do women find married men attractive?

[redman01]

Question for everyone. Does the wedding ring really attract women to men?

 

[lovetoread]

Question for everyone. Does the wedding ring really attract women to men?

Oh hell no.

 

[dolf]

 

[sweepthefloor]

There is some validity to this theory, but I don't have the rationale. A taken man might be alluring because it proves some kind of value.

This doesn't mean I would personally get involved with a taken man. I wouldn't want that karmic burden-- it's just a theory.

 

[pete]

you're on the right track, its the whole 'forbidden fruit' allure.

it's definitely not universal, though. wedding rings on men usually attract trampy types, not "good" girls

 

[Adre]

I don't wear a ring, so I dunno.

 

[sweepthefloor]

you're on the right track, its the whole 'forbidden fruit' allure.

it's definitely not universal, though. wedding rings on men usually attract trampy types, not "good" girls

Yes, it's not just the forbidden aspect.

It is not universal and I am not a 'good girl' but I still wouldn't want to be the thief of hearts, or the household wrecking ball.

I have a thought process that accepts polygamy but I guess this thread isn't about that, so I will keep my typing quiet.

 

[pete]

polygamy is a much more interesting sidebar than the original post, so let's explore that

there was a good reality show about polygamy on cable not long ago (showtime, maybe?) and it was really interesting. the dynamic between the groups was not completely surprising, yet still fascinating to watch

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

If you want a good man find one who's happily married.

 

[sweepthefloor]

polygamy is a much more interesting sidebar than the original post, so let's explore that

there was a good reality show about polygamy on cable not long ago (showtime, maybe?) and it was really interesting. the dynamic between the groups was not completely surprising, yet still fascinating to watch

I don't have cable but I have explored different cultures and views about the issue. I am fond of the middle-eastern practice of polygamy compared to the Mormon style. The rules are quite different.

The set up would suit me for various reasons.

 

[pete]

without having me spend the time to research the middle-eastern practice of polygamy compared to the mormon style, can you break it down for me in a nutshell?

 

[beetlebum]

i'm forbidden fruit? i like that

 

[Wings]

i'm forbidden fruit? i like that

Totally.

 

[MNGuy]

Okay, I just compared myself in the mirror with and without the wedding band.

Still ugly, either way.

 

[sweepthefloor]

without having me spend the time to research the middle-eastern practice of polygamy compared to the mormon style, can you break it down for me in a nutshell?

The main difference is that in the middle eastern style, when the rules are followed the man must maintain a separate but equal household for each wife. The maximum is four wives and he is responsible for emotional and financial equality. It's not harem style with all the wives and children under one roof.

 

[HoHoBomb]

Question for everyone. Does the wedding ring really attract women to men?

yes.

especially if it's not their first marriage

 

[pete]

The main difference is that in the middle eastern style, when the rules are followed the man must maintain a separate but equal household for each wife. The maximum is four wives and he is responsible for emotional and financial equality. It's not harem style with all the wives and children under one roof.

in the middle eastern model, do the wives talk? i guess they need to compare notes at some point to ensure the equality, i'm assuming.

wife #1: "hey did you see game of thrones last night?"
wife #2: "what?? bitch you got hbo?? all i have is basic cable!"
wife #3: "he took my flat screen away last week said he couldn't afford it. so sad"
wife #1: "oh yeah, he gave that to me for an extra beej per week. sorry."

 

[sweepthefloor]

in the middle eastern model, do the wives talk? i guess they need to compare notes at some point to ensure the equality, i'm assuming.

wife #1: "hey did you see game of thrones last night?"
wife #2: "what?? bitch you got hbo?? all i have is basic cable!"
wife #3: "he took my flat screen away last week said he couldn't afford it. so sad"
wife #1: "oh yeah, he gave that to me for an extra beej per week. sorry."

Haha thanks for my first real smile of the day.

 

[pete]

Haha thanks for my first real smile of the day.

hope it's not your last, babe

 

[sweepthefloor]

hope it's not your last, babe

me too.

 

[pink]

No, not really.

 

[doctor_insanus]

If it really worked, there wouldn't be a single man without a band.

 

[MNGuy]

Now flip it, do men find married women attractive?

I usually notice if a woman is attractive first, then check for the ring.

I imagine women would do the same.

 

[butters]

Question for everyone. Does the wedding ring really attract women to men?

a man can be attractive, but it doesn't matter how attractive they start out at - a wedding ring would put me off even contemplating going there. so, for me, a wedding ring makes a man completely unattractive as a potential partner.

i think there is an allure for some women, but they might be the ones seeking some kind of security/assurance/power even: if they can get a married man to play away from home it must mean (in their heads) they are more attractive, more sexy, have more to offer than the other woman. and then there are some who want that excitement and boost to their ego without wanting the guy to leave his wife - so the fun ego-stroke without any responsibility.

if i were a guy, i'd hope i'd not consider playing away and getting myself tied up with the kind of women who are too needy or emotionally irresponsible.

having said all that, when you fall, you fall, and everything else is secondary.

 

[doctor_insanus]

Now flip it, do men find married women attractive?

I usually notice if a woman is attractive first, then check for the ring.

I imagine women would do the same.

Most of the women I find attractive seem to be married.

It fucking sucks.