Do you believe in soulmates?

[Guest]

Yes. . .

I do believe in soulmates, although perhaps not in the traditional sense. I believe that we can connect with someone so deeply that the bond will never be broken regardless of time or distance or circumstances. That's not to say that the relationship won't change.

I have a friend that I have known since I was five years old. We may go months, even years, without talking, but when we contact each other we can pick up as though we've talked everyday. I would consider her a soulmate.

Another close friend can sometimes express what is in my mind better than I can. We have been through a great deal together, good and bad, and we know that we are there for each other. I would consider her a soulmate.

As for the "romantic" version of soulmates. . .yes, I believe they exist as well, and that there can be more than one in our lifetime. I don't know that I can adequately describe my version of a romantic soulmate other than to say that someone who can reach my mind and heart, who can leave an indelible imprint there, and who can be a friend as well as a lover will have a place in my soul forever.

 

[cutie pie]

Re: Yes. . .

I do believe in soulmates, although perhaps not in the traditional sense. I believe that we can connect with someone so deeply that the bond will never be broken regardless of time or distance or circumstances. That's not to say that the relationship won't change.

I have a friend that I have known since I was five years old. We may go months, even years, without talking, but when we contact each other we can pick up as though we've talked everyday. I would consider her a soulmate.

Another close friend can sometimes express what is in my mind better than I can. We have been through a great deal together, good and bad, and we know that we are there for each other. I would consider her a soulmate.

As for the "romantic" version of soulmates. . .yes, I believe they exist as well, and that there can be more than one in our lifetime. I don't know that I can adequately describe my version of a romantic soulmate other than to say that someone who can reach my mind and heart, who can leave an indelible imprint there, and who can be a friend as well as a lover will have a place in my soul forever.

*sigh* this was mine. . .

 

[erosman]

Re: Re: Re: I believe in Soulmates

Solitude, erosman, is about being with yourself and you have to love yourself - or at least be fairly fond of yourself, for that to be comfortable.

That's a big task for all of us - remember the Shit or a Shit thread?

Taking your place, only your place and nothing more than you place. Being neither a shit or shit - but the person you are.

GeG, soul= person for me.

freescorfr, LOL, I stand corrected. I love your posts. I think the hives I get from solitude, are more representive of a need/want for connection. The incessant conversation inside my head relies on the context of relationship to give me compass. Were I left alone, I would undoubtedly go careening off to some unfortunate demise. People...love...connection allow the real me to feel the satisfaction of breathing.

 

[Dillinger]

" Do you believe in soulmates?"

Yes.

"Do you believe that there is only ONE person out there just for you?"

No.

This is not a contridiction. Why is the idea that there might be more than one person who could be a soulmate so hard for people to believe.

I think it has much to do with our societies mores and customs. The culture we have been raised in.

We limit ourselves so much that we damage our souls. Its really sad, actually.

I say this over and over - the more you love, the more you are capable of loving.

There are people out there who connect with us in deep, fundamental ways. Soul. Not just one - who knows how many.

"... have you met him or her?"

Yes... more than once.

 

[kotori]

At the risk of sounding repetetive, I agree with Dill once again.

We're all looking to connect with another person--I think we make accommodations when we find someone we like, because there is no "perfect" match. There couldn't be, because we change and our needs change, and the other person may or may not change in the same way.

Sometimes the accommodations can be altered, sometimes not--and then we move on.

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Re: Yes. . .

*sigh* this was mine. . .

Isnt it ironic that of all the things I wanted to say, I found them right here in your post sis??

 

[cutie pie]

Re: Yes. . .

Isnt it ironic that of all the things I wanted to say, I found them right here in your post sis??

Ya know what they say. . .great minds think alike!

but let's not hijack this thread!

 

[Luvinit]

I don't know if I would call it a soulmate. To me, that term connotates the ability to read one's mind and almost become a part of him. Instead, I like to think there are certain personalities that are extremely compatible with like personalities. Or maybe it's more like two pieces of a puzzle, distinct in their shapes, yet they fit together perfectly and compliment one another. This is what I've found in my husband. We're really opposites. He's kind of shy, whereas I'm more outgoing (read: slutty). He can read technical manuals with interest, while I find them excrutiatingly boring. He likes to golf. I like to ride horses. He likes dogs. I like cats. Yet, with all that, we're perfect for each other. He's been the man for me for almost 18 years and I don't see how anything could change that. Honestly, we're perfect for each other. I can't believe how lucky I am to have found him.

 

[heterotic]

I'll echo dillinger again

"It is impossible for a man to love his wife wholeheartedly without loving all women somewhat. I suppose that the converse must be true of women." - Heinlein.

 

[shynsexy]

do i believe in soulmates?

not anymore

 

[SXCRgirl]

Good for you Luvinit! It sounds like you've found the right person for you. Maybe soulmate isn't the right word, but whatever it is, you've found it! Goes to show that there isn't a *perfect* person, just perfect for you.

I don't know if I would call it a soulmate. To me, that term connotates the ability to read one's mind and almost become a part of him. Instead, I like to think there are certain personalities that are extremely compatible with like personalities. Or maybe it's more like two pieces of a puzzle, distinct in their shapes, yet they fit together perfectly and compliment one another. This is what I've found in my husband. We're really opposites. He's kind of shy, whereas I'm more outgoing (read: slutty). He can read technical manuals with interest, while I find them excrutiatingly boring. He likes to golf. I like to ride horses. He likes dogs. I like cats. Yet, with all that, we're perfect for each other. He's been the man for me for almost 18 years and I don't see how anything could change that. Honestly, we're perfect for each other. I can't believe how lucky I am to have found him.

 

[SXCRgirl]

I agree wholeheartedly. Change is inevitable. Thank you for your thoughts kotori.

There couldn't be, because we change and our needs change, and the other person may or may not change in the same way.

Sometimes the accommodations can be altered, sometimes not--and then we move on.

 

[SXCRgirl]

Okay, I will admit, I have always thought that there is ONE person out there for me. I will also concede that this has been ingrained in me by my parents, society, my friends, Hollywood (well, there's my first mistake!). So, for the most part, I have been searching for the ONE. Well, I thought I found him and things didn't work out.

After a while, I realized that ... I've made connections in my life with people that know me extremely well. I've made the conclusion that the term *soulmate* doesn't necessarily mean a romantic connection.

I guess that's what I get for letting Hollywood glamorize the meaning of love.

" Do you believe in soulmates?"

Yes.

"Do you believe that there is only ONE person out there just for you?"

No.

This is not a contridiction. Why is the idea that there might be more than one person who could be a soulmate so hard for people to believe.

I think it has much to do with our societies mores and customs. The culture we have been raised in.

We limit ourselves so much that we damage our souls. Its really sad, actually.

I say this over and over - the more you love, the more you are capable of loving.

There are people out there who connect with us in deep, fundamental ways. Soul. Not just one - who knows how many.

"... have you met him or her?"

Yes... more than once.

 

[SXCRgirl]

So is it enough for you to be in her life in this limited capacity? Doesn't this drive you insane? Doesn't this limit your capability to manage both relationships?

I agree that it's better to be alone than to settle for *second best*. The other way just hurts too much.

Yes I do. I have found her, yet sometimes I feel I've found her too late. Is "soulmate" the right word, I have no idea. But she understands me and I understand her. We both waited to find the right "someone" and allowed ourselves to get into seperate relationships. Will we end them and be together? I don't know. But I do believe there is that special someone. Sometimes maybe its better to be alone than to settle for "second best".

 

[SXCRgirl]

Thank you for all your responses! It helps me to re-evaluate my own thinking about this topic. The food for thought has given me something to think about, until the next time.

 

[Sateema Lunasi]

I do believe in soulmates, but like a few others who have replied, I don't believe theire is only one out there and the term "soulmate" seems to imply that there is only one and that you must be with that person for eternity.

I think a "soulmate" is a person who connects with you spiritually and understands you beyond all the superficial crap we do. They understand you completely and they accept the bad with the good.

Best friend is a good term too, but it kind of goes beyond that.

My fiance is my soul mate. He understands the very soul and core of me, of who and what I am and he would never ask me to change what I am. I can tell him ANYTHING. There is no judgement, jealousy or ego. If I lost him, half my soul would be gone. It goes beyond all the surface stuff that we show in our day to day lives. So, he is my "soulmate", my lover, my husband, best friend, brother, father, confidante and therapist.

 

[lobito]

YES! I do beleive in Soulmates, but I don't believe that there is only one for each person. I think there are a few out there, and IF we come across one, then yes we are EXTREMELY lucky.

My Wife and I both feel that each other are (one of) our soulmates, we've been saying it for 2 years now.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I believe there are people out there who we recognize and bond with on a deeper than normal level. Those are soulmates. I don't think there's a limit to the # of people like that who enter your life. I think believing there is only one out there is limiting yourself needlessly, and you're probably missing out on some pretty wonderful experiences.