My fiance' and I have great sex all the time. We have lots of sex, he is always hard for me and I am always so wet for him. He loves my ass - the size, shape, resiliancy, everything....I know he loves it and he tells me all the time. I will not let him look at it in certain positions though, because I have too much cellulite (on my butt and thighs). I am 23 years old, work out all the time, and I'm a personal trainer, so even more so I feel I should not have it. I know it is genetic and there is nothing I can do about it, but it makes me so self-concious. He can't understand why I will never let him look at my ass and I do not want to tell him, because I don't want to bring my poor self-image into our sex life. What to do and what do guys really think about that?
do you like my ass?
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If he is into you then it won't matter what you look like. If it does you may be lookin for luv in the wrong place. Give yourself to someone who worships you!
xxx Scott
If he is into you then it won't matter what you look like. If it does you may be lookin for luv in the wrong place. Give yourself to someone who worships you!
xxx Scott
Indeed
If he really is into you, then it will not matter to him, except for in the fact that he probably finds you beautiful in this area especially given his fixation for it and would not understand your reticence in this area. The best thing you can do is face your fears and overcome them with self-confidence that not only forces him to crave you even more but in turn puts you into a state of self-realization of the complete adequacy of yourself in the situation.
If he really is into you, then it will not matter to him, except for in the fact that he probably finds you beautiful in this area especially given his fixation for it and would not understand your reticence in this area. The best thing you can do is face your fears and overcome them with self-confidence that not only forces him to crave you even more but in turn puts you into a state of self-realization of the complete adequacy of yourself in the situation.
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bustier said:
Only suggestion I've got is when you are in those situations, focus on his reaction, not what you are doing to cause it. Stay focused on him and go with the flow. Like a former SO said to me, "only one of us needs to obsess on my butt, so I'll let you cuz it's more fun that way"
Good luck,
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bustier said:
If you can't be honest with him now and let him accept you for who you are (faults and all) then there is no use in getting married. No one in the entire world is perfect and even if there is one person (which I seriously doubt) their beauty is only skin deep. If you accept your fiance and he accepts you for who you are as a person, then what you look like is irrelevant.
Sorry I didn't mean to get on a rant.
Why do women do this
He obviously disagrees with you and likes your ass.
I dont mean to sound harsh, but get over it.
Women too often think that their man expect them to look a certain way, when the reality is that they like you just the way you are.
I am telling you this because I left my ex because of this. She was beautiful gal although for some strange reason she became extremely insecure and I couldnt handle it anymore.
Constantly weighing herself asking over and over again; do I look fat in these, can you notice I gained 5 pounds, do you think she is hotter than me, and she was 5'9 and maybe weighed 125LBS.
It becomes very frustrating for a man to answer these questions. What is most important is that you feel good about yourself and ask your self "If my ass is so bad why does my husband want it so bad?"
Good luck
He obviously disagrees with you and likes your ass.
I dont mean to sound harsh, but get over it.
Women too often think that their man expect them to look a certain way, when the reality is that they like you just the way you are.
I am telling you this because I left my ex because of this. She was beautiful gal although for some strange reason she became extremely insecure and I couldnt handle it anymore.
Constantly weighing herself asking over and over again; do I look fat in these, can you notice I gained 5 pounds, do you think she is hotter than me, and she was 5'9 and maybe weighed 125LBS.
It becomes very frustrating for a man to answer these questions. What is most important is that you feel good about yourself and ask your self "If my ass is so bad why does my husband want it so bad?"
Good luck
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I love Women's asses.Most men are not so shallow as to denigrate a lady for her cellulite.Give him a chance to enjoy your ass in all it's minor imperfection.If he loves you it will not matter.You've done everything right.Some things can't be changed,so embrace your little imperfection and enjoy your ass how it is.I wish I could see it.bustier said:
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To quote a wise man "Baby Got Back....I Love Big Butts and I Cannot Lie".......
To quote a wise man "Baby Got Back....I Love Big Butts and I Cannot Lie".......
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Cellulite is not necessarily genetic in all cases. I agree with other posts about the bf, but for your own satisfaction, go see a plastic surgeon. May be worth the $150 just to find out for yourself if it is in fact genetic (and a good plastic surgeon will not lie just to get you on the table).bustier said:
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As most others have said, if he likes your ass be happy and let him enjoy it. Persaonally I like asses of all shapes and sizes, I can't say exactly what I like I just know it whe I see it.
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bustier said:
Great! My Mistress has me kiss and lick Her Ass for hours....I love it! It is very sensual for her, and also her way of saying, "I am so hot and my Ass is so sexy, go ahead and kiss my Ass, It's good!
...and I agree, the female Ass is an Art form!....and your is too!
Great! My Mistress has me kiss and lick Her Ass for hours....I love it! It is very sensual for her, and also her way of saying, "I am so hot and my Ass is so sexy, go ahead and kiss my Ass, It's good!
...and I agree, the female Ass is an Art form!....and your is too!
Ok, but what if your Mistress had cellulite? Visible cellulite?
...and I agree, the female Ass is an Art form!....and your is too!
Ok, but what if your Mistress had cellulite? Visible cellulite?
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bustier said:
first of all...she will never see this and id never tell her to her face...but yes she does ...not many women can say they dont. and secondly, of course,..i could never tell her this...but i think i can tell you...try to leave your self-conciousness at the door...when you are intimate with someone that level of trust is there...you know hes attracted to you..and you know he loves your ass..and tits..and kisses and hugs and everything else...the more you focus on your worries about your body image, the less you focus on him....assuming you are attracted to him...and he turns you on...just let that happen....let him get your motor running....and forget your hangups about your own body....at least while your being intimate....if not forever..
and again..id never tell her this but..when my wife tries to cover herself...its a distraction for me....she has her own spots that she thinks she needs to work on...but...i dont notice it until she repositions herself to keep me from seeing her "rolls" or her "dimples" ...and shes not fat or anything...just like you ...
...lets see that ass, btw
goodshot.ohf said:
Thanks for telling me that. I needed to hear it from a guy.
I try not to make it obvious that I am uncomfortable with my ass, and never talk about my hang-ups. My problem is that I think that mine is probably wrse than everyone elses. I won't walk out of the room naked if I know he is looking at my ass. I feel like it is such a turn off, especially if we are not having sex at the moment and he catches a glimpse of my cellulite. Because we are not in the moment he will pay attention to it more. There is nothing I would want more than to just wlk around in some lingerie just for the hell of or cook dinner for him naked, but I am too aware of my ass and thighs that I don't do it.
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no regrets
If you really want to do something like cook naked for him, do it. When you're lying on your death bed, do you want to think "I'm really glad i didn't cook for him naked so he couldn't see my ass" or do you want to think "i'm really glad i cooked for him naked and it led to the best night of sex I have ever had"
If you really want to do something like cook naked for him, do it. When you're lying on your death bed, do you want to think "I'm really glad i didn't cook for him naked so he couldn't see my ass" or do you want to think "i'm really glad i cooked for him naked and it led to the best night of sex I have ever had"
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I completely agree with vangoh971. Life is short and the 2 of you should make the most of it, especially because he likes your ass the way it is! Sensuality cums from within and there is nothing more sensual than a nude woman comfortable enough to cook a meal or watch TV in the buff!.
Sensuality cums from within and there is nothing more sensual than a nude woman comfortable enough to cook a meal or watch TV in the buff!.
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When my wife and I got together, she had a hang up about her breasts. She thought that there was something wrong with them from breastfeeding her son, and was really hung up about it. Finally, I talked her into a naked pizza night, and she found it liberating. From then on, no preblem. You just gotta let go and enjoy each other, but more importantly, allow youself to be enjoyed. We all have our issues, I have been working on a beer gut over the last few years, but what the hell. Just go with it!
Flashh said:
I think naked pizza night sounds like the sweetest thing ever!
I see what you're saying, and true, life is too short to worry about these things, especially when someone undoubtedly loves you.
Would you say that all hang ups are equal and it is just the person who feels negatively about them who sees them as so bad, or would you say that some hang ups are actually worse? I feel that some are actually worse, but can see how it may just be a feeling that the person who internalizes it has.
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bustier said:
Let's just say, other peoples problems are never as bad as yours. It is always easier to tell someone else to get over it than it is to get over it yourself.
......it's all in how you handle it...
wanna handle me? hehe seriously tho...you get where im goin with that..right?
