Do you fit into a Standard Role?

[psiberzerker]

As should be painfully obvious by now, I am a Dominant Masochist, an unorthodox role from what I've heard. Who all around here also diverges from the D/s, or Sm roles in the orthodox BDSM community, and how?

 

[Quint]

For much longer than I was consciously aware, I was trying to squeeze myself into what I perceived a "real" submissive was. It still haunts me, especially when I read that damned "perfectionism" thread. I'm a perfectionist. I like challenges and I like meeting them for the sake of saying I did it. I push my pain limits so I can go "ha! I'm not afraid of you, pain!" Granted, if T were really truly sadistic (another term that I tried to fit him into without accepting that he's HIM, not a label), I would probably enjoy that I was giving him more pleasure. I do like that. But coupled with that is me and my need to do everything well. For me.

I also get really pissy and top a LOT more when my Dom doesn't act Domly enough. "Whoa now," you say. But it's true. If my partner does not show me that he is stronger than me and WILL control me, then I lose any desire to submit to him. I'll even switch, anything to get some power play involved, but it's always with the hope that he'll get pissed and take that control back from me. Thank gawd this hasn't happened in a loooong time.

My masochism isn't masochistic. My submission is a hurled gauntlet. And you say you feel unorthodox?

 

[Netzach]

Not I said the Masterette.

I've done it all. Bottomed, submitted, topped, dominated, Mastered. Mastered myself when the going got tough. Mastered others who looked to me for it, and Mastered myself enough to sit down, shut up and pay attention in the face of bigger Mastery.

I clearly don't like the labels. Ask me what I do, what I'm into. I love painplay, erotic painplay, in my relationships and as part of my sexuality. I love power play in my intimate relationships, as part of my sexual and general orientation. My primary partner submits to me because that's simply who we are in relation to one another. Other partners I have bottom to me, submit to me, Top me or Dominate me, though this is less frequent, whatever the relationship takes the shape of.