QQ Do ladies enjoy being edged to an orgasm?

[Recooter]

This is a two-part question.

I so enjoy making a woman cum without any reciprocation, but I’m very curious to know if women also find the same pleasure in this type of sexual act. I would like to understand how women would prefer to be edged to a great orgasm if in fact, they enjoy it all.

Please try to refrain from the stupid comments because it is a serious question that I would like input on.



1. Do women enjoy being edged to an orgasm?

2. If so, how would you recommend a man perform it?

 

[girlsmiley]

Please try to refrain from the stupid comments because it is a serious question that I would like input on.

1. No

2. No

 

[Recooter]

1. No

2. No

I appreciate your honest reply

 

[SalviaDivinorum]

1. Do women enjoy being edged to an orgasm?

2. If so, how would you recommend a man perform it?

IMO:
1. Edging is a male thing. Women prefer multiples.

2. N/a

 

[Recooter]

IMO:
1. Edging is a male thing. Women prefer multiples.

2. N/a

I appreciate your comments, but have you ever been edged to orgasm by your partner?

 

[SalviaDivinorum]

I appreciate your comments, but have you ever been edged to orgasm by your partner?

Yeah and I got bored.

 

[JohnnySavage]

I really expected Tits McGhee to chime in. This thread is right in her wheelhouse.

 

[ClitlickerMaster]

IMO:
1. Edging is a male thing. Women prefer multiples.

2. N/a

Edging is most certainly not (just) a male thing, nor do all women “prefer multiples”. It’s more complicated than that. Humans are not logical, binary machines where they are either a 1 or a 0 and everything else follows from that. Thank goodness.

 

[FataMorgana]

This is a two-part question.

I so enjoy making a woman cum without any reciprocation, but I’m very curious to know if women also find the same pleasure in this type of sexual act. I would like to understand how women would prefer to be edged to a great orgasm if in fact, they enjoy it all.

Please try to refrain from the stupid comments because it is a serious question that I would like input on.



1. Do women enjoy being edged to an orgasm?

2. If so, how would you recommend a man perform it?

Making stupid comments makes me cum harder.

1. I'm only into deckle edging.
2. Get a 19th century press and high quality paper.

 

[curvy_carmen]

This is a two-part question.

I so enjoy making a woman cum without any reciprocation, but I’m very curious to know if women also find the same pleasure in this type of sexual act. I would like to understand how women would prefer to be edged to a great orgasm if in fact, they enjoy it all.

Please try to refrain from the stupid comments because it is a serious question that I would like input on.



1. Do women enjoy being edged to an orgasm?

2. If so, how would you recommend a man perform it?

1. Without speaking for all women, I particularly love to edge to an orgasm - anticipation usually outcomes to an amazing release.

2. I really enjoy oral and toys so, teasing that way until I can't handle the buildup anymore is a great way for an earth-shattering orgasm. A slow beginning to end with a powerful finish, is fun for me. I do enjoy, making myself cum over and over while I'm still sensitive.

 

[MaggieTheUnicorn]

Some of the comments in here are clearly trolling.

1. Do women enjoy intense, heightened orgasms? Of course we do! I love edging, almost more than orgasm. I can do it for hours.

2. This is personal preference, but I'd like to let my partner decide how they would like me to orgasm for them, so essentially, whatever fits the current mood. There isn't one set way to edge.

 

[Rob_Royale]

My wife who is reading over my shoulder gives it a resounding no unless she is masturbating. During sex, if her orgasm is building, things as simple as a change of angle can kill it. During masturbation, she can control that.

 

[JessGabriel]

I do enjoy being edged to vaginal orgasms with fingers or toys. I rarely come from someone else stimulating my clit, but a mouth on me and a couple of fingers lightly tickling inside drives me insane and makes me crazy in the best way, because the vaginal orgasm is just out of reach. All that said, vaginal orgasms are pretty easy for me. I can see how many women would hate being edged there. Clitoral edging is dangerous if I'm just using my fingers because it can ruin the orgasm, but edging with a vibrator can push me into the huge multiples. For that reason, I can see how many women would hate being edged there also. I think it will just depend on your partner. Not sure if this was helpful at all.

 

[SilentSometimes]

1. Yes, some of us do

2. You have to talk to them about it because every woman is different. For me, edging is fun for a while be I hate orgasm denial so I’ll just get annoyed and irritated with the process if I don’t know when I get to cum or if you keep ruining my orgasms without me knowing what the game is today.

 

[mysticunicorn_19]

This is a two-part question.

I so enjoy making a woman cum without any reciprocation, but I’m very curious to know if women also find the same pleasure in this type of sexual act. I would like to understand how women would prefer to be edged to a great orgasm if in fact, they enjoy it all.

Please try to refrain from the stupid comments because it is a serious question that I would like input on.



1. Do women enjoy being edged to an orgasm?

2. If so, how would you recommend a man perform it?

1. YESS!! Well at least for me edging is amazing. I often edge myself while masturbating and my orgasms are way more intense and pleasurable.
2. I would think the use of toys like vibrators would be helpful. It could be turned off leaving you hanging. That being said oral and fingering would be a good option too. I've never been edged by anyone else before so I'm sorry if I'm missing any other techniques.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

1. I hate it. And I’ve hated when men have thought it was a good idea to try for me even though I have told them it essentially kills any chance of me climaxing. I’m glad it works for others, but it’s a no from me. (I didn’t stick with any of the men who don’t listen and assume they know my body better than I do.)
2. Listen to the specific woman you’re trying to bring to orgasm. Do it the way that works for her or explore with her. There’s no one right way.

 

[Saint_Ann]

Who's got that kinda time?

 

[FL30]

This is a two-part question.

I so enjoy making a woman cum without any reciprocation, but I’m very curious to know if women also find the same pleasure in this type of sexual act. I would like to understand how women would prefer to be edged to a great orgasm if in fact, they enjoy it all.

Please try to refrain from the stupid comments because it is a serious question that I would like input on.



1. Do women enjoy being edged to an orgasm?

2. If so, how would you recommend a man perform it?

Still a stupid question because it depends on the individual. It's NOT a group thing. Everyone is different. Different people like different things.

The correct questions would be:

1. Do YOU enjoy being edged to orgasm?

2. How would YOU recommend your partner perform it?

 

[ImiGirrst]

This is a two-part question.

I so enjoy making a woman cum without any reciprocation, but I’m very curious to know if women also find the same pleasure in this type of sexual act. I would like to understand how women would prefer to be edged to a great orgasm if in fact, they enjoy it all.

Please try to refrain from the stupid comments because it is a serious question that I would like input on.

1. Do women enjoy being edged to an orgasm?

2. If so, how would you recommend a man perform it?

First off, I appreciate you actually taking the time to ask. Not a lot of people do. And it's important as you can tell from the varied responses.
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Second, I find it interesting that you don't need reciprocation. I have a partner who I think is like that - and I say I think, because I have a hard time believing that he gets true satisfaction from getting me off. Because it takes a lot of time (more on that below). I would like to know more from you about why you say that - why you enjoy it, why it's fulfilling. It might help me understand, and maybe communicate with my partner better. Trust what he is telling me (I'm processing a divorce from my college sweetheart, who I didn't understand was abusive until after he was gone - and a lot of people were shocked and didn't see it either).
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Okay on to your questions
1. no

Question 1.A should be Why don't you?I don't really but as a menopausal woman, I'm kind of forced into it. As several other women have mentioned, we are wired that if finally get on the edge of a big O, we better take it, because it is fickle as hell. Because if it flees - we are NOT getting it back. And that is frustrating as hell. And it's also possible to get on the edge...and overshoot - and instead of having a big one - you get just this little blip. Also frustrating -
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And then if you really start to edge - your clit becomes irritated, sore to the touch, its either not sensitive at all or too sensitive. So I guess i could say that it is like a man's O, because if you have to back completely away, not touch your cock at all, or let it deflate and then coax it back to life - then maybe. But my limited partners have always expected that they can immediately start rubbing or eating - and for me, it's like get the fuck away. I'm done.
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Then Question 1.A.1 should be What are the details of what happens that makes you not like like it?
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For me, my libido has only returned to be about 5 weeks ago. So, when you don't have a desire to have sex, you have to keep in mind that you can have a payoff. And that's what makes you want to be intimate with your partner. If you don't get the payoff, why bother? Then you're potentially just a hole for him to get off on. That's not what you're talking about @Recooter, but that's what it becomes. That's what @Saint_Ann's comment about who has time? is about (at least that's my take). If you don't get a payoff and you're not just functioning as a hole, then nobody is satisfied. And I say this as a woman who's partner did go down on her A LOT, but for him, I could see in his eyes, it was a means to an end. It was what he had to do to 1) get me wet enough and 2) pay the fee to get off in me. That's not good for anyone.
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Another coupe of aspects of what happens is that, again, a menopausal woman - our bodies are changing. Now for me, the frustrating part is that I used to masturbate daily, sometimes twice. Good way to start the day, helped me to sleep at night. I knew my body and I knew what felt good. At the very least, I could guarantee myself a C O.
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Now? Who the fuck knows? I just finally got off yesterday afternoon after trying for 5 days to get an O. That is frustrating as hell. And I know it's harder for me because I'm on pain killers. What helps me function for my nerve disorders is indiscriminate in which nerves it stops working. And that includes my clit.
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Now, other posters have been far briefer than me - but I'm wordy as fuck. But I suspect they are akin to me when they said no and/or you have to communicate with your partner.
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Now I would also say question 2.A should be Are you aware that I truly just like playing around? Because if you just like watching a woman writhe with pleasure, if you like to take your time, draw things out, work on tapping into so many of your partner's sensations...then that could be a real gift for someone like me. Because then I wouldn't have to feel guilty about the amount of time it would take to get me to my all elusive O. I could stop wondering if my partner was expecting me to O by now, and I'm not. The PRESSURE COULD BE OFF!!! Because pressure to perform is definitely one way that O take off for either sexes. And then instead of both of us being frustrated because an O was not forthcoming, we both could find and explore different ways of being together that have a different kind of intimacy and fulfillment.
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AND THOSE are the kinds of environments where big Os sneak up and happen. And I know if you were my partner, I would want you to know all of this - and hopefully that would make you realize, you take the money and run.
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Because in my mind, this kind of situation/environment/circumstance is a lot like edging in description. And if I can get there - then it will feel big, and I will keep going and going and going, especially if I have a partner who is observant about what makes me react. I have always wanted to be timed, but it's difficult to hit a timer when you're focused on making your partner cum more.
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I think I have multiple orgasms, but I'm not sure - definition of orgasm is elusive. Some places define male orgasms on average of 10 second, female 15-20. If that's the case, definitely multi orgamasmic. Other say a woman goes over an edge and then rides a wave. And that's a single orgasm. Others talk define it as the involuntary contraction of muscles and each series of those. In men, it's that contraction that sends the sperm into the prostrate and then the seminal fluid ejaculating. For women, each series of vaginal contractions indicates an orgasm.
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Can you tell I've been researching this? I've even gone so far as to look at the scholarly papers. (Oh, have I mentioned I'm a nerd?) I'm not quite sure why it's so important to me to know what I've actually experienced, but it is. For most of my life, I've had two consistent lovers, so we discovered a lot together. The up side was they knew me pretty well. The down side was that the introduction of ideas was limited.
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So with my divorce, and having new partners, I'm wondering what I've actually been experiencing, compared to what other people talk about. For example, a month or so ago, I had a new lover, who said "You're milking me..." Well, that was something very new and different. I asked if that was good - and it was mixed for him, because the feeling was fantastic, but it also meant it excited him so much, it made him cum faster. No one had every told me that before - was it something that my previous lovers took for granted because it always was? And upon research, I found out that was an indicator of a vaginal orgasm. Huh? Can I chasing the vaginal orgasm because I've been having them all along? Because i know when I have a clitoral orgasm, it turns everything on inside of me - and it feels very different from when I don't have a clitoral one. Is that why I am so demanding of wanting a cock after a clitoral O because I want to expand my vaginal O? (And lemme tell you, a cock is so much better than fingers or a toy at that point - it's the way nature intended, according to my secondary lover).
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Anyway, anyone who has followed me on other threads, know I'm good for these kind of philosophical tomes at least 10% of the time on my posts. Sex just facsinates me, and I like learning about what other people experience because it opens up experiences to me. So I try to return the favor, especially for someone who honestly wants to please their partner.
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I hope someone gets something out of my stream of conscience, procrastination post.

 

[spankableBelle]

This is a two-part question.

I so enjoy making a woman cum without any reciprocation, but I’m very curious to know if women also find the same pleasure in this type of sexual act. I would like to understand how women would prefer to be edged to a great orgasm if in fact, they enjoy it all.

Please try to refrain from the stupid comments because it is a serious question that I would like input on.



1. Do women enjoy being edged to an orgasm?

2. If so, how would you recommend a man perform it?

1. Yes. At least, I do.

2. The easiest way, for me, a Hitachi wand or some other vibrating toy. If it's just fingers, it's going to take quite a bit of mental stimulation as well.

But again, that's me.

 

[bnkd]

Make me cum, give me a second to catch my breath & then repeat.
Do this for at least an hour
‍♀

Love working around the sensitivity after the first cum. Once that's complete the 2nd is so powerful

 

[CindyCim]

I enjoy the egging-to-second-orgasm after penetrative sex.

 

[Islander55]

I really have never tried edging as it has no appeal to me. Now if I anticipate getting laid in the near future, I will refrain from doing anything so that the tension of anticipation can build. I do not touch myself so would not consider this edging. I am not one of those women who are multi orgasmic but still forcing myself to wait does make for a more intense orgasm. I will add that once I get to a certain point, I have no will or desire to slow things down. Once it starts building, then I am just along for the ride. This is true whether I am by myself or with a partner. With a partner this orgasmic tendency can lead to some risky behavior but that is a whole other topic.

 

[Recooter]

First off, I appreciate you actually taking the time to ask. Not a lot of people do. And it's important as you can tell from the varied responses.
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Second, I find it interesting that you don't need reciprocation. I have a partner who I think is like that - and I say I think, because I have a hard time believing that he gets true satisfaction from getting me off. Because it takes a lot of time (more on that below). I would like to know more from you about why you say that - why you enjoy it, why it's fulfilling. It might help me understand, and maybe communicate with my partner better. Trust what he is telling me (I'm processing a divorce from my college sweetheart, who I didn't understand was abusive until after he was gone - and a lot of people were shocked and didn't see it either).
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Okay on to your questions
1. no

Question 1.A should be Why don't you?I don't really but as a menopausal woman, I'm kind of forced into it. As several other women have mentioned, we are wired that if finally get on the edge of a big O, we better take it, because it is fickle as hell. Because if it flees - we are NOT getting it back. And that is frustrating as hell. And it's also possible to get on the edge...and overshoot - and instead of having a big one - you get just this little blip. Also frustrating -
.
And then if you really start to edge - your clit becomes irritated, sore to the touch, its either not sensitive at all or too sensitive. So I guess i could say that it is like a man's O, because if you have to back completely away, not touch your cock at all, or let it deflate and then coax it back to life - then maybe. But my limited partners have always expected that they can immediately start rubbing or eating - and for me, it's like get the fuck away. I'm done.
.
Then Question 1.A.1 should be What are the details of what happens that makes you not like like it?
.
For me, my libido has only returned to be about 5 weeks ago. So, when you don't have a desire to have sex, you have to keep in mind that you can have a payoff. And that's what makes you want to be intimate with your partner. If you don't get the payoff, why bother? Then you're potentially just a hole for him to get off on. That's not what you're talking about @Recooter, but that's what it becomes. That's what @Saint_Ann's comment about who has time? is about (at least that's my take). If you don't get a payoff and you're not just functioning as a hole, then nobody is satisfied. And I say this as a woman who's partner did go down on her A LOT, but for him, I could see in his eyes, it was a means to an end. It was what he had to do to 1) get me wet enough and 2) pay the fee to get off in me. That's not good for anyone.
.
Another coupe of aspects of what happens is that, again, a menopausal woman - our bodies are changing. Now for me, the frustrating part is that I used to masturbate daily, sometimes twice. Good way to start the day, helped me to sleep at night. I knew my body and I knew what felt good. At the very least, I could guarantee myself a C O.
.
Now? Who the fuck knows? I just finally got off yesterday afternoon after trying for 5 days to get an O. That is frustrating as hell. And I know it's harder for me because I'm on pain killers. What helps me function for my nerve disorders is indiscriminate in which nerves it stops working. And that includes my clit.
.
Now, other posters have been far briefer than me - but I'm wordy as fuck. But I suspect they are akin to me when they said no and/or you have to communicate with your partner.
.
Now I would also say question 2.A should be Are you aware that I truly just like playing around? Because if you just like watching a woman writhe with pleasure, if you like to take your time, draw things out, work on tapping into so many of your partner's sensations...then that could be a real gift for someone like me. Because then I wouldn't have to feel guilty about the amount of time it would take to get me to my all elusive O. I could stop wondering if my partner was expecting me to O by now, and I'm not. The PRESSURE COULD BE OFF!!! Because pressure to perform is definitely one way that O take off for either sexes. And then instead of both of us being frustrated because an O was not forthcoming, we both could find and explore different ways of being together that have a different kind of intimacy and fulfillment.
.
AND THOSE are the kinds of environments where big Os sneak up and happen. And I know if you were my partner, I would want you to know all of this - and hopefully that would make you realize, you take the money and run.
.
Because in my mind, this kind of situation/environment/circumstance is a lot like edging in description. And if I can get there - then it will feel big, and I will keep going and going and going, especially if I have a partner who is observant about what makes me react. I have always wanted to be timed, but it's difficult to hit a timer when you're focused on making your partner cum more.
.
I think I have multiple orgasms, but I'm not sure - definition of orgasm is elusive. Some places define male orgasms on average of 10 second, female 15-20. If that's the case, definitely multi orgamasmic. Other say a woman goes over an edge and then rides a wave. And that's a single orgasm. Others talk define it as the involuntary contraction of muscles and each series of those. In men, it's that contraction that sends the sperm into the prostrate and then the seminal fluid ejaculating. For women, each series of vaginal contractions indicates an orgasm.
.
Can you tell I've been researching this? I've even gone so far as to look at the scholarly papers. (Oh, have I mentioned I'm a nerd?) I'm not quite sure why it's so important to me to know what I've actually experienced, but it is. For most of my life, I've had two consistent lovers, so we discovered a lot together. The up side was they knew me pretty well. The down side was that the introduction of ideas was limited.
.
So with my divorce, and having new partners, I'm wondering what I've actually been experiencing, compared to what other people talk about. For example, a month or so ago, I had a new lover, who said "You're milking me..." Well, that was something very new and different. I asked if that was good - and it was mixed for him, because the feeling was fantastic, but it also meant it excited him so much, it made him cum faster. No one had every told me that before - was it something that my previous lovers took for granted because it always was? And upon research, I found out that was an indicator of a vaginal orgasm. Huh? Can I chasing the vaginal orgasm because I've been having them all along? Because i know when I have a clitoral orgasm, it turns everything on inside of me - and it feels very different from when I don't have a clitoral one. Is that why I am so demanding of wanting a cock after a clitoral O because I want to expand my vaginal O? (And lemme tell you, a cock is so much better than fingers or a toy at that point - it's the way nature intended, according to my secondary lover).
.
Anyway, anyone who has followed me on other threads, know I'm good for these kind of philosophical tomes at least 10% of the time on my posts. Sex just facsinates me, and I like learning about what other people experience because it opens up experiences to me. So I try to return the favor, especially for someone who honestly wants to please their partner.
.
I hope someone gets something out of my stream of conscience, procrastination post.

I do enjoy going down on a woman without reciprocation.

I believe there are multiple reasons why.

I think receiving oral sex is incredible, and if your partner is intune with your body, it can actually be just as exhausting to receive as it is to give it. So sometimes after I receive oral sex, I just want to relax. So I offer my partner the same treat

I also love to watch a woman orgasm. I find it so beautiful

 

[ImiGirrst]

Love working around the sensitivity after the first cum. Once that's complete the 2nd is so powerful

Really? Can you explain this a bit? Because I've always told my partners that I'd had enough - and that I get overstimulated. But my long time partner is convinced I have a whole lot more in there - and your comment would certainly support his supposition. But no means no - so, my partners have backed off when I've said I had enough.
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So the question is what to * I * need to know to break through this glass ceiling?