Do women love big cocks more?

[tim33]

Can women explain to me, is bigger generally better? What's the minimum size you need to be satisfied?
I am asking because since we started swinging my wife doesn't have sex with me (5 in) anymore, and the men she chooses always seem to be at least twice my size.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Tim, we'd all prefer our men to have a Ferrari to a Mini. In theory. But a Ferrari driven by an idiot who bounces it off parked cars is no fun compared to a skilfully driven mini.

Size is a lot more important than the guy attached to it.

And you're a fantasist. "...the men she chooses always seem to be at least twice my size"; yeah, cos the world is overflowing with 10" cocks.

 

[tim33]

Thank you,
I hope you meant to say "size is a lot less important than..."?
But what about men who have a big tool and can use it too? I guess they will always be preferred.

(She finds these 10 inch cocks on swingers and dating sites)

 

[tim33]

Tim, we'd all prefer our men to have a Ferrari to a Mini. In theory. But a Ferrari driven by an idiot who bounces it off parked cars is no fun compared to a skilfully driven mini.

Size is a lot more important than the guy attached to it.

And you're a fantasist. "...the men she chooses always seem to be at least twice my size"; yeah, cos the world is overflowing with 10" cocks.

Additionally, I am a fast cummer. She hates that too. And when swinging I have seen her being pounded by men for "hours".

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

And when swinging I have seen her being pounded by men for "hours".

Sure you have, Tim, sure you have.

 

[tim33]

Me, I am cumming after about 5 seconds, and they last at least 3 minutes. Very big difference.

 

[sixfoot4]

Sure you have, Tim, sure you have.

Lucy as you know men have special rulers and special clocks.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Lucy as you know men have special rulers and special clocks.

This is true. I get a lot of DMs here from men with 10" - I'm guessing that must be the lit average.

 

[tim33]

I don't want to say there are so many, but she is searching for the ones.

 

[sixfoot4]

This is true. I get a lot of DMs here from men with 10" - I'm guessing that must be the lit average.

Mine's 26". I wear it over my shoulder cos otherwise I tend to stand on the end.

 

[nowat41]

It's not all about the size.
It's all about the person and how he make love. Its all about how the man make you cum. You can make awoman cum again and again with your fingers and tongue.
If you ask me, I prefer normal sizes than large ones.

 

[tim33]

It's not all about the size.
It's all about the person and how he make love. Its all about how the man make you cum. You can make awoman cum again and again with your fingers and tongue.
If you ask me, I prefer normal sizes than large ones.

If you could choose between 2 men, both make love the same way, one big and one is small, which one would you choose?

 

[MileHighBlackDiamond]

If you could choose between 2 men, both make love the same way, one big and one is small, which one would you choose?

Some women do enjoy a larger cock, not all. No 2 guys make love the same way, just not a realistic question.

I am avg size, and my lady has many orgasms with me, like 20 to my 1. We are swingers as well, she has had sex with men all sizes, she always says it has how they use it, sometimes she'll say she expected more from the guy with a larger cock, but was disappointed as he had no technique. She doesn't care about his size, now she asks the wife/partner if he knows how to use it.

Struggle for me is in the lifestyle, condoms necessary, but I never cum with them on, I have tried so many. So, I can go for extended periods, which some women like, some don't, again, varying desires.

 

[nowat41]

If you could choose between 2 men, both make love the same way, one big and one is small, which one would you choose?

Well, That's not close to practical. But opposite will be.
Sizes will be same, but the way they love will be different. That's how practically it will be, right? I love some one worshiping me from toe to head.
Its never the actual intercourse that gives me chill, even if I do or don't climax.

 

[nowat41]

. No 2 guys make love the same way, just not a realistic question.

This was exactly my point. Two men can have same size, but they will never make love in same way!

 

[BongoGal]

Some do, some don't. Some do sometimes but not all the time. There is no preference that applies to all women.

 

[policywank]

A larger cock is different. More length does reach sensitive places deep inside a woman's vagina. More girth gives a sense of greater fullness and may stimulate the clitoral and labia area more. The extra sensations may be stimulating but may be uncomfortable depending on his technique and the woman's sensitivity. Beyond a certain size a bigger dick is harder to suck. And for many (most?) women sex is about more than just the vaginal penetration.

Size is one of many factors that are unique to each man so it is very difficult to make any kind of "all other things being equal" kind of comparison. But I agree that thinking of it that way does provide some insight. I find the whole big dick guy who doesn't know what he is doing comparison to a smaller guy who is a skilled lover to be trite. It avoids the question. It is like saying what you do with it is more important than size - for me that is an absolutely true statement, that doesn't answer the question being asked.

For vaginal sex I do prefer bigger if the guy knows what he is doing - large to extra large please. But I can still appreciate a smaller man as long as it isn't tiny. And there are times when oral or anal or whatever is more of a focus than vaginal penetration. Men tend to assume it is all about the fucking and for me that is not true.

It is also true that each experience and each man is different as are my appetites at different times. If I am in the mood to be fucked by a big dick I do not consider good oral to be a substitute. It is a bit like food. Steak and fish are qualitatively different. Saying that well prepared fish is better than overcooked steak is irrelevant. If I am at someone's house I will eat what is being served and enjoy it. But if I am at restaurant where I can have either I will have a preference. It won't always be the same thing. But if I order steak don't bring me fish and tell me it is the same or equivalent to what I ordered. It isn't.

 

[lil_jenni]

Some do, some don't. Some do sometimes but not all the time. There is no preference that applies to all women.

Exactly! For me, my preference is around average length and thick. Too long can hurt -- I'm on the smaller side myself, so I never had good experiences with long, at least for vaginal sex. Some other women love longer penises, however.

So, as to a more direct answer, for me bigger is not always better. In fact, it can be downright painful. But I know several women on here who might say, if all else is equal, then bigger would be better. And that is their preference, much like my preference is average length.

 

[haventdonethat]

My GF is tiny. Everywhere. She coined a pet name for my cock . . . "the big fella".
When I am PIV she cant help but move her hips and keeps up a chatter about how good it feels.
She has had many, many, many more orgasms from my fingers and tongue than she has had from my cock. It is something that we are comfortable with.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

This is true. I get a lot of DMs here from men with 10" - I'm guessing that must be the lit average.

Yeah this is really annoying to those of us with 9 inch cocks. Their lies steal our thunder!



(I'll see myself out)

 

[policywank]

This is true. I get a lot of DMs here from men with 10" - I'm guessing that must be the lit average.

I think they measure from their asshole, around their balls twice and then out to the tip

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I think they measure from their asshole, around their balls twice and then out to the tip

No... you just use a tailor's measuring tape and measure a spiral around the shaft. It's the long way to get to the same place.

Or you "accidentally" take the measure on the centimeter side and report it as inches.

 

[YesIamReal]

I have a friend who is (at least according to him) decidedly smaller. We were single at the same time and dated in the same crowd. I know from the grapevine that his self knowledge of his limitations made him learn, he he put it, "to overcompensate in other areas". And from the grapevine I know that his performance was appreciated.

And I know from female friends in my past that there is for many definitely such a thing as too big.

Thankfully I don't have the same issue though I am certainly no giant, and I will admit to working on overcompensating a bit myself, but I focus no only on good oral skills but even more on good mental skills.

Going to a sex club is going to be like comparing to porn! Those guys are there mostly because of just one thing.

Do the right thing to her MIND in advance and most of the big guys won't be able to compete.

I think you have bigger problems though. You are exposing your wife to a whole different world of options, ones where you don't seem to, or want to, compete. You had better find a way to give her things she cannot get elsewhere.

 

[Baldo_bearded]

No... you just use a tailor's measuring tape and measure a spiral around the shaft. It's the long way to get to the same place.

Or you "accidentally" take the measure on the centimeter side and report it as inches.


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Amateur.

All you reeeeeeeally have to do is forget the decimal.

 

[YesIamReal]

No... you just use a tailor's measuring tape and measure a spilar around the shaft. It's the long way to get to the same place.

Or you "accidentally" take the measuring on the centimeter side and report it as inches.


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I have heard of so many ways to measure.
I do know that foot size is definitely not very reliable indicator.

My body is like an upside down pyramid. I wear an S for bottoms, M for shirts, and an L or XL for hats. (Yes, ladies, in this case, bigger IS better). And if you look at my feet, it is a wonder I don't fall over.

But I have been described as "perfect" by some gf's, "big" by a few others, and have also heard the sympathetic "sure, it's a nice size".