Do ya think that a man really cares if a woman fakes an orgasm??

[FlamingoBlue]

Well, do ya?? I remember that great scene in "When Harry meets Sally", at Katz's Delicatessan in NYC, when Sally simulates an orgasm while the rest of the patrons look on in amazement until she's done. After a few moments of silence a lady says, "I'll have what she's having".

I hesitate to be so cynical, but I frankly believe that unless a man is truly caring of a woman's feelings, he is more likely to be concerned more with himself. Ergo the phrase, Slam, Bam, Thank you Mam... without any bam for the woman or even a thank you.

It has been years since I have made love to anyone other than dr. blue so I can't speak to the current crop of male "lovers". But, since members who come to this site are so open, maybe you can bring me up to speed as to the current attitude on this topic.

Btw, after reading about the Sybian, a man would seem almost superfluous based on the endorsements that I read. So too would a woman, based on the male version of the Sybian.


blue

 

[lobito]

Wasn't the sybian invented by a guy? Does that tell you anything about THAT guy? That maybe he's feeling inadequate, so he has to invent something to make HIS woman, if not many more, sexually happy.

Don't get me wrong, I know that there are men out there that don't really give a shit about whether or not the woman actually has an orgasm too. But there are always going to be those of us who do, and even a few who have a policy of making sure that SHE has an orgasm, long before it's my turn.

I don't want her faking, becasue if I somehow found out that she was, then I would feel she wasnt' being honest to me.

 

[Merelan]

Blue, you know I love ya right? But do you honestly think any guy here is crazy enough to admit they don't give a rip?
On the other hand, the men here, most of them, are not the normal run of the hill men. Should that be run of the bed? Anyways. I think in the most part men would like their woman content, but they have no idea how to go about doing it, and god forbid they talk about it. That's like asking for directions.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Based on practical experience, yes a man really cares when a woman fakes an orgasm. To a man, a female orgasm is the cementing of the fact that he is a true master in bed. If he can get his woman, who are notoriously difficult, to orgasm, then he is a stud. If a man were to find out that his partner wasn't orgasming after all and was just faking it, then comes the thoughts of, "Am I good enough? If she's been faking it all this time, then does she really want me to fuck her, or does she just want me to get off so she can watch Letterman?" A woman's orgasm is linked to the ego in most men.

There are some guys of the wham, bam, thank you ma'am variety. I've found these guys to be of the variety to penetrate, cum, roll off and watch baseball long before the woman could start her performance so a faked orgasm is wasted on them. They wouldn't understand and would probably just tell her to shut up, McGuire is retiring.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I care a lot - I don't want a woman to ever feel she has to fake an orgasm for me. I want the real thing; it is a very important part of sex for me when a woman has an orgasm - extremely sexy.

In porn videos, I can usually tell the women that cum and those that fake it - very few are good actors, and very few actually cum. My fave vids are the ones where either she was an excellent actor, or she actually cums. Watching a woman cum is probably about the most exciting thing I have ever seen, and I really get off on the fact that the woman has that much pleasure - so yes, it is very important to me that it not be faked.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Btw, after reading about the Sybian, a man would seem almost superfluous based on the endorsements that I read. So too would a woman, based on the male version of the Sybian.

Having heard everybody talk about the Sybian I went to look at it online. Interesting. That and the Venus seem to be an improvement in men/women substitutes - but I doubt they could ever be a replacement.

There is a hell of a difference between the experience you would get from the Venus/Sybian and what you would get from a real live person. I can imagine there may be some people over whom I might prefer the Venus due to their ineptness/inhibitions about making love, but it still wouldn't be the same as having a real live person. Come to think of it, even if a woman just laid there passively and still, I think the real live woman would be preferable - at least until we completed the sex.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I'd care.

I'd want to know her true feelings.

I've said before I learn from trial and error, so if she faked it and i thought i did a good job.... I'm going to do that same thing again. So would there truly be a point for fakeing it?
Actualy I think i would be thinking more of her then myself at the time. (don't know for sure though yet )

 

[Styphon]

I'm a man, and I've faked them just to keep my partner happy, so, basically, I don't care if she fakes them, too. It may just be a tactful way to conclude sex


Styphon

 

[nasty]

I'm with STG and FOW, I wouldn't want my woman to fake it. It would make me feel self-conscience about myself. Like I'm not self-conscience enough about certain things.

 

[lobito]

ah, that's a shitty attitude to have about yourself nasty!

 

[nasty]

Whatever you say, Shit for brains. Come, now. I'm trying to be good about that. Don't want to upset Mr. Unregistered. WHATEVER!!!!!!

 

[lobito]

Hey! At least I'm willing to show just where my brains are located, (av).

 

[Savage Kitten]

I care a lot - I don't want a woman to ever feel she has to fake an orgasm for me. I want the real thing; it is a very important part of sex for me when a woman has an orgasm - extremely sexy.

That's what you say, but do you really mean it? I mean, come one... won't your pride and your ego be bruised if she didn't have one.. or even a few? When I was married there were times that I was just too freakin tired to really get into the act. I knew that if he "thought" I had an orgasm that he would get done sooner. There were also times that he just didn't pay enough attention to me, or to details, to get me to the point of orgasm... so.. rather than hurt his feelings or bruise his manly ego.. I let him think he did the job. Ok Ok, so.. boo is me... I was hurting myself more than him.

Now that I am single, there is nothing more that gets on my nerves than a man asking me "Have you cum yet??" "How many times have you cum??" "Are you gonna cum again??"

I mean, give me a fuckin break already! If the stream of juices running between your buttocks isn't clue enough then the ear shattering screams outta do it... right?

Now, I am old enough, and wise enough, and know my body well enough that.... I AM gonna get MINE!

 

[nasty]

So, Kitten...

Wanna have an orgasm?

 

[Lasz]

IT depends on the relationship, and how much you respect the woman. One night stands, who cares!!!! A true relationship, it has to be one of the most important things.

 

[lobito]

So SK, is that to say, that men are damned if they tell the truth? Because it sounds that if we say we WANT the woman to have a REAL orgasm, then we might be lying.

Just looking for clarification.

 

[pabloback]

only one woman has ever faked one with me and i caught her
you may be able to go through the motions but a woman cannot fake the physical changes to her body during orgasm eg:flushing , temperature change etc
i do not like a woman faking it , it is dishonest
and from the womans point of view it is stupid ........if a man believes he has satisfied you , he wont try any harder next time DOH!!!

 

[Guest]

Did you ever see that party game where one person is blindfolded and feeding another person? The idea is to make a big mess, and this is supposedly really funny.

In real life, we expect other people to feed themselves. Similarly, I don't consider myself responsible for a woman's orgasm. It never works for me to try and guess what a woman wants. If she doesn't like what's on the menu, she can talk to the chef--or go to a different restaurant.

 

[Savage Kitten]

Clarification is the name of the game, right?

So SK, is that to say, that men are damned if they tell the truth? Because it sounds that if we say we WANT the woman to have a REAL orgasm, then we might be lying.

Just looking for clarification.

no no nooooo.. of course men want women to have orgasms. they just don't want to face the possibility that they may not give us one, or more than one, each and every time. sometimes it's easier to believe a lie than it is the truth.

 

[celiaKitten]

I'm guilty of faking. I admit it!! But there was only so many times I was going to attempt to beat a very simple message into my ex's head...

'Foreplay!' I kept telling him .. even with extensive coaching - he never quite wanted to deal with the hassle - it just aggrivated him.

So after awhile, I just faked - got it overwith, and went back to sleep. If I hadn't faked, then I would have been stuck with him apoligizing and getting all pissed off.

Now if I was with someone that actually listened to my suggestions .. no I wouldn't fake it. I wouldn't have to.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

<<<<<<Styphon - I'm a man, and I've faked them just to keep my partner happy,>>>>>>


What do you do?........ spit when she's not looking. Tell me how a man fakes it.... please... anyone......

Personaly the last 15 years with my man I never have faked it........ before that yes I have (two occasions from memory) if my pointing the way a bit has not worked... but then talked later about it and showed them what it takes to make it happen..........

I get tired of women that say, "he never makes me come." Well Honey.... show him how...... give him a few clues on what works for you.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Some very interesting replies here....

Especially Mr. Unregistered. Let's take up a collection and buy his women a sybian.

blue

 

[nasty]

I'm with the kitty's

"Got to preheat the oven before you baked the turkey."

 

[Savage Kitten]

Re: I'm with the kitty's

"Got to preheat the oven before you baked the turkey."

How abt b4 you stuff the turkey?? hehehe (i just luv innuendos)

 

[lobito]

Re: Clarification is the name of the game, right?

no no nooooo.. of course men want women to have orgasms. they just don't want to face the possibility that they may not give us one, or more than one, each and every time. sometimes it's easier to believe a lie than it is the truth.

I must be missing something then, because it seems you are saying ALL MEN, when it is NOT all men that are the way you say.

They referring to ALL men. I can only say you haven't been wtih the right men that truely do care if they please YOU.

(Not intending to start a war)