Do you ever just get plain sick of talking about BDSM?

[Marquis]

Granted, I'm kind of in a crotchety mode right now, but I gotta ask:

Am I the only one who just can't bear to talk about BDSM sometimes?

There are periods where I'm fascinating with every element of BDSM, but every once in a while I get into a state where I look through the list of threads on the BDSM Talk and Cafe forums and feel like I'll hurl if I see one more debate about the difference between a sub and a slave, whether Doms or subs like "X" (with X usually representing some attribute of the thread starter) or if some vanilla SO can be brought over.

Even in my local community, I feel like there are people who are totally intent on having their entire lives revolve around the scene. I love BDSM, you all know that. BDSM will always be a major part of my life, but there is SO MUCH more to life than just sex and relationships. And there is a lot more to sex and relationships than BDSM.

 

[JupitersGirl]

No. Never.

edt: But to elaborate ... I don't live bdsm full time, so our views differ.



I'll trade views!!



Please?

 

[graceanne]

Yes, I do. Those are the times I post nothing but fluff, and don't even visit the serious threads.

 

[intothewoods]

I'm still a newbie, in that wooowooo stage, but there are times I look over the threads here and I'm like, ehhhh, nuttin new here.

 

[serijules]

I get sick of discussing and whatnot, although I don't get sick of living it. I have a lot of other interests and hobbies that take up my time...my family, quilting, my pets. Sometimes there just isn't time to spend online when the rest of my life is waiting for attention.

I never get sick of talking about it with Ma'am or the people that really get me and vice versa. I do have stages of disinterest in discussions with people I barely know. Thus why my appearances here over the years are sporadic. I come, spend a few weeks having a good time discussing and then tend to forget about the site for awhile.

So my interest doesn't wane much, but my outlets do.

 

[Netzach]

I will disappear in disgust for months on end and then come back with passionate vigor. I'm very hot/cold that way.

 

[Betticus]

Yes, absolutely!

 

[Marquis]

Another thing that gets me sometimes...

I enjoy the discussions about relationships and feelings and such, they're important, but I'd really like to see more technical discussion and information on forms of play and techniques.

 

[HB1965]

I'm relatively new here all though I've been lurking for quite a while but yes the posts can become same old same old. This happens on any message board. You get new people that haven't been around for other discussion or someone bumps and old dead thread, and it's back on again.

I do enjoy talking about sex in it's myriad of forms, but there are other things in life.

 

[Netzach]

Another thing that gets me sometimes...

I enjoy the discussions about relationships and feelings and such, they're important, but I'd really like to see more technical discussion and information on forms of play and techniques.

Like?

 

[Quint]

...........

 

[Xelebes]

What do you think I've been doing for the past 4 years?

 

[myinnerslut]

Yes, I do. Those are the times I post nothing but fluff, and don't even visit the serious threads.

my response exactly

 

[incubus'_sub]

Certainly do get sick of it. It seems that many of us who do have real life partners take a break from here quite often rather than scream "Oh, Get a Life" to the overly excited newbies who clutter up the place.

Telling them a few home truths seems to be frowned apon, so it's easier to back off & live our own lives for a while.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Have to admit I would like more depth to discussions, and as you say Marquis, a sharing of techniques, new ideas, and experiences beyond 'how he made me wet last night'. I think in part our not socialising with others in the lifestyle in a face to face way helps as well as it means we rarely talk about it.

Catalina

 

[Marquis]

Like?

Talk to me about a scene you've done that was highly impactful, knocked the b on his ass.

What did it involve?

 

[graceanne]

I would probably visit threads on technique and all that. I understand that the newbies are . . . well new, and want to discuss subspace, and submission, and punishment, andall that. I've discussed it to death, and Im a firm believer in 'if you can't say something nice, don't say nuthin' at all'. I also try to be fair, I'm sure when I first joined this board and was participating enthusiastically in ALL those threads, that the regulars at the time rolled their eyes at me. But I appreciate them being patient.

 

[Netzach]

Talk to me about a scene you've done that was highly impactful, knocked the b on his ass.

What did it involve?

With M it's always an issue of timing. A scene is going to be great or just not come off if there's any little thing out of place that doesn't allow him to feel comfortable. It's not the "what" but the "when." I think one of the best scenes I ever did with him was at Paddles in NYC, just because it was the first public play we'd ever done where we didn't know anyone - so there was other body energy, but no one we knew to distract us and a strong not giving a crap about what they would think. It just clicked, technically it wasn't anything that interesting, but I remember getting foot worship at the end. Foot worship is not my husband's thing - it's really his way of saying he's doing something expressly FOR me. It really means what it is when it's him, literally "I kiss your feet because I worship you" not "I kiss your feet because I worship feet." THAT is incredible to experience. In public, a huge barrier down.

I find it's ALWAYS a strange cocktail of timing, person, and mood when it's great and magical and what it should be. One of my hottest moment's was piercing a client's nipple. Not my favorite client, but one I liked, because he was such a masochist. His verbal communication skills were shit, his body language was the most beautiful book I've ever read.

H is slave and property and all that, but honestly, he's mostly my partner-in-humiliation-fetish above all else. I'm constantly aroused and piqued and entertained by the fact that at any moment and at every moment, I can literally say anything - unedited - startle myself with the things that come out of my mouth. I've tried to make him cry, he really wants to break open for me. but I can't seem to do it. It would be fun if it got really dark but it's more fun that we both wind up high, laughing, and horny mostly. I swear, I think if I said "you suck, get away from me" he'd be devastated AND still hard.

"You're pretty hung, but Jesus that thing just doesn't work. You know I'm never going to try fucking you again. I must have been desperate, I was so horny after beating you l'd screw a doorknob. Probably would have been better."

This actually gets him hard. I myself can't really put myself in that place, but it actually works for him. That's fucking hot to me, and I can't explain that any better at all.

It's funny, because this is just as much about impact on me.

 

[His_pita]

I don't think I get sick of talking about BDSM but I sure do get bored on occasion. I have three BDSM boards I post on and belong to a BDSM community where we do a lot of talking about it. I'm currently reading a book on being a slave and have been tasked to write my insights and opinions. So, I get burned out.

I also get tired of seeing the same topics over and over. I love the new stuff that you don't see posted everyday.

It's OK, because I have lots of other stuff to do including reading my textbooks for next quarter and hanging out on other forums that are less kinky or not kinky at all.

 

[Quint]

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[saw_man1]

Talking about it, no. Reading about it, yes.
There are a group of about 10 individuals that are forming a local chapter of MAsT. Two of the ten are regulars here. Our second meeting is tomorrow and I am looking forward to some serious discussions.

 

[Softouch911]

Talking about it, no. Reading about it, yes.
There are a group of about 10 individuals that are forming a local chapter of MAsT. Two of the ten are regulars here. Our second meeting is tomorrow and I am looking forward to some serious discussions.

I'm pretty much the same. I don't get tired of living it, of talking face:face with RT folk about it, but the online dance sometimes wears thin. Most of the time, it's all good. Fortunately, I don't have to click on the links to the BDSM boards if I feel tired.

ST

 

[saw_man1]

I'm pretty much the same. I don't get tired of living it, of talking face:face with RT folk about it, but the online dance sometimes wears thin. Most of the time, it's all good. Fortunately, I don't have to click on the links to the BDSM boards if I feel tired.ST

And I will see you tomorrow! Do you know where I can find Nehi Grape? Leto likes it and I thought it would make a nice gift. It was everywhere when I was a kid but now it has all but disappeared.

 

[Netzach]

I feel geographically challenged and jealous.

 

[the_pet]

Am I the only one who just can't bear to talk about BDSM sometimes?

you mean like now


i grow weary of the same subjects that IF PEOPLE WOULD USE THE SEARCH FUNCTION they could find threads already discussing said topic AND STOP MAKING A NEW THREAD EACH TIME just REPLY TO THE FUCKING OLD ONE.

like how many times do we have to see....

what are you? Dom or sub (bangs head on laptop) JESUS FUCKING CHRIST WHY DON'T YOU LOOK THROUGH THE THREADS AND JUST SEE IF MAYBE THERE'S ALREADY ONE STARTED!

IS IT THEIR FIRST FUCKING DAY ON AN INTERNET FORUM - THEY ALL HAVE OLD POSTS TO SEARCH.... GRR!