Do you feel most Bi Men are only looking for BJ's the women in thier life wont do?
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satchx said:
Same here. I have no desire to have a guy suck me.
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no cus then they would just cheat with another girl who would give head if they were that desprate. they have to have some attraction to men...
no cus then they would just cheat with another girl who would give head if they were that desprate. they have to have some attraction to men...
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Bisexuality is far more than just needing your dick sucked, or even needing your dick sucked by a guy, or needing to suck a dick. It's attraction, similar to the way a straight guy finds a woman attracitv,e
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HeavenCanWait said:
Does not being attracted to men but just liking dick count?
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I'd say no,
bear in mind that most men's primary sexual partner is their hand, at least in their formative years. You spemnd so much time enjoying your cock that it's only natural that you might begin to want to play with other guy's cocks too.
This is not the same as being attracted to men, and in my book not really bisexuality.
But we all attach different words to different things, no one is ever truly right or wrong.
Except me, I'm often truly right, and rarely truly wrong.
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bear in mind that most men's primary sexual partner is their hand, at least in their formative years. You spemnd so much time enjoying your cock that it's only natural that you might begin to want to play with other guy's cocks too.
This is not the same as being attracted to men, and in my book not really bisexuality.
But we all attach different words to different things, no one is ever truly right or wrong.
Except me, I'm often truly right, and rarely truly wrong.
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Jeremync said:
As Hugh Grant could tell you: that's what hookers are for. He went to Divine Brown because Liz Hurley wouldn't suck his cock.
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difficult to answer...
I would say that its a complex answer for each bi male to answer. Each situation that brought us to where we are now in our lives is different. Just as each bisexual is different. Our desires are not all the same. And, even more tricky/complex is the fact that our mind and body needs further pleasures to be fully satisfied. Put another way, most of us (bi's), want more when we come to realize that we have more to give. Its a natural progression as one drops the sexual inhibitions of earlier years.
I would say that its a complex answer for each bi male to answer. Each situation that brought us to where we are now in our lives is different. Just as each bisexual is different. Our desires are not all the same. And, even more tricky/complex is the fact that our mind and body needs further pleasures to be fully satisfied. Put another way, most of us (bi's), want more when we come to realize that we have more to give. Its a natural progression as one drops the sexual inhibitions of earlier years.
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I don't think so. I really enjoy giving blow jobs the best. My wife gives me better blow jobs than almost all of the men I have every been with.Jeremync said:
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HeavenCanWait said:
interesting perspective... I like it.
As for me, I am completely satisfied with every bit of my sexual life as far as my female S.O. and I are concerned (especially the BJ's). I think for myself (and many other bisexual men I've talked to), it's simply primal sexuality. I can't speak for all bi men, but I have no need for emotional involvement with another man. Herein lies the difference between myself as a bi man (who is primarily attracted to women), and a gay man. I need women emotionally, but I simply enjoy experimenting with men. I love anything that gives pleasure, regardless of gender or whether I am receiving or giving the pleasure.
It's that cut and dry for me, although I know for others it's not nearly that simple.
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I would have to say no. My sample size isn't terribly large, but the other bi men I have been with were all as much into GIVING oral sex as they were into receiving it.
Add to that the sharing of anal sex, and I'm afraid your theory loses out.
Add to that the sharing of anal sex, and I'm afraid your theory loses out.
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rbone04 said:
Well said. I totally agree. Being truly bi myself I seek different kinds of relationships with each gender. I want a long term, committed, honest and open relationship with ONE woman. ONE special connection. And I want the two of us to openly play around with other men and women we have casual, friendly relationships with. Adding adventure, friendship, hedonism and sharing with others to OUR relationship. When I am not IN a relationship and single I seek out casual sex with male and female friends. If all I wanted was a blowjob I felt I was owed and not getting I could just simply stick my dick through a hole in any truck-stop-restroom glory hole. And the thought of doing that DOES NOT turn me on.
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Getting blown is just the most fantastic sex for me. When I'm with my wife and a male partner, they often go down on me together and I get two mouth sucking my throbbing cock, with me watching them share my cock between them
Getting blown is just the most fantastic sex for me. When I'm with my wife and a male partner, they often go down on me together and I get two mouth sucking my throbbing cock, with me watching them share my cock between them
I think you'll find, like the comments here, that people are Homosexual, or bi, or hetero all for differen't reasons (wether they know the reasons or not). For example some men are hetero because they don't like men, and some are hetero because they like women (yes there is a difference). Concurrently, some men are homosexual because they don't like women, and some are homosexual because they like men. These aren't the only reasons for homosexuality, bisexuality, or heterosexuality (and really are basic simplifications of other reasons). So it's really hard to try and figure out why "most men are bi" because nearly all cases differ in a lot of ways. Humans are diverse by nature. It's like trying to find "the cause of homosexuality in humans". It's nigh impossible to determine if you consider it as such. It's much better to take it case by case (if you care to find the cause at all, that is); or like trying to figure out why people like rock music (or whathaveyou).
While I think it's possible for someone to think he is bi because of your reasoning... I don't think it would be a very good litmus test for ones own sexuality.
While I think it's possible for someone to think he is bi because of your reasoning... I don't think it would be a very good litmus test for ones own sexuality.
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I agree. The reasons for sexuality in my opinion are very diverse and I doubt even for one individual there is just one simple answer.
I never could understand people who came up with some "one idea" for gay/str8/bi sexuality. For instance, lots of gays like to get lulled into the dillusion that it is all about some "gay gene". I find such an answer for a very complicated part of life way to simplistic.
I remember being attracted to certain men since I was 4.5 years old. At that age it wasn't because that was the first time I ever saw a man or saw a penis or a for that matter, but rather the first time I saw a really hairy guy. Is there a gene for attraction to hirsuit men? Also I wanted to mount guys from a very early age --way before I ever tried it. I remember how I used to admire behinds before I even knew all about human sexuality. I think some people think that gay males are these beings that have the instinct to take the traditional female mating role but just happen to have male equipment. I never enjoyed much about the male penis other than wishing mine were larger and enjoying the "proof" that the other guy is enjoying the sex.
(I will admit that precum is great, but I didn't ever know about that until I was in my mid-20's. Thus that was a learned thing.)
When I have done oral, it has only been for love -- never really for penis desire. Anal I never liked: I didn't like the penis being in me, the weight of the guy on top of me, the thrusting, etc... When I did do it years ago, my only thought was I sure hope he gets off quickly or tires of it.
On the other hand, there is nothing hotter to me than to carry a real masculine, hairy guy into the bedroom and kiss, hug, feel his warmth, smell his scent, enter him, and watch his facial expression. In my head I'm impregnating him even if that isn't possible. I was never as big on the thrusting as it was just the "connection" and the idea of mixing genes.
To the original question of whether male bi-sexuality can be a result of a woman not giving her man blow jobs: I'm sure there is some of that, but such a guy would still prefer to get it from a woman. Maybe he figures doing it with a guy isn't really cheating like if he did it with another woman. Or maybe he lives in a rural area where a highway rest stop or a nearby city's adult bookstore is about the only place to find sex. Or maybe he just doesn't like the time or expense to wine/dine a woman on the side to give him a blow job. However, I would say over time, he would eventually find a woman to satisfy these needs. If he doesn't it is more likely that there is more to the bisexuality that just not getting oral from a woman.
I never could understand people who came up with some "one idea" for gay/str8/bi sexuality. For instance, lots of gays like to get lulled into the dillusion that it is all about some "gay gene". I find such an answer for a very complicated part of life way to simplistic.
I remember being attracted to certain men since I was 4.5 years old. At that age it wasn't because that was the first time I ever saw a man or saw a penis or a for that matter, but rather the first time I saw a really hairy guy. Is there a gene for attraction to hirsuit men? Also I wanted to mount guys from a very early age --way before I ever tried it. I remember how I used to admire behinds before I even knew all about human sexuality. I think some people think that gay males are these beings that have the instinct to take the traditional female mating role but just happen to have male equipment. I never enjoyed much about the male penis other than wishing mine were larger and enjoying the "proof" that the other guy is enjoying the sex.
(I will admit that precum is great, but I didn't ever know about that until I was in my mid-20's. Thus that was a learned thing.)
When I have done oral, it has only been for love -- never really for penis desire. Anal I never liked: I didn't like the penis being in me, the weight of the guy on top of me, the thrusting, etc... When I did do it years ago, my only thought was I sure hope he gets off quickly or tires of it.
On the other hand, there is nothing hotter to me than to carry a real masculine, hairy guy into the bedroom and kiss, hug, feel his warmth, smell his scent, enter him, and watch his facial expression. In my head I'm impregnating him even if that isn't possible. I was never as big on the thrusting as it was just the "connection" and the idea of mixing genes.
To the original question of whether male bi-sexuality can be a result of a woman not giving her man blow jobs: I'm sure there is some of that, but such a guy would still prefer to get it from a woman. Maybe he figures doing it with a guy isn't really cheating like if he did it with another woman. Or maybe he lives in a rural area where a highway rest stop or a nearby city's adult bookstore is about the only place to find sex. Or maybe he just doesn't like the time or expense to wine/dine a woman on the side to give him a blow job. However, I would say over time, he would eventually find a woman to satisfy these needs. If he doesn't it is more likely that there is more to the bisexuality that just not getting oral from a woman.
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I might tend to agrre with that premise.
My SO will suck me, but not deep nor swallow.
This has tended to peak my curiosity in wanting to try it to see what the deal is all about. Besides, who knows more about cocksucking then men, just as who knows more about pussyeating then women.
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Contrary to popular opinion here...
I might tend to agrre with that premise.
My SO will suck me, but not deep nor swallow.
This has tended to peak my curiosity in wanting to try it to see what the deal is all about. Besides, who knows more about cocksucking then men, just as who knows more about pussyeating then women.
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The answer is no for me. For me it's more about an attraction to the Taboo nature of the thing and a bit of a release from a vanilla sexual relationship in my marriage. Also for me it's not on the same emotional level as having an affair with a Women. If I were to stray and have sex with a Women outside of my marriage I would be weighed down by guilt, but a little play with another straight guy seems recreational rather than emotional. I will say that I think my desire for cock would be much less intense - if there at all - if my wife were more open and less guilt ridden about sex. Hmmm. So maybe it's not "the bj's that she won't do" but more like the sexuality she is not open to? And then there is the question "am I bi if all I want is sex but have no attraction to men"?
