Do women in their 40's sex drive increase or decrease?

[virgin_not]

Just curious or let's say Im bored..so here Iam creating new thread..at least to talk about!
My opinion is it increases due to increased confidence, experience and lessening of the fear of getting pregnant. Women have a period of time in their 20's and 30's when they are generally wiped out from raising children and taking care of a home and possibly even working full time too. By the time they are in their 40's, the kids are older and can manage themselves most of the time and don't require constant vigilence. She usually feels better about her body and can ask for what she wants sexually. I know that I am 43 and have never felt sexier - even in my early 20's - before having children. I know that I look great and I know that I am a good partner too. So, yes, I would definitely say desire increases.

 

[Katze]

It definitely increases! I'm more confident sexually, both in giving and receiving attention, and I don't feel the pressure to have a perfect body. I also don't feel the guilt and other inhibitions - I have embraced my inner bad girl!!!!

 

[done_got_old]

I think it depends on the woman. Most women who had zero drive before their 40's aren't going all of a sudden want sex.

At 40 most of my friends had relatively young children. My own son was only 10 when I turned 40. With women having children later, many have children at that active age.

 

[virgin_not]

Its true,depends.Its a sure thing that not all are increasing.Maybe most are!

 

[done_got_old]

Its true,depends.Its a sure thing that not all are increasing.Maybe most are!

I was tired a lot. I had a ten year old and I was back in school AGAIN! The only free time I had I spent it having sex!

 

[virgin_not]

I was tired a lot. I had a ten year old and I was back in school AGAIN! The only free time I had I spent it having sex!

When I was in my 20's not that interested in sex..all I know just lay on bed and fuck.. I just experienced all the techniques and foreplay and all kinky stuff when I was in my middle 30's

 

[alltherage]

I think I reached my peak around 37. Couldn't get enough. I still have a strong drive but not quite as I was and in fact that is a bit of a relief. I find myself becoming more nurturing and loving and i appreciate my nest a bit more, however, when i do have sex there are time when I simply never want to stop.

 

[goodguy2nondfuk]

I agree with your theory VN!

 

[virgin_not]

I agree with your theory VN!

thank you!

 

[LaughingHard]

I think it depends on the woman. As I approach 50, I do know this... As men age we get older, fatter and balder. As women age they get .... well,.... more desirable.

 

[Bacetti]

umm...increases. like 100 fold.

 

[AboutFace]

It really depends on the woman. I've always had a high sex drive - but now, at 41..... I don't think I could EVER say that I could get enough. Sex is fantastic and fun - and I seem to want it constantly.
I love being the age I am..... (now - if I could just find some way to attempt to fill the constant desire )

 

[curiousru]

40+ and it has increased tremendously. Can't seem to ever get enough! Who said getting older isn't fun?!

 

[LadyofMagic]

OMG.........mine definatley increased.....A LOT!

 

[PassionateLeo67]

I am a few months from hitting 40 and my sex drive has increased a lot too. With not having to worry about becoming pregnant, as well as working out a lot, taking good care of myself and having more time on my hands because my son is self sufficient for the most part, I have time to think about and enjoy sex more now than ever before.

For me, the answer is yes, definitely an increase around 40.

 

[hdlynnette]

Oh HELL yes!!

Turning 40 and having THE surgery made a new woman of me!

 

[Joey3308]

Oh HELL yes!!

Turning 40 and having THE surgery made a new woman of me!

Did I hear sex drive? I wanna drive....I wanna drive

 

[ima6uldv8]

It majorly increases Woo hoo!

 

[PassionatePatty]

Increased for me!

I know I have always had a strong libido, but nothing like when I hit my 40's. I feel sorry for the women who say that they could not wait to stop having sex when menopause hit! Well, I haven't gone through the change, but would be considered by my GYN as being peri-menopausal, and I LOVE this time of my life... and the opportunity to have a caring and nurturing partner to share it with!!!

 

[virgin_not]

So far from all these replies,more on increase than decrease! Woohoo http://www.myfilehut.com/userfiles/117222//smiley.gif

 

[Unstuck in Time]

Since I'm a man, please take my observations as just that - observations. I'm nearly 60 and my wife is 3 years older. I found forums like this in search of "anti-viagra" a few years ago because I wanted the urge for sex to go away after 30 plus years of the "sex wars" in which I asked, tried to seduce, tried to be romantic and mostly got turned down. After menopause (3 to 4 years ago), my wife's libido totally changed. Now she suggests it from time to time and enjoys it more than ever. The sad part for me is, I don't have "it" like when I was younger. It's like 2 ships passing in the night, the problem is, I'm sinking.

 

[nowgirl]

Do women in their 40's sex drive increase or decrease?

increase.

 

[nowgirl]

Since I'm a man, please take my observations as just that - observations. I'm nearly 60 and my wife is 3 years older. I found forums like this in search of "anti-viagra" a few years ago because I wanted the urge for sex to go away after 30 plus years of the "sex wars" in which I asked, tried to seduce, tried to be romantic and mostly got turned down. After menopause (3 to 4 years ago), my wife's libido totally changed. Now she suggests it from time to time and enjoys it more than ever. The sad part for me is, I don't have "it" like when I was younger.

It's like 2 ships passing in the night, the problem is, I'm sinking.

..........throws you a life preserver.....

 

[snake0067]

I hope its true I think women around that age are incredibly hot.

 

[Missingmeds]

Mine has been on a steady increase, of course that could be due to several factors such as getting older, going thru menopause, getting the divorce, finding the perfect fit in a lover, getting a better grip on who exactly I am.

I think that it is an individual thing for women. I also think that I hear alot of friends saying that their wives don't want to have sex anymore or it is down to once a month, or even less frequent.