Do you prefer to cum together, or take turns?

[Carnevil9]

When making love with your partner, do you prefer to do your best to cum at the same time (or as close as possible)? Or do you prefer to take your turns getting each other off? Personally, I'd rather focus on taking her to orgasm first, and then relax and let her do the same to me. But both are nice. Just wondering what the overall opinion was.

 

[gtnlynn]

I always maintain control of myself until she is well into her first orgasm, then I let go and have my own. If she has more than one, as she often does, she is on her own. I can't keep up.

 

[Icy1]

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Why not have both?

 

[Cycle Tom]

I usually eat her pussy for several orgasms. Then we fuck and she usually cums once more before I fill her up.

 

[Erodicus]

It looks as if I'm going to make it unanimous. All of my partners have been multi-orgasmic, one amazingly so. So for me, it's nearly always a case of Ladies First - unless we have no option but a quickie. Once I know she's getting near her limit, then I have my turn. Often we coincide for her last one.

 

[luv2bfkd]

I feel that I am rather easily orgasmic. I do most often have more than one before he has his. What I do really enjoy is when he’s getting close, doing all he can to hold back for me to have another one. Then when I do, the contractions of my pussy on his cock is more than he can endure and I’m suddenly getting pumped full of sperm in the middle of my own orgasm.

 

[suckonsimon]

I've voted for cumming together as tops, but it wasn't so easy choosing!
Taking my woman through a really overwhelming orgasm on my cock when I'm no-where close and can give total attention to making it fabulous for her and therefore for me too, is what makes me feel a huge prowess as a lover.

But! far and away the most exhilarating orgasms I have had are when they are simultaneous and hence my vote. I say 'simultaneous' but not quite: her's will take perhaps three times as long as mine and so the total best is when she's been really going a while and then my growls and spunking kicks in, complete with fireworks out of my fingers and toes!

 

[genxer36]

Her orgasm

A big turn on for me is giving her as many orgasms as I'm able too, before I explode. Lots of foreplay involved. If she squirts that is a bonus. I've had a few that didn't know they could squirt. And we often explored her new found ability.

 

[Hipshot1554]

Both are great...

I think planning to both cum together would shift the focus from the pleasure. Now, if one's orgasm triggers the other...fantastic!

 

[screwher]

Cumming together is great. But more often than not I find myself making my wife cum first. Maybe I'm just being chivalrious lol.

 

[scott6251]

Cumming together is great. But more often than not I find myself making my wife cum first. Maybe I'm just being chivalrious lol.

My wife usually cums first. I like it that way

 

[TheWhiteBull]

I dont have any problem with orgasming together but in my experience, if I make her cum first she puts more effort and attention into making mine happen.

 

[PrincepsCyberius]

Simultaneous orgasm is great but, as the poll itself suggests, it sometimes requires so much concentration by at least one partner that he or she misses out on the other beauties of lovemaking. Generally, my lovemaking involves me coming first, usually after a decent amount of time. I then make my partner come with cunnilingus. Often, by the time that's done and she had regained her breath, we're both ready to start again!

 

[lonelycollegegirl]

I like separately. That way he can make me cum all the multiple times I'd like, and when he's ready I can focus on him and make sure he enjoys it. I've also been told it's better for him because he doesn't have to worry, he knows I've been taken care of/satisfied.

Sometimes it's nice to switch it up though and make him cum first

 

[96grad]

I like separately. That way he can make me cum all the multiple times I'd like, and when he's ready I can focus on him and make sure he enjoys it. I've also been told it's better for him because he doesn't have to worry, he knows I've been taken care of/satisfied.

Sometimes it's nice to switch it up though and make him cum first

I agree on taking turns so we can focus. Always ladies first for me though.

 

[xhxhxh]

I like separately. That way he can make me cum all the multiple times I'd like, and when he's ready I can focus on him and make sure he enjoys it. I've also been told it's better for him because he doesn't have to worry, he knows I've been taken care of/satisfied.

Sometimes it's nice to switch it up though and make him cum first

Cumming first? Whats that? Lol


Actually, its just the way i like it

 

[lonelycollegegirl]

Cumming first? Whats that? Lol


Actually, its just the way i like it

Such a gentleman

 

[JohnnyNotCraig]

Usually I make her cum multiple times while I'm fucking her and then I cum, sometimes we cum together even after she's cum once or twice and sometimes she just lets me cum by giving me a blowjob. Best part is we can both cum multiple times.

 

[xhxhxh]

Such a gentleman

I certainly try. Just the way i was raised i guess.

Ok ok, selfishly, i LOVE to watch her face as she reaches ecstasy. Really is like a drug to me. Its an in...credible feeling

 

[lonelycollegegirl]

I certainly try. Just the way i was raised i guess.

Ok ok, selfishly, i LOVE to watch her face as she reaches ecstasy. Really is like a drug to me. Its an in...credible feeling

Ahh the truth comes out.
That really is incredibly selfish of you
I am definitely the more passive person in bed, but I occasionally do enjoy taking the reigns and just taking care of my man and making him cum before I do, or even without cumming myself at all.

 

[96grad]

Ahh the truth comes out.
That really is incredibly selfish of you
I am definitely the more passive person in bed, but I occasionally do enjoy taking the reigns and just taking care of my man and making him cum before I do, or even without cumming myself at all.

You may be a dream girl!

 

[JohnnyNotCraig]

I certainly try. Just the way i was raised i guess.

Ok ok, selfishly, i LOVE to watch her face as she reaches ecstasy. Really is like a drug to me. Its an in...credible feeling

I know the feeling. And love the way she looks at me when I fuck her and the way her eyes widen when I pick up the pace and intensity or when she's about to cum.

 

[frombehindyou]

I like to take turns... one after another, back and forth...

 

[Nezhul]

I'm a man, so I always come once during sex (well, I guess you could say I've have 2-in-a-row fucks twice, but I still kind of separate them even if they happen during once session).

I generally try to make a woman cum a few times before I do. So she's basically cuming alone = we don't cum together.

Then when its time to shoot the load, I generally try to do it shortly after her orgasm or while she's cumming.
I never been told that or had a discussion, but when I think about it - it would be kinda frustrating for her, if I brought her close but then came before she did. So I try to do that shortly after or during hers. Does that count as cumming together?

Either way, I don't really have a preference. It's important for me to have a woman get off at least once during sex, preferably more. But I don't care if we cum together in the end or not. I know many people have been after that, but personally I don't really understand the fascination.

If I was asked by her to come together - I'd try pulling that off, but I can't imagine doing it consistently. The last 10% to orgasm are pretty hectic for me - I just stop holding back and let my body do the work, but it takes random amounts of time each time. So I don't see myself succeeding reliably in measuring it just right.

 

[luv2bfkd]

I've voted for cumming together as tops, but it wasn't so easy choosing!
Taking my woman through a really overwhelming orgasm on my cock when I'm no-where close and can give total attention to making it fabulous for her and therefore for me too, is what makes me feel a huge prowess as a lover.

But! far and away the most exhilarating orgasms I have had are when they are simultaneous and hence my vote. I say 'simultaneous' but not quite: her's will take perhaps three times as long as mine and so the total best is when she's been really going a while and then my growls and spunking kicks in, complete with fireworks out of my fingers and toes!

As so many men have posted here, we girls do appreciate a man who wants to assure our sexual pleasure before shifting to his need. My bf always wants to assure that I orgasm before he does, and preferably he wants me to have multiple orgasms before his release. I know my orgasms are quite enjoyable for him. He tells me how good it is for him to sink the length his cock into me and stay and the feel of what he knows are the involuntary contractions of my pussy gripping and releasing him, massaging and caressing his length as if begging it to release its treasure inside me. I in turn get the enjoyment of his cock buried deep inside me, filling me completely as I cum all over him. He too likes watching me, seeing how my coherence wanes more and more each time he takes me to orgasmic bliss. I feel that is what allows me to satisfy his manly desire to show his masculine dominance over me, to master me with his cock, and just fuck…my…brains…out. Then when he feels he has me to the point that my mind has seemingly gone bye-bye is when he shifts to satisfying his need. I can feel a shift in his drive as he moves to fucking me with absolute authority, making it clear that I belong to him, that I am his pussy. We both love as he takes me to one more orgasm and then the contractions of my pussy triggers his. As my pussy spasms over his full length as his cock throbs again and again to flood me with thick ropes of sperm.