Do You Fall In and Out of Love Easily?
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I was married to the person who i believed was the love of my life. Then i have met several women since who were almost there. But then I wear my heart on my sleeve. LoL
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hey sweet Juicy 
wellll ... hmmmm ... i'd say i fall in lust very easily ... lol ... no seriously ... r/l, online, tv, movies, etc. ... constantly ... both men and women ...
and it's so much fun to share that lust for a woman with my b/f ...
'cause really he is the one and only love of my life ... he opened me up so much ...
i often think how lucky we are that we found each other ...
it took me a while though ... i had to go through a bad marriage too ... and i thought i was in love then ... i guess i was at first ...
so ... i guess you have to kiss a lot of frogs <and that's where the lust thing comes in lol> before you find your prince<ss>
wellll ... hmmmm ... i'd say i fall in lust very easily ... lol ... no seriously ... r/l, online, tv, movies, etc. ... constantly ... both men and women ...
and it's so much fun to share that lust for a woman with my b/f ...
'cause really he is the one and only love of my life ... he opened me up so much ...
i often think how lucky we are that we found each other ...
it took me a while though ... i had to go through a bad marriage too ... and i thought i was in love then ... i guess i was at first ...
so ... i guess you have to kiss a lot of frogs <and that's where the lust thing comes in lol> before you find your prince<ss>
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I can fall into and out lust rather easily - if I am not in love with someone else already. If I am in love, then I don't even really lust after anyone else; I may ogle a beautiful woman, I might even fantasize what it would be like to have sex with her (although not usually), but lust after her? No, not really - kind of like cheating in my mind. Unless of course my partner wanted her too - even then... - I don't know, I've never been with a woman who wasn't jealous in that regard.
When I was a kid I used to think I would fall in and out of love with people rather easily, but it was usually lust, or at best infatuation.
Watching a show yesterday on the Science of Love (Discovery Health Channel); the observation was made that women are more jealous of romantic attention payed to someone else, whereas men are more jealous of sexual attention paid to our partners.
The theory is that women have historically needed the man's resources and are more likely to loose those resources from other romances than from a man's brief sexual encounters. Whereas men, do not want to raise other men's children, so men are more jealous of women's sexual encounters.
They also stated that women tend to want a different man when their children reach about 4 years of age, as it is to their advantage to get different genes rather than the same man's genes again - the four year itch. The four year age is when the child reaches enough maturity where the child does not need as much attention and the woman wants another child.
Men don't do have this same impetus; they pretty much want to spread their genes around all the time, and whether it is with the same woman or not doesn't really matter, except that when one woman gets pregnant then they may look for another.
All of this is our "old mammalian" and "reptilian" brains, and not necessarily how we actually conduct ourselves - but it explains some human behavior in this regard.
They also stated that the "reptilian" portion of our brains wants/needs sex, the "old mammalian" portion of our brain wants/needs companionship and socialization, while the "new mammalian" portion of our brain wants intelligence, stability, etc.
When I was a kid I used to think I would fall in and out of love with people rather easily, but it was usually lust, or at best infatuation.
Watching a show yesterday on the Science of Love (Discovery Health Channel); the observation was made that women are more jealous of romantic attention payed to someone else, whereas men are more jealous of sexual attention paid to our partners.
The theory is that women have historically needed the man's resources and are more likely to loose those resources from other romances than from a man's brief sexual encounters. Whereas men, do not want to raise other men's children, so men are more jealous of women's sexual encounters.
They also stated that women tend to want a different man when their children reach about 4 years of age, as it is to their advantage to get different genes rather than the same man's genes again - the four year itch. The four year age is when the child reaches enough maturity where the child does not need as much attention and the woman wants another child.
Men don't do have this same impetus; they pretty much want to spread their genes around all the time, and whether it is with the same woman or not doesn't really matter, except that when one woman gets pregnant then they may look for another.
All of this is our "old mammalian" and "reptilian" brains, and not necessarily how we actually conduct ourselves - but it explains some human behavior in this regard.
They also stated that the "reptilian" portion of our brains wants/needs sex, the "old mammalian" portion of our brain wants/needs companionship and socialization, while the "new mammalian" portion of our brain wants intelligence, stability, etc.
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"Easy" is a relative term - but to give an idea of how easy it is for me; I am in lust with most of the women here at Lit, and discover a new one to lust after just about daily (such as Nekked Hick Girljuicylips said:
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I have an open heart, I think it's easy for me to love someone.
as for 'in love' Can't really say I've ever been in love with anyone yet. So I guess that part isn't easy for me.
as for 'in love' Can't really say I've ever been in love with anyone yet. So I guess that part isn't easy for me.
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Trying not to think of love at the moment, that damn thing always catches me at the wrong time ...
I have a soft heart, but at the same time it's hard to crack my shell. I give all of myself, but have a difficult time letting myself depend on anyone else. So, I suppose I fall in love with a bit of difficulty.
Falling out of love is damned near impossible though, for those same reasons. When I do fall, it's hard and complete - and so hard to stop, if it ever really does.
Lust? Well, even lust isn't easy. I flirt like mad, but I guess I'm picky about that too. My mind has to be involved - or else *yawns* all around.
What the hell's wrong with me??
I have a soft heart, but at the same time it's hard to crack my shell. I give all of myself, but have a difficult time letting myself depend on anyone else. So, I suppose I fall in love with a bit of difficulty.
Falling out of love is damned near impossible though, for those same reasons. When I do fall, it's hard and complete - and so hard to stop, if it ever really does.
Lust? Well, even lust isn't easy. I flirt like mad, but I guess I'm picky about that too. My mind has to be involved - or else *yawns* all around.
What the hell's wrong with me??
celiaKitten said:Trying not to think of love at the moment, that damn thing always catches me at the wrong time ...
I have a soft heart, but at the same time it's hard to crack my shell. I give all of myself, but have a difficult time letting myself depend on anyone else. So, I suppose I fall in love with a bit of difficulty.
Falling out of love is damned near impossible though, for those same reasons. When I do fall, it's hard and complete - and so hard to stop, if it ever really does.
Lust? Well, even lust isn't easy. I flirt like mad, but I guess I'm picky about that too. My mind has to be involved - or else *yawns* all around.
What the hell's wrong with me??
Nothing is wrong with you..
Sounds to me like your human along with the rest us. Never really sure where we stand in this whole love or lust thing..
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The heart is a strange thing, we can't ignore it, and the wonds to it never heal.
your completely normal. Just use it and you'll be fine.
your completely normal. Just use it and you'll be fine.
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I was married to the love of my life for 17 years, and now divorced for 12. Funny thing was I didn't like him very much. He wasn't a very nice person. Have had several boyfriends but never really felt the same feeling as with my ex. But I'm still hoping to fall in love again, and hopefully for the last time.
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Not so much.
I look hard at people when I meet them. I like to hope that I can find something I like in everyone. Usually, I see things I don't like-perhaps something that is a bitter reminder of my own insecurities, or something that strikes me as foolish and silly. Sometimes some of the weakest people have the biggest hearts. Perhaps there's something about someone who has faced their limitations and accepted them.
"If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with," because as far as I'm concerned, love is what I do, not what I feel. I associate "falling in love" with the naiveté of my younger years. Cupid's arrow is capricious, striking out with utter disdain for social position and circumstance.
I look hard at people when I meet them. I like to hope that I can find something I like in everyone. Usually, I see things I don't like-perhaps something that is a bitter reminder of my own insecurities, or something that strikes me as foolish and silly. Sometimes some of the weakest people have the biggest hearts. Perhaps there's something about someone who has faced their limitations and accepted them.
"If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with," because as far as I'm concerned, love is what I do, not what I feel. I associate "falling in love" with the naiveté of my younger years. Cupid's arrow is capricious, striking out with utter disdain for social position and circumstance.
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Why didn't you just register as "Cassidy", juicylips?
No, i don't fall in love easily. It's a matter of trust for me; if the utter trust i require from another person - and that which i need to give - isn't there, then i know i am not yet "in love" with them.
Falling out of being "in love"... well now, that's a horse of another color, isn't it?
No, i don't fall in love easily. It's a matter of trust for me; if the utter trust i require from another person - and that which i need to give - isn't there, then i know i am not yet "in love" with them.
Falling out of being "in love"... well now, that's a horse of another color, isn't it?
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I think that I am probably way too dynamically aspected to be normal...
I have felt sensations that I can only call love several times...and felt broken when they left me cold and empty.
Maybe I just don't know what love is. In that case I'll just have to settle for whatever it is (probably lust, but who's to say?) until I find someone that I have a mutual understanding with.
I have felt sensations that I can only call love several times...and felt broken when they left me cold and empty.
Maybe I just don't know what love is. In that case I'll just have to settle for whatever it is (probably lust, but who's to say?) until I find someone that I have a mutual understanding with.
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I've only fallen in love with one person, so I have to say no, I don't fall in love easily. Additionally, I've stayed all these years in spite of, well, lots, I can also say I don't fall out of love easily either.
What I do get are several cases of "wow, you're new, what makes you tick" style fascination that last until my curiousity is sated.
What I do get are several cases of "wow, you're new, what makes you tick" style fascination that last until my curiousity is sated.
Love is not a constant but an evolving feeling between individuals. The first "young love" I had was a heart breaker, I don't even think lust was intermixed. Later on a real sexual attraction with another occurred and lust changed into love and through children and time and life and society the lust disappeared and love remained in a more worn relationship.
As I aged and my sex drive decreased, I desired to have more lust in my life...this was not true with the one I loved I fear that I am loosing the passion and the lust fro my life. And I believe that we all do to some extent and so we seek to renew the lust and passion in a search as we are doing here. I have found lust and passion here and as knowledge and understanding of new and different relationships occurs does not new love occur?
I think lust often preceeds love, but can love prevail without love?
Or can you put 10lbs of shit in a 5lb. bag.
Mac
As I aged and my sex drive decreased, I desired to have more lust in my life...this was not true with the one I loved I fear that I am loosing the passion and the lust fro my life. And I believe that we all do to some extent and so we seek to renew the lust and passion in a search as we are doing here. I have found lust and passion here and as knowledge and understanding of new and different relationships occurs does not new love occur?
I think lust often preceeds love, but can love prevail without love?
Or can you put 10lbs of shit in a 5lb. bag.
Mac
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No I don't, but.......
I don't fall in love easily; I don't even "love" easily. Problem is, when I DO fall in love, I can never seem to find my way out. I fell in love with 'Gifted in high school (something like 20 years ago....Oh God, I'm telling my age! ). Anyway, we didn't see each other for 10 years, and the day we did, it was like those ten years never happened......we were both still as much in love as we always had been.
I guess that's the part I'm leery of...I don't want to fall in love because I know I never fall "out of love".
I don't fall in love easily; I don't even "love" easily. Problem is, when I DO fall in love, I can never seem to find my way out. I fell in love with 'Gifted in high school (something like 20 years ago....Oh God, I'm telling my age!
). Anyway, we didn't see each other for 10 years, and the day we did, it was like those ten years never happened......we were both still as much in love as we always had been. I guess that's the part I'm leery of...I don't want to fall in love because I know I never fall "out of love".
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I don't think I fall in love easily. Lust..ahhh, another story. I have a husband who I wouldn't trade for anything but at the same time, I find myself interested in the "what if's?" Maybe that guy over there or a person I have gotten to know in a chat room, whatever. What if I prodded a little deeper into what he liked, what stoked his fire? Frankly, I think it makes for more intense sex with my husband. That's always a good thing.
No. I am a lot like Cym in the respect of the matter of trust.
It is not easy to obatain my full trust, and even my own husband isn't on my die hard list of people that I trust, so you can imagine that it is a short list.
Anyway, It takes an open line of communication, understanding and a lot of patience and trying, and making up for hurt, not just moving on and doing it again and again. I've had too much of that from men, so my heart is mostly sealed shut in that special area that is just for me and someone I am in love with.
It is a seldomed opened door in my heart, to a big room of wealth, love, trust, caring, respect, openness, but the key in is the trust. You can't hurt me and be unopend to me, or your out.
However, I feel a huge amount of love for people in general, and I love certain people so deeply that I wonder if it is more than I know, but I am too scared or untrusting to deal with it in any real way, or that it isn't appropriate to be in love with them anyway.
It is not that hard to see that it is a deep thing to be in love and not to be taken lightly with this chickie poo.
It is not easy to obatain my full trust, and even my own husband isn't on my die hard list of people that I trust, so you can imagine that it is a short list.
Anyway, It takes an open line of communication, understanding and a lot of patience and trying, and making up for hurt, not just moving on and doing it again and again. I've had too much of that from men, so my heart is mostly sealed shut in that special area that is just for me and someone I am in love with.
It is a seldomed opened door in my heart, to a big room of wealth, love, trust, caring, respect, openness, but the key in is the trust. You can't hurt me and be unopend to me, or your out.
However, I feel a huge amount of love for people in general, and I love certain people so deeply that I wonder if it is more than I know, but I am too scared or untrusting to deal with it in any real way, or that it isn't appropriate to be in love with them anyway.
It is not that hard to see that it is a deep thing to be in love and not to be taken lightly with this chickie poo.
Juicey,
Unfortunatly for us men, when the orgasm cums the the desire can evaporate quickly. I have found that I enjoy just holding touching and then licking and kissing my partner into what I hope is a great orgasm. Unfortunatly, I like may males can't keep an erection for more than about 10 minuets and onces it's gone it takes longer and longer (the older I get) to get another. My tongue and fingers don't have that problem.
Bye, Mac
Unfortunatly for us men, when the orgasm cums the the desire can evaporate quickly. I have found that I enjoy just holding touching and then licking and kissing my partner into what I hope is a great orgasm. Unfortunatly, I like may males can't keep an erection for more than about 10 minuets and onces it's gone it takes longer and longer (the older I get) to get another. My tongue and fingers don't have that problem.
Bye, Mac
juicylips said:
I agree with you 100%, except about sex being more intense with my husband. It gets more frustrating for me.
Cassidy,
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