretty alienating (as is the idea of a woman with more than twenty current friends. I have about four, give or take a few acquaintances.) Don't ask, don't tell.

If she's had many partners, she does owe it to me to get tested for STDs--especially if she expects to be a potential life partner. I've never been one to have casual sex, but if I did, I'd be even more careful.

I suppose that the experience is nice. It would be great to be with a woman who really knows how to get herself off with a man. It reduces the pressure to perform when a woman can consistently orgasm. I'm not especially interested in virgins for that reason.

 

[Calamity Jane]

This board is very dichotomous on this issue. There are "sluts" here. I call them that because that's what they label themselves. I'm not passing judgment, they do that by themselves. I am not naming names because I am not interested in the "sluts" themselves but in the way people here treat them.

Some of them get adoration, love, and all the personal validation a person can hope for. And from what I've seen they get it in public mostly for their "slut" identity. This doesn't show respect to me at all, because respect necessarily involves the person and not just the sex the put out.

It's funny, but I tend to doubt the sluttiness of those who profess it to such a degree as the people I'm thinking of. It's kind of like someone saying "I'm smarter than you, dammit, I really am!!!" The opposite of protesting too much?

Sure, they get all kinds of validation, but I can't imagine it's a terribly fulfilling thig to receive. I tend to hope my worth lies somewhere beyond my sexual proclivities, even on a 'porn board'. Which is why I think promiscuity or lack there of isn't a guage for respect.

 

[red_rose]

Nora is jealous of me and my slutty ways.

 

[KillerMuffin]

There are some people here who call themselves "sluts" though I really doubt they are. This board is, after all, connected to a porn site and almost all of us got here looking for porno.

I don't like the word myself and when I use it, it's mostly jokingly. I don't call someone a slut in any seriousness unless I don't like them and I've run out of insults.

Of course, I don't really know what a slut is. It's someone promiscuous, but how promiscuous? I like to think of it as someone who displays sexual behavior in vastly inappropriate places. Which is why I have trouble believing that sexually in-your-face people here are sluts. This is an appropriate venue for such things. Now, if they did the same thing in church or something like that, this would be different.

What I find interesting, and leads me to wonder how people react to the word "slut" in the context of people they know and like versus the context of people they either don't know or don't like or both. I think that Nora made a very good point. For all the openness of sexuality here, when someone we don't like displays sexual behaviour, attacking them for it is easy to do.

But in general, based on one's own personal definition of a slut--not mine or Webster's or anyone elses--does one respect the slut?